[Toy Review] BMS Addiction Steven Realistic Dildo

As many of you know by now, I’m a big proponent of making quality sex toys more affordable. There are still too many poorly made, poor quality toys on the market, many of which are made from harmful and toxic materials. That’s why I was excited to try the BMS Steven, part of the new Addiction realistic dildo range.

Silicone realistic dildo from BMS

Over the coming weeks, I’ll also be reviewing the Edward and the Luke from the same range in partnership with The Pleasure Garden, a delightful woman-owned and inclusive online sex shop.

Meet Steven: Materials and Design

Addiction by BMS is a new range of realistic dildos made from 100% silicone. Unlike the TPE, TPR, jelly, and mystery materials that make up many cheap realistic sex toys, silicone is non-porous, non-toxic, and completely body-safe.

The silicone used for this toy is particularly matte and very flexible. I have to admit, when I first took it out of the packaging, part of me was questioning whether it was really pure silicone at all. It feels very different to any silicone toy I’ve encountered before. I flame-tested it to be sure (don’t try this at home!) and luckily it passed, so you can rest assured it’s definitely silicone. The things I do in the name of sex journalism!

Realistic dildo from BMS - Steven lifelike sex toy

If you’ve used TPE/TPR toys and enjoyed the texture, this would be a good upgrade. You’ll get much of the same squishiness and flexibility, only in a non-porous toy. If you prefer very soft, silky or smooth silicone, this toy might not be for you.

It also attract lint (and, in my house, cat hair) like whoa. Always give it a wipe down or a quick wash before use.

The Steven is a straight realistic dildo with impressive detailing including lifelike veins on the shaft, a contoured head, and textured balls. It measures 7.4″ (19cm) in total length, of which around 5″ are insertable, and measures 1.5″ (3.8cm) in diameter at the widest point.

BMS Steven bullet vibe and realistic sex toy

It also comes with a suction cup base, and with an accompanying single-speed miniature bullet vibe (which requires 3 LR44 watch batteries, included.) There isn’t a slot to insert the vibe into the toy, so it needs to be held and operated separately.

In Use

I found the BMS Addiction Steven easy and comfortable to insert and use. Its flexible shaft means you can angle it in exactly the way that works for you as you insert it. Because the silicone is so grabby, I recommend using a LOT of lube. I used Promescent aloe lube because it happened to be the nearest bottle to the bed at the time, but any water-based lube will work.

Personally, I don’t love the shape of the Steven. I much prefer curved toys for internal stimulation. Straight toys like this one tend to poke my cervix (ow) more easily than they hit my G-spot.

I also found it quite hard to angle the Steven once it was inserted as it’s so flexible. I like my toys to have some flex (erm, there are exceptions) but there’s such a thing as too much of a good thing. The Steven was too bendy and not firm enough for me.

Of course, bodies are all different! This isn’t a judgement on the toy’s quality, just on how well it worked for me. If you prefer straight shaped toys or lots of flex, it might be the perfect match for you.

Mini bullet vibrator

The accompanying vibe is, I’m sorry to say, a complete waste of time if you like anything other than fairly weak and VERY buzzy stimulation. It only has one speed and offers that infuriating, numbing, surface-level vibration that puts many clitoris-owners off vibes entirely. I don’t really know why the manufacturer felt the need to include it, especially now you can get powerful bullet vibrators at affordable prices.

FAQs

Can I use the Steven realistic dildo in the bath or shower?

Yes. 100% silicone toys without motors are completely safe to use in water. Remember: you still need to use lube! Oil-based lube is great for playing in water. The accompanying bullet vibe isn’t waterproof.

What’s the point of a suction cup?

Suction cups allow you to fix your toy to a solid surface (like a wall, mirror, floor, or the bathroom tiles) and use it hands-free. The Steven’s suction cup is impressively strong and stays put very nicely, even during vigorous use.

Is the Steven harness-compatible?

Yes… kind of. The suction cup base means you can use the Steven realistic dildo in most strap-on harnesses. It wouldn’t be my first choice for harness play, because the suction cup is quite flimsy and the toy is flexible enough that getting the right angle while thrusting could be difficult. But yes, you certainly can if you want to.

Is the Steven anal-safe?

Yep. The balls and suction cup create a large enough base to make the Steven A-okay for anal play.

How do I clean by silicone dildo?

Your best bet is to throw it in a large pan of boiling water for a few minutes. Failing that, use a 10% bleach solution and rinse thoroughly, or use a sterile medical wipe followed by gentle soap and warm water.

Verdict

Ultimately, my verdict on this one is landing on “perfectly fine but not a great fit for me.” The BMS Addiction Steven is an affordably priced and body-safe realistic dildo, and I’m really glad it exists. Any toys that steer beginners or those on a budget towards body-safe choices can only be a good thing.

The shape and level of flex didn’t really work for my body, but that doesn’t mean the Steven couldn’t be a great fit for yours!

The Steven retails for £24.88 from The Pleasure Garden.

Thanks to The Pleasure Garden for sending me this toy to review. All views are my own. If you use the affiliate links within this post, I make a small commission at no extra cost to you.

[Lingerie Review] Tyes By Tara Bombshell Bratye

Sometimes the simplest things are the sexiest! And the brand’s elegant simplicity is one of the things I love about Tyes By Tara, a woman-owned company in the US selling a wide range of wearables, accessories, and other fun femme things. Today I’m trying out the Bombshell Bratye, part of the Bratyes range of cage bras.

My order from Tyes By Tara arrived beautifully packaged. The items were wrapped in pink tissue paper and tied with ribbons, and came with a handwritten card from my contact and some additional information about the company. This level of customer care and attention to detail is great to see.

What is a Bratye?

Bratyes are open cage style bras (or harnesses, if you prefer) that accentuate the wearer’s breasts without covering anything up. They are made of elastic, lace, or chain, depending on the design.

I received the Bombshell Bratye. This bra is made of soft, elasticated straps and is available in either black or white. The straps frame the breasts and the centre point is adorned with a pretty black satin bow.

Tyes By Tara Bombshell Bratye cage bra

It closes behind the neck in a halter style with a clasp, and at the back with a simple hook-on fastening.

Aesthetic and How to Wear

The Bombshell Bratye is wonderfully versatile. You could wear it over a tight dress or top for a risque twist to your night out look, add it to your favourite lingerie set, or even wear it by itself.

Woman with G-cup boobs wearing a chest harness Bombshell Bratye
Woman wearing cage bra over white lace lingerie bridal lingerie
Lingerie is Beau by Lovehoney

I also tried it with some nipple pasties I had in my collection (no, I’m not sharing that picture!) You could also complete the look with a set of Pastyes. Pair it with some kitten ears for pet-play, add matching cuffs and a collar for a submissive look, or slip it on over latex or a catsuit for a Domme vibe. The possibilities are endless.

To me, the look is soft-bondage influenced while still being feminine. The bow softens the harness aesthetic, giving you a kink-inspired yet flirty and fun look.

Sizing and Fit

Bratyes are one-size-fits-most and are adjustable. The back strap features a simple slider adjustment, and the neck clasp features nine different loops for maximum adjustability. The elastic is also very stretchy.

Exact sizing info (i.e. minimum and maximum sizes) isn’t listed on the website. I’ve fed this back and suggested it, as I’m sure this would be useful to lots of you. To give you an idea, my current bra band size is 34″ and the Bombshell Bratye could easily go much bigger or smaller than this.

Since this bra/harness is open-cup, I did not run across the predictable “my boobs don’t fit” issue that comes with trying to wear one-size lingerie when you have G-cups. The stretchy elastic straps were more than adequate to frame my breasts. The beauty of this sort of design is that it’ll work for just about any chest size, whether you’re an AA or a GG.

Naturally, this style of bra doesn’t offer much in the way of support. But that’s not really the point of it! It doesn’t have any wires and, thanks to the softness of the elastic, is comfortable to wear.

Final Thoughts

When I looked at the Bratyes on the website, I was a little unsure. I loved the aesthetic but really didn’t think they’d fit me (or work on someone with boobs the size of mine.)

I’m very happy to be proven wrong, because the Bombshell Bratye is gorgeous. For me, it’s just the right combination of femme and kinky, as well as being well-made and comfy!

A super-sexy and versatile piece I’m sure I will wear again and again. Tyes By Tara have knocked it out of the park yet again.

The Bombshell Bratye retails for $28 (about £21) and you can get 10% off this or any other order at Tyes By Tara by using my discount code, “coffeeandkink”.

Thanks to Tyes By Tara for sending me the Bombshell Bratye to review. All views are, as ever, mine. This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them or use my code, I’ll make a small commission at no extra cost to you.

[Wearable Review] Tyes By Tara Sex Kitten Tyera

I’m delighted to be reviewing more Tyes By Tara products this week. This award-winning, woman-owned brand makes beautiful accessories, adornments, and other wearables that are both cute and sexy. I received the Sex Kitten Tyera to try.

Sex Kitten Tyera

The Sex Kitten cat ears headband is part of the Tyera (tiara – get it?) headwear collection. It’s a headband featuring a pair of black kitty ears.

Sex Kitten Tyera by Tyes by Tara

The headband itself is made of a rigid but flexible material (I’m assuming plastic) and is coated in black fuzzy material that looks, well, a little like a cat’s fur! Each ear is adorned with a little black satin bow.

I was initially worried that the black fuzz would shed but, after several outings, I’m pleased to report it looks and feels good as new.

Aesthetic

You know when you wear an item of clothing or an accessory that just feels perfectly “you”? That’s how I feel when I put the Sex Kitten Tyera on!

Black cat ears headband, Sex Kitten Tyera cat ears tiara

Cat ears have been part of my signature look for years, and they’re one of the main things (along with the purple hair) that people remember me for when I meet them at events. I’ve tried many different cat ears headbands and some clip-on cat ears over the years, some of which I’ve liked more than others.

The Sex Kitten Tyera is the perfect balance of playful and sexy. The little bows give it an adorable femme twist. By the way: they also go beautifully with pieces from the Bratyes line, one of which I’m reviewing later this week, or with the Vixen Tyecuffs for a kinky edge.

I’m not much of a pet-player myself, though the idea does somewhat appeal to me. But if being a human pet is your thing, these ears are the perfect accessory to tap into your inner kitty. When I slip them on, I just want to go out on the prowl…

Comfort & Wearability

As someone who is prone to headaches, comfort is of paramount importance for anything I wear on my head.

Woman with purple hair and cat ears accessory

I have a lovely pair of glittery ears that I bought in San Francisco, but the headband is metal so I can’t wear them for too long or they start to cause me pain.

Fortunately, the Sex Kitten Tyera is super comfortable. The band is flexible enough that it will fit most people, and it doesn’t dig into the side of your head. I’ve happily worn it all evening long on several occasions without pain or discomfort.

Verdict

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Whether I’m feeling high femme or femme fatale, playful kitten or fierce feline, or these ears are a fun way to accessorise an outfit for a night out (or in!) I love them!

The Sex Kitten Tyera retails for $20 (that’s around £16) and you can get 10% off your entire order when you use my code “coffeeandkink” at checkout.

Purrrrrrrfect!

Thanks to Tyes By Tara for sending me the Sex Kitten Tyera. All views are, as ever, mine. This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I’ll make a small commission at no extra cost to you.

[Lingerie Review] Lovehoney Peony Lilac Sheer Mesh and Lace Crotchless Body

I love purple and its variations, and I love femme things. Is it any wonder, then, that I spotted the Peony range at Lovehoney and knew I needed to try it? The range is available in both black and lilac. I received the Peony Sheer Mesh and Lace Crotchless Body in lilac.

Peony Crotchless Body: First Impressions and Aesthetic

The Peony Sheer Mesh and Lace Crotchless Body is actually really a cross between a bodysuit and a babydoll. It’s an all-in-one garment made of pretty floral lace and sheer mesh with spot detail.

Woman with purple hair in Peony bodysuit from Lovehoney

When I took it out of the packaging, I was immediately impressed with the softness of the materials. Lovehoney lingerie tends to offer a good combination of affordable prices and quality materials, which I love.

The top part is a halterneck bodysuit with a deep neckline, plunging to the elasticated waistband which is adorned by a bow in the same organza as the halterneck and back tie. The half-covered crotch gives way to adjustable straps which sit at the point where butt meets upper thighs. A flyaway half skirt finishes the look.

Lilac lace plus-size lingerie one-size lingerie bodysuit

The Peony Crotchless Body in lilac is a classically feminine look. My inner femme loves it! If you like the shape but pastels aren’t for you, the black version is sexy in a different way.

Comfort, Fit, and Boob Coverage

The Peony Crotchless Body comes in two sizes: one size standard (for UK sizes 8-16) and one size plus (for UK sizes 18-24.) Because it’s adjustable, this piece is fairly flexible in terms of sizing. You can tie the halterneck and back tie as tightly or loosely as you need. The leg straps are also adjustable.

Woman wearing bodysuit in purple lace from Lovehoney Peony

I’m about a size 12 and I found the Peony Crotchless Body to be a comfortable fit in most areas. The one downside is the boob coverage. I’m not sure if it’s due to the halterneck design or tie fastenings, but I found that this piece offers significantly less coverage than some of the more traditional bodysuit items in my collection.

The Peony Crotchless Body contains my G-cups somewhat when I’m standing upright, but as soon as I lie down (or more around too much) they haven’t got a prayer.

I like the piece enough that I’ll probably still wear it occasionally anyway, but you should be aware of this. I’d speculate that anyone larger than about a D-cup might have this issue.

Lace babydoll from Peony range

The Peony Crotchless Body is non-wired. That and the soft fabric makes it comfortable and enjoyable to wear.

Final Thoughts

A mixed verdict on this one. It’s pretty and fun in that flirty, feminine way I enjoy. It’s soft, comfortable, and fairly easy to take on and off. But the boob coverage (or lack thereof) was a significant downside for me.

Gorgeous, but maybe better suited to those with smaller chests than me.

The Peony Crotchless Body from Lovehoney retails for £29.99. Don’t forget to use code coffkink10 at checkout for 10% off your entire order!

Thanks to Lovehoney for sending me the Peony Crotchless Body to review. All opinions are mine, as ever. If you use my affiliate links or code, I make a small commission that helps keep the blog running.

[Lingerie Review] Lovehoney Moonflower Emerald Green Lace Strappy Body

I first spotted this piece when my partner sent me a link to this Instagram post. As soon as I saw the Moonflower Lace Strappy Body in emerald green from Lovehoney, I knew I had to own it! Happily, my friends at Lovehoney HQ were able to hook me up.

How did I get on with it in reality?

Moonflower Emerald Green Lace Strappy Body: Aesthetic

This one-piece bodysuit is made of lace and mesh in a gorgeous, vibrant shade of green. It is wire-free and features a plunging V-neck and criss-cross detailing at the front and back. It is nipped in at the waist with a broad ribbon accent, and features a popper opening at the crotch.

Moonflower emerald green bodysuit from Lovehoney

I really love how this piece looks. The colour is beautiful and unusual, making a change from the more common blacks, reds, and pinks of the lingerie world. The delicate floral lace is lovely, and the strappy detailing at the back is super sexy.

Bodysuit bra straps on the Lovehoney Moonflower body

I love this type of shape on my body. I think my hourglass waist is pretty much my best feature, and this style shows that off. A plunging neckline will always be sexy, and the criss-cross straps across the cleavage add an eye-drawing touch.

Sex-appeal wise, this one scores top marks from me.

Fit and Comfort

I gravitate towards non-wired lingerie for two reasons: it’s far more comfortable (you will not convince me that anyone finds being poked in the ribs with a wire pleasant!) and it’s far more likely to actually fit me.

The Moonflower Lace Strappy Body is a one-size piece, which you’ll know by now I don’t love as a concept. People come in such a variety of shapes and sizes that the idea of “one size” is a little absurd to me. The Moonflower Lace Strappy Body is supposed to fit sizes 8-16. There’s also a plus-size version for sizes 18-24. (Side note: Lovehoney are killing it with their plus-size lingerie offerings at the moment!)

Curvy woman with big natural boobs wearing lace bodysuit plus-size lingerie

I’m currently a size 12-ish and I found the Moonflower Lace Strappy Body to be a pretty good fit. The fabric and waistband are somewhat stretchy, and both the shoulder straps and waistband can be adjusted using the sliders.

As is often the case with standard lingerie sizing, this piece only “sort of” contains my G-cup boobs. When I’m standing up or lying on my back, it’s fine, but as soon as I lie on my side or raise my hands above my head, they pop out. Not a big problem, but something to be aware of if you’re well endowed in the chest department.

Flattering bodysuit from Lovehoney Moonflower standard and plus-size lingerie ranges

The Moonflower Lace Strappy Body is made of super soft fabric that feels lovely to wear. This isn’t cheap, scratchy lace. It feels sensual and luxurious against the skin.

Verdict

The Moonflower Lace Strappy Body is a winner! It’s very hard to get one-size lingerie right, and inevitably it won’t work for all bodies. But overall this piece is pretty, sensual, comfortable, and flattering. Yes, yes, and yes!

Curvy woman with G-cup boobs in lacy bodysuit

I feel gorgeously femme in this piece and I can’t wait to show it off at a sexy party when we can go to those again.

The Moonflower Lace Strappy Body retails for £32.99. Don’t forget you can get 10% off this item and any other purchase at Lovehoney using my code coffkink10 at checkout.

Thanks to Lovehoney for sending me this item to review. All options are, as always, mine. Affiliate links appear in this post.

[Toy Review] Lovehoney Jewelled Metal Butt Plug

Sex In Full Colour in honour of Pride month continues! This month I’ve partnered with Lovehoney to bring you some reviews of some beautiful, bright and colourful pieces to help you bring the rainbow into your bedroom. Let’s take a closer look at the super-sparkly Jewelled Metal Butt Plug.

Bedazzle Your Booty with the Jewelled Metal Butt Plug

The Jewelled Metal Butt Plug from Lovehoney is 3.5″ in total length, of which 3″ is insertable length. It is made of a shiny metal that is silver in colour and reflective (more on the material in a minute.) It weighs in at a hefty 240g and measures 1.4″ in diameter at the widest point.

Sparkly jewelled butt plug from Lovehoney

This jewelled plug is adorned in the base with a sparkly gem that catches the light and shines with different colours. The most prominent colours are green, yellow-gold, and blue. In fact, the effect is similar to the surface of the Irridescent Anal Beads I tried last week. It’s striking and beautiful.

The Jewelled Metal Butt Plug is suitable for use in water.

Tell Me More About this Metal?

The Jewelled Metal Butt Plug from Lovehoney is made from a zinc alloy. This isn’t actually listed on the site (it’s just listed as generic “metal”) but is mentioned in the small print on the box.

Metal butt plug metal sex toy

Is zinc alloy body safe? All my research seems to indicate yes, with caveats. “Zinc alloy” means the zinc is mixed with something else, but we don’t know what. Copper and nickel are the most common zinc alloys so, while copper is unlikely to be problematic for most people, nickel can be an issue if you’re sensitive to it.

Zinc alloy is non-porous and non-toxic unless you’re allergic, but won’t have the long-term durability of stainless steel. So don’t expect it to last you a lifetime. The advantage of zinc over stainless steel is that it’s far, far cheaper.

Zinc alloy plugs are easy to clean. I wouldn’t boil sterilise this toy because I’m not sure how the jewel is held in place or if it can withstand high temperatures. It’s best to clean it using a 10% bleach solution (9 parts water to 1 part bleach) and then rinse and dry it thoroughly.

Enough With the Science, How Does it Feel?

The Jewelled Metal Butt Plug slides inside comfortably with plenty of water-based anal lube. The tapered tip and curved, smooth sides make it a breeze to insert, and the narrow neck ensures it stays in place. Unlike some metal plugs I’ve tried, I didn’t feel as though it was about to slip out at any second.

Butt plug base with sparkly jewel

Metal sex toys are particularly fun because they feel super intense. The hard, unyielding material constantly reminds you of its presence every time you move, which can be really sexy. You also really feel the weight of it.

The other fun thing about metal toys is the temperature play potential. The Jewelled Metal Butt Plug retains heat and cold. Put it in the fridge or run it under warm water before use for extra sensations.

Due to the rigidity, I wouldn’t say this is a plug for long-term wear for most people. I found the edges of the base started to be painful against my butt cheeks after a while! For me, this is a “wear for a short time in the bedroom” plug, not a “wear all day” plug.

Final Thoughts

If you’re looking for an affordable metal plug and not expecting it to last you forever, the Jewelled Metal Butt Plug is a great pick. It retails for an affordable £24.99 and will be safe for most people (again, exercise caution if you have a nickel allergy.)

The sparkly jewel in the base is a fun and striking addition if pretty colours and shiny things make you happy. It’s not the smallest, so probably best for anal players with some experience.

Don’t forget to use code “coffkink10” at checkout for 10% off your entire Lovehoney order!

Thanks to Lovehoney for sending me this product to review. All views, as always, are mine. Affiliate links appear in this post!

[Toy Review] Lovehoney Sensual Glass Irridescent Anal Beads

It’s Sex In Full Colour month at Lovehoney in celebration of LGBTQ+ Pride month. So during June, I’m going to be bringing you a series of reviews of fun, playful products to bring a little additional colour and sparkle to your sex life.

Today’s review is also a first for me, as I’ve never reviewed a set of anal beads before. In fact, I’ve never even tried anal beads before! Read on to find out how I got on when the Lovehoney Sensual Glass Irridescent Anal Beads landed in my review pile.

Dare to Gleam…

The Irridescent Anal Beads from Lovehoney are made of borosilicate glass (the same stuff that Pyrex cookware is made from.) Borosilicate is hard-wearing, body-safe, and easy to clean.

Irridescent Glass Anal Beads from Lovehoney

Measuring a total of 7.5″ in length, this set of beads offers 6″ of insertable length and a convenient loop handle. The toy’s seven beads are very gently graduated in size, getting a little larger as you move from tip to handle, and the whole shaft is slightly curved.

The glass shimmers in different colours as you move it and it catches the light. The pink, yellow-gold, and blue shades are eyecatching and unusual. The product description refers to the design as “oilslick” and yes, it really does look like spilled oil in sunlight. It’s almost impossible to capture the full effect on camera (at least with my level of photography skills) but this toy is so, so beautiful.

Comfort and Experience

So I was a little nervous about trying the Irridescent Anal Beads. Glass toys tend to be intense anyway because they’re so rigid and unyielding, and glass anal toys particularly so. But the rounded tip and smooth glass made them a breeze to insert and super comfortable to use.

Glass Irridescent Anal Beads

The great thing about anal beads is that you can insert them as much or as little as feels good for you. I found that the entire length was a bit too much to be pleasurable, but going to the fourth or fifth bead was perfect. Your mileage may vary, of course.

The loop handle makes these beads ergonomic and easy to use and manipulate, however far you want to insert them.

Whatever you do, remember to use tonnes of lube. Sliquid Sassy is my anal lube of choice but any thick, body-friendly lubricant will work with a glass toy.

Some Fun Ways to Use Anal Beads

As with any sex toy, the only “correct” way to use anal beads is the way that is safe and feels pleasurable to you. The first time you play with them, I suggest just inserting them and seeing how they feel. You can wiggle them around to get some additional stimulation, which I hear is particularly good if you’re someone who has a prostate.

With that said, here are a couple of other fun and creative ways to play with anal beads:

Play with temperature

Run your Irridescent Anal Beads under some warm water or put them in the fridge for a few minutes before you play. Glass retains temperature, so you’ll be able to enjoy a warming or cooling sensation.

Pull them out at the point of orgasm

This is the main reason many people swear by anal beads. If you pull them out just as you reach orgasm, they can intensify the contractions and give you a more powerful or longer-lasting climax. This won’t work for everyone, of course, but give it a go if you’re curious!

Verdict

I’m a convert! These glass anal beads are ideal if you’re experimenting with anal play for the first time and looking for an easy, safe toy. They’re also ideal if you’ve tried silicone or other soft anal beads and are looking for something a little more intense.

The Lovehoney Sensual Glass Irridescent Anal Beads retail for a bargain £32.99. You can a discount on your entire order with the code “coffkink10” at checkout.

Thanks as ever to Lovehoney for sending me this toy to review. All views, as always, are mine.

[Toy Review] Pillow Talk Cheeky Wireless Wand Vibrator

I fell in love with Pillow Talk when I reviewed the Sassy a few months back. So, when I got the chance to try out another of their range, I was only too happy to oblige. Even more exciting: it’s a wand, and we all know how I feel about those!

Once again, this product was sent to me for review by the lovely team at Self & More, a boutique woman-owned sex shop based in the UK.

Let’s take a closer look at the Pillow Talk Cheeky.

Pillow Talk Cheeky: Basic Info

The Pillow Talk Cheeky is a wireless wand style vibrator, 8″ in length. In the box you’ll find the toy, charging cable, a branded storage pouch, instructions, and even a little cleaning brush to help you keep your toy in tip-top condition. How cool is that?

Pillow Talk Cheeky magic wand vibrator

The Cheeky comes in a gorgeous turquoise/teal green colour, which is one of my favourite colours in general. I particularly love it for sex toys because it’s just so unusual (and pretty!) The Cheeky is also available in pink, if that’s more your thing.

The Pillow Talk Cheeky is 100% water resistant. It is rechargeable via the included USB cable. By the way, since I got a bit confused: remove the little green or pink piece in the base of the handle to reveal the charging port. It also comes with a travel lock, for those times when we can eventually travel again… (*sighs longingly*)

That Motor Tho…

I was expecting great things from the Pillow Talk Cheeky, given that amazing motor in the Sassy. I was not disappointed! The power starts off at an impressive rumble and builds to knock-your-socks-off intensity. I don’t really have much more to say on this subject – it is simply epic!

User Experience & Interface

The Pillow Talk Cheeky utilises a single button interface. The button, by the way, is a light-catching Swarovski crystal – super cute for a #SparkleFemme like myself.

Green wand vibrator Pillow Talk Cheeky

The controls on this toy are a little unusual. You press the button once to switch it on and off, and then hold it down to ramp up the power. I actually like this, because it allows for really fine grading on exactly what level of power you want. Getting from the lowest to the highest setting takes a full ten seconds, to give you an idea of how much range this thing has!

The light will flash while you’re turning up the power, then stop flashing when you’ve reached the highest level.

The Cheeky is lovely to hold thanks to the plushy soft silicone and gently cushioned handle. The neck is flexible, making it easy to angle the toy just right, however you prefer your stimulation. It’s also relatively light, and the vibrations are concentrated in the head and don’t transmit too much through the handle.

Green magic wand vibrator clitoral sex toy

So are there any downsides to the Pillow Talk Cheeky? Honestly, the only one I can find is the battery life. I charged it fully and it lasted less than an hour. This isn’t actually a massive problem in the context of a toy that typically gets me off in less than 5 minutes, but it’s something to be aware of if you take longer to come or like to go several times in one session!

Verdict

The Pillow Talk Cheeky is a big winner. Powerful, ergonomic, and cute into the bargain! I love it and I’ve already found myself reaching for it regularly. It’s an ideal toy when I want the broad and powerful stimulation of a wand, but don’t have the energy to hold a full-size one.

The Pillow Talk Cheeky retails for £50.00. See below for a discount code!

Thanks to Self & More for sending me the Pillow Talk Cheeky to review. All opinions, as ever, are mine. Shopping with Self & More using my links sends a small commission my way and if you use my code, you can enjoy 10% off your entire order.

Self & More banner for sex shop discount code

[Kink Product Review] Dominix Deluxe Lockable Chastity Belt

If you’ve been reading my blog for more than five minutes, you probably know that I have an orgasm control kink a mile wide. This manifests in lots of ways – edging, denial, forced orgasms occasionally and, yes, chastity.

Chastity belts for folks with vulvas (often called “female chastity belts”, but let’s not gender things unnecessarily!) are tricky to get right. They’re either wildly impractical, wildly expensive, or often both. Unlike the cock cages for penis owners that you can buy from almost any sex shop, they’re considered far more niche kink items.

Lovehoney were kind enough to send me the Dominix Deluxe Studded Leather Lockable Chastity Belt (to give it its full title) for review. How did I get on?

A Closer Look at the Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt

The Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt is made of real leather. I’ve spoken before about my uneasy relationship with leather – my kink brain loves it, but my ethical vegetarian brain feels conflicted. You must make your own decisions about how comfortable you feel buying, wearing, and using leather kink gear.

Lovehoney Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt

The Lockable Chastity Belt has a wider panel at the front, which covers most of the vulva, and then thinner straps between the legs and around the back. It is decorated with metal studs on the front, and features three metal buckles, each with a mini padlock. Each padlock comes with two keys. As far as we can tell, the padlocks and keys are interchangeable.

How Comfortable Is It?

The Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt is fairly comfortable once it’s been worn in. The leather is a little stiff at first but it softens up as you wear and handle it. I found that wearing it around the house over my clothing helped to speed up the leather softening.

Some other reviewers have complained about the leather digging into their inner thighs, but I didn’t really find that to be a problem. It might just be a personal thing depending on how it sits on your body.

Lockable chastity belt female chastity belt from Lovehoney

The Lockable Chastity Belt is very adjustable, with ten holes for each buckle. I’m a UK size 12 at the moment and it fits me with plenty of room to spare. According to the product page, the waist adjusts from 26 to 46 inches and the crotch strap adjusts from 14 to 23 inches.

How Secure Is It?

Welllll…. it depends what you mean by “secure.”

The padlocks are pretty flimsy. The wearer could probably break them fairly easily if they were so inclined. But given that the point of being locked in chastity is (presumably) because the wearer wants to be locked in chastity, I don’t really see why they would. If you want to make the belt more secure, you could easily swap out the provided padlocks with larger and more robust ones.

When I’m wearing the Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt, even when it’s fastened pretty tight, I can still get to my vulva… kind of. I can get at least a couple of fingers under the leather. So it doesn’t completely prevent all contact, but it makes it hard to impossible to touch myself in the way that would actually get me off.

Incidentally, the leather is pretty thin and I think I could probably press a wand vibrator to the front and still reach orgasm. So yes, if you want absolute security against any and all stimulation, this probably isn’t the belt for you.

How Practical Is It?

Honestly not very at all, but I think that’s a symptom of the reality of chastity belts for vulva owners rather than anything wrong with this particular product.

When I read erotica about chastity (which, erm, I do quite a lot) the belts tend to be super high tech and allow for all-day wear as well as using the bathroom… and somehow stay hygienic. I’m going to chalk this up to an unrealistic fantasy that doesn’t currently exist. I bave never seen a chastity belt for vulva owners that could even remotely be described as practical. If someone has created one, please let me know!

So no, you (probably) can’t wear the Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt all day and you (probably) can’t sleep in it or anything like that. Incidentally, since leather is porous, this piece should also be fluid-bonded to one person once it’s been worn without clothing underneath.

How Sexy Is It?

The aesthetic of the Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt is a classic black leather BDSM look. It’s pretty sexy in its simplicity and I do like how it looks when I’m wearing it. I think it’d be fun to wear out to a kink club when we can go to those again.

Chastity play, like so much of BDSM, is at least as much about the mindset and headspace as it is about the physical acts. I’ve been doing denial/chastity play with lovers for years and have never really used a physical device until this one arrived.

The fun for me isn’t so much in the device itself, but in what it represents. Even though it doesn’t actually completely prevent me from touching myself, and probably wouldn’t completely prevent me from reaching orgasm, the physical barrier serves as a reminder that while I’m wearing it, my pleasure belongs to somebody else.

And that is sexy as hell.

Final Verdict

My verdict here really depends what you’re looking for. If you’re looking for a genuinely secure chastity device that stops all stimulation, this isn’t it. But if you’re looking for a fun and relatively comfortable piece for scene play, kink club outings, or short-term fun, then this is a great buy.

The Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt retails for £39.99 from Lovehoney. Use my code coffkink10 to get 10% off at checkout!

Thanks to Lovehoney for sending me the Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt for review. Pics courtesy of Lovehoney because I am way too shy to post pics of myself actually wearing a chastity belt! All views, as always, are mine. Shopping with my affiliates sends me a small commission which supports the blog!

[Kink Product Review] Lovehoney Supreme Sensation Pussy Pump

Alongside my regular sex toy reviews and lingerie reviews, I thought it would be fun to review a few more niche and unusual kink items. I’ve been wanting to try a pussy pump for ages, and the lovely folks at Lovehoney were kind enough to hook me up.

So what happened when I tried the Lovehoney Supreme Sensation Pussy Pump?

What is a Pussy Pump?

A pussy pump features a cup or “chamber,” usually made of plastic, which sits over the vulva and creates a vacuum. When you use the attached pump, it pulls the air out and the seal gets tighter. The suction pulls blood into your vulva, giving it an engorged appearance and making everything much more sensitive. If you’re familiar with skin cupping, it’s basically the same mechanism.

Lovehoney Pussy Pump

The Lovehoney Supreme Sensation Pussy Pump is a reworking of their classic design. The clear plastic chamber is 4″ in length, which is sufficient to encase the clitoris, vaginal opening, and much of the vulva on most bodies. The hose is 19″ long and the finishes with the hand-held purple pumping bulb.

Supreme Sensation Pussy Pump from Lovehoney

This pussy pump features two release valves. The first is at the base of the bulb, and the second is on top of the chamber. This means that if you want to remove the hose when the chamber is in place, you can release the suction without having to reattach everything. I actually don’t recommend removing the hose, for reasons we’ll get into in a minute.

So does it work?

Pussy pumping takes a bit of practice, but it’s pretty easy once you’ve found the best way to use it for your body. We’re all slightly different shapes and sizes, so experiment to find the positioning that works best for you.

You’ll also likely need to use some lube to create a good seal. We found that lining the rim of the chamber with a basic water-based lube worked well.

Pussy pump chamber

A note if, like me, you have pubic hair: you absolutely can use a pussy pump without removing your hair! It might be a little more challenging to get a seal and you might need to use more lube than someone with a shaven vulva, but it can be done relatively easily!

This might be a simple positioning issue, but I did find that the Lovehoney Supreme Sensation Pussy Pump needed re-pumping regularly during use as the suction gradually loosened. I suspect this was due to not having a perfect seal – more experimentation needed. For this reason, we kept the hose attached and re-pumped a bit every couple of minutes.

How does it feel?

I was a little nervous to try pussy pumping because I’ve tried suction type sensations on other parts of my body and not particularly liked it. I wasn’t sure if it would be painful, pleasurable, or somewhere in between.

Pussy pumping kit from Lovehoney

The sensation is probably best described as “interesting.” It certainly doesn’t hurt unless you pump it to its absolute max. Even then the sensation is a kind of tugging, throbbing intensity rather than a sharp pain.

Is it pleasurable? Well, sort of. Some people say that the sensation of pumping is hugely pleasurable by itself, and some can even orgasm from it. That wasn’t my experience. It felt sort of nice, but not something that’s going to get me off any time soon.

The aftermath, though? That’s where the really good stuff is! Because pumping draws blood into the area, it left my vulva engorged and super sensitive. The orgasm I had shortly afterwards snuck up on me with a speed and intensity that was pretty out of the ordinary!

(No, you don’t get a picture of the results. Sorry, I’m not quite ready to put my everything on display for you all! Just search “pussy pump” on Google Images or your porn site of choice to see what it looks like in use.)

Do I recommend it?

If you’re curious about pumping and want to give it a go, then sure! Pumping can increase sensitivity and can be a fun and intimate thing to play with in a kink context.

The Supreme Sensation Pussy Pump costs an affordable £24.99 (and you can get 10% off this and anything else at Lovehoney using my code coffkink10 at checkout.) An interesting and different addition to our kit bag, which we’ll definitely use again.

Thanks to Lovehoney for sending me this product to review. All opinions mine, as ever. Affiliate links appear in this post.