It’s been a while since I’ve had a reader question, so I am super excited to dive into today’s. This one’s about one of my favourite topics: SEX TOYS!
Our lovely reader asks:
“Hi Amy. I was wondering, what do I need to know when looking for cheap, body-safe sex toys, especially here in the UK?”
I love this question so much. First, Letter Writer and everyone else, please know this: it is simply NOT TRUE that affordable body-safe toys don’t exist. This is a complete myth, and it’s a harmful fiction that leads people on a restricted budget to buy unsafe toys under the mistaken notion that they can’t get anything better within their price-range.
You absolutely can. You categorically, 1000% can. And what’s more, you deserve high-quality, safe stuff that you can enjoy without worrying about your health.
So, what to look out for?
Firstly, it’s all about materials.
Good: Silicone. ABS Plastic. Glass (of the borosilicate or “Pyrex” variety.) Stainless steel. Aluminium. Ceramic, as long as it’s treated with a non-toxic glaze. Wood, as long as it’s treated with a non-toxic glaze or sealant.
Bad: TPR. TPE. Rubber. PVC. “Cyberskin” etc. “Sil-a-Gel.” Latex. Anything with “jelly” in the name.
Generally, metal, ceramic and wood toys will be more expensive, while silicone, ABS and glass are easy to find on a budget.
The materials I’ve listed as “good” are perfect because they’re non-toxic (no phthalates or other harmful ingredients,) don’t off-gas or leech chemicals, and are non-porous so they won’t harbour bacteria as long as you wash them thoroughly between every use.
Those I’ve listed as “bad” are variable. Please avoid anything with “jelly” in the name like the plague – these almost certainly contain phthalates, as does PVC. That’s how they get that squishy texture. “Cyberskin” and anything else that is sold as “realistic,” if it’s not silicone, is also to be avoided. TPE/TPR (thermoplastic elastomer/rubber) don’t usually contain phthalates, but are porous as fuck and may be softened with other nasty chemicals. Same goes for latex, which is also a super common allergen and there’s some evidence that prolonged exposure can cause or exacerbate sensitivity. “Sil-a-gel” isn’t even a real thing and it certainly isn’t in any way the same as silicone.
[Note: The ONE exception I’ll make for PVC is the Doxy Original, which uses medical-grade (and therefore phthalate-free) PVC for the head. They claim it’s non-porous and I’m inclined to believe them as they’re such a great, transparent and ethical company – and also my Doxy is still good as new after 2 years – but I haven’t seen any hard scientific evidence. If you’re cautious and want a Doxy, either always use a non-latex condom, or buy the Die Cast, which has a silicone head.]
If you want to read up more on the specifics of these materials and why they’re toxic, I recommend Dangerous Lilly’s brilliant guide.
Also worth adding is that if you don’t know what it’s made of, avoid it, and remember that the sex toy industry is pretty much unregulated – so just because a company claims something is body-safe, doesn’t mean that it is.
It’s NOT all about brands
A lot of the toys you’ll hear recommended come from big-name brands in the business: Doxy. Lelo. Tantus. We-vibe. Hitachi (less so this one in the UK.) These brands and many more are popular for good reason (though Lelo are kinda… ugh, these days,) so if you do ever spot their products on a mega-sale, you’ll most likely be getting something good quality.
But you don’t need big brands or loads of cash for great quality toys!
As with food, own-brand sex toys can be much cheaper but not compromise much on quality when compared to the big names.
Lovehoney and Bondara are two examples of companies who do some really solid own-brand stuff. Not everything in their lines are safe, unfortunately, but if you follow the materials guide above, you can’t go far wrong.
A quick note about retailers:
Tempting though it is, please please resist the urge to buy your toys from a retailer such as eBay or Amazon. There are loads of knock-offs around on all the major brand toys, some of them quite convincing, so there’s no way to know for sure if you’re getting a genuine product. Dangerous Lilly (she’s amazing!) has written more extensively on this.
I personally really advocate for Lovehoney, because their returns policy is stellar and they really care about their customers. Full disclosure: they are an affiliate partner of mine and if you buy through them with one of my links, I may make a small commission. However, my first concern is always my readers’ happiness and safety, I will never recommend an unsafe toy, and I only partner with companies I strongly believe in.
Some Concrete Suggestions
I thought I’d put together a list of options for various tastes that are body-safe, under £30, and easily available in the UK.
In the interests of full disclosure, Lovehoney links are affiliate links. Other links are not. If you buy from Lovehoney, whether one of the listed items or something else, use code COFFKINK10 to get 10% off your order.
- Lovehoney Magic Bullet 10-function silver bullet vibe, £10
- Lovehoney Flash 7-fuction clitoral vibe, £12.50
- Tracey Cox Supersex bullet vibe, £12.99
- Tracey Cox Supersex 7 function rechargeable bullet, £24.99
- Fun Factory Jam mini clitoral vibe, £24.99
- Rocks Of RO-120mm 10-function bullet vibe with G-spot sleeve, £24.99
- Tracey Cox Supersex Rabbit Ears clitoral vibe, £29.99
- Sleek & Powerful slender G-spot vibe, £14.99
- Lovehoney Power Play slimline G-spot vibe, £18.99
- Lovehoney Power Play 7-function G-spot vibe, £22.99
- Entice Grace Extra Quiet silicone G-spot vibe, £29.99
- The Shoot silicone Rabbit, £12.99
- Passion Plus 30-function silicone Rabbit, £17.99
- Bondara Curvaceous silicone 10-function Rabbit, £17.49
- Velvet Touch 30-function silicone Rabbit, £19.99
- VeDO Joy silicone G-spot Rabbit, £29.99
- Bondara Get Boned pure silicone dildo, £8.99
- Lovehoney Curved silicone dildo with suction cup, 5.5inch, £16.99
- Lovehoney Satisfy Me silicone G-spot dildo, £18.99
- Lovehoney Curved silicone dildo with suction cup, 7inch, £22.99
- Godemiche Pearlescent Ambit (select “standard” base option,) £30
- Tantus Acute silicone dildo, £34.99 (I’ve broken the £30 rule slightly here because Tantus are just so wonderful, if you can stretch the budget slightly.)
Dildos (other safe materials)
- Bondara Clear curved G-spot glass rabbit dildo, 8inch, £19.99
- Lovehoney Realistic textured glass dildo, £24.99
- Glas Mr Swirly textured glass dildo, 8inch, £26.99
- Next Pleasure Ceramic Dildo 1, £30
- Lovehoney Classic silicone extra petite butt plug, £9.99
- Lovehoney Classic silicone slimline medium butt plug, £10
- Lovehoney Amethyst sensual glass butt plug, £19.99
- So Divine Sweet Sensation butt plug with crystal, £19.99
- LuxGem medium metal butt plug with heart crystal, £24.99
- Fun Factory B Ball silicone butt plug with jiggle ball, £29.99
This list is by no means exhaustive or even really scratching the surface. These are just a few of the categories of toys available and just a very small handful of the options out there. Go forth and get your sexy on, lovely Letter Writer, and I hope this was helpful to you and anyone else shopping for safe toys on a budget.
Remember: we all deserve pleasure, and we all deserve SAFE toys, no matter what our financial situation.
Remember: I’ll answer your question on the blog, too! Just email coffeeandkink69 (at) gmail (dot) com and I’ll help if I can.
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