How to Have Sex When It’s Too Damn Hot

Fucking hell, it’s hot right now isn’t it!? I don’t know about you guys, but I really struggle with having sex in hot weather. Somehow, when I’m already hot and sweaty, getting hotter and sweatier just isn’t appealing.

Just for fun I thought I’d share some of my top tips for getting it on when it’s hotter than hell outside.

Try ice play

Ice play is a form of sensation play that involves running a piece of ice over your lover’s body (or letting the ice melt in your hand and dripping the cold water all over them.)

It’s super fun as part of a kink game, because the cold is INTENSE. Some people even describe it as a kind of pain. But ice play can be a different kind of fun in the hot weather, as it can actually cool you down enough to be ready to fuck.

Play with mutual masturbation instead

If you’re both feeling horny and wanting to get off, but the idea of fucking in this heat just makes you want to melt into a puddle, try playing with mutual masturbation instead.

Wanking together allows you to enjoy a sexual connection without the exertion – or shared body heat – that comes with fucking. Mix things up by watching porn together, reading erotica aloud to each other, or dirty-talking through some of your favourite fantasies.

Put a glass dildo in the fridge

Whenever I review glass sex toys, I’m always banging on about their temperature play possibilities! But seriously, if you haven’t tried this, you really should.

Pop your glass dildo in the fridge for 15 minutes before you start playing, and you’ll be able to cool down while things heat up.

Take a cool shower together

I’m not necessarily an advocate of actually fucking in the shower, as it can be a little logistically problematic unless you’re very flexible and/or have very good balance. But taking a cool shower together can be a great sexy activity in and of itself, or can be a nice way to cool off enough to have sex.

If you are going to do any kind of genital play in the shower, remember to use plenty of lube. Silicone-based is best for this. The water washes away your natural lubrication!

How do you keep things sexy in hot weather, babes?

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[Toy Review] Lovehoney Sensual Beaded Glass Dildo

My shipment of review products from Lovehoney for Masturbation Month contained not one but TWO glass toys! (I reviewed the first a few days ago, check it out). I love glass sex toys and I really don’t know why I didn’t own more of them until now, considering how affordable they are. Let’s take a look at the Lovehoney Sensual Beaded Glass Dildo...

Handblown for your pleasure

The Lovehoney Sensual Beaded Glass Dildo

The Lovehoney Beaded Glass Dildo is a gently curved, handblown class toy, made up of 6 pronounced bulbs, getting smaller from the bottom to the top. It’s made of clear glass and sports the Lovehoney heart insigna stamped on the largest bead at the bottom.

Can I use glass sex toys safely?

I’m going to keep banging on about this: yes! Properly made glass sex toys are made of borosilicate glass, which is annealed to be extremely strong. It’s the same stuff that glass cookware is made of. Your glass dildo is not going to break inside you.

The Lovehoney Sensual Beaded Glass Dildo

A word of caution: if you drop your toy on a hard surface, retire it even if it looks okay. There might be cracks you can’t see which make it less safe.

But otherwise, glass sex toys are phthalate-free, non-porous, easy to sterilise, and totally body safe. So go for it and don’t stress.

Tips for using your Beaded Glass Dildo comfortably and safely…

I have to admit I was a little daunted by the Beaded Glass Dildo when I took it out of its packaging. It’s bigger than you think it’s going to be! It is 9 inches in total length, 7 inches in insertable length. The widest point of the insertable shaft is 1.35 inches wide.

This might not sound huge, but it’s a fair size when you remember that glass is completely rigid. Unlike silicone, it has no give at all. Therefore you’ll want to make sure you’re proberly warmed up before you use your Beaded Glass Dildo.

I’ve found that I need to work up to this toy. Starting out with a silicone dildo means that I can warm up, get everything stretched out, and make sure my body is receptive and ready to take this things’s bulk.

The Lovehoney Sensual Beaded Glass Dildo
Please ignore my horrible nails!

The other thing I’ve learned about glass toys is that they’re not really optimal for thrusting with. If I try to “fuck” with a glass dildo, it just hurts, and may people report similar experiences. (This is especially true if, like me, you HATE having anything hit your cervix.) Instead, I like to insert my Beaded Glass Dildo and then just wiggle it gently against my G-spot. It’s so hard that even the smallest movement gives a delicious pressure which is super pleasurable.

Remember: when you’re using a rigid toy, it’s really important to use plenty of lube. I always recommend a good quality, natural water-based lube like Sliquid Sassy! But silicone-based or oil-based is fine too, if that’s your preference.

You might find the sensation strange if you’ve never used a glass toy before. That’s really normal. If anything is painful, though, you should stop. Pain is your body’s way of indicating that something is wrong!

Can I use it anally?

Yup! The large bead at the bottom of the dildo acts as a sort of base, meaning it’s safe for butt play. Many people with prostates particularly find that stimulation with glass toys can be really pleasurable, but it can be fun for anyone.

As with all anal play, listen to your body and use more lube than you think you need. No, more lube than that. And a bit more still!

So how does it feel?

Oh my god, I love this dildo!

The bulges of the beads give an amazing full feeling, the curve is just at the perfect angle for reaching all the right spots, and the pressure of that bulb against my G-spot… mmmmffff. Honestly, this thing is near perfection. I can’t praise it enough!

What other fun things can I do with a glass dildo?

I feel like I’ve said this before, but it bears repeating!

  • If you enjoy internal vibrations, either vaginally or anally, press a powerful vibrator against the base of your Beaded Glass Dildo when it’s inside you. The glass will transmit the vibrations to all your sensitive spots. A wand is best for this.
  • Glass dildos are made for temperature play! Pop your dildo in the fridge for 20 minutes before play, or run it under warm (not hot!) water for a minute or two.

So do I recommend it?

Yes! The Lovehoney Beaded Glass Dildo is a great buy. Safe, versatile, feels amazing, and it’s even pretty to boot. At a ridiculously affordable £29.99, I heartily recommend adding one of these to your collection.

Good work, Lovehoney!

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[Toy Review] Lovehoney Beaded Heart Glass Dildo

Glass sex toys are enduringly popular for a reason. They’re really pretty, body-safe, often very affordable, and feel fucking amazing. So I was thrilled when the very sweet and generous lockdown care package I received from Lovehoney contained this little (well, not so little) beauty! Meet the Lovehoney Beaded Heart Glass Dildo.

The Lovehoney Beaded Glass Heart Dildo

What’s in the box?

My Glass Heart Dildo arrived in Lovehoney’s signature pink and white branded packaging. Inside is the toy (wrapped in a generous amount of thick packing foam for safe transportation,) and a useful and stylish black velvety storage bag with pink drawstrings.

The Lovehoney Beaded Glass Heart Dildo

The Lovehoney Beaded Glass Heart Dildo is 8 inches in total length, of which around 6 inches are insertable. At its widest point the diameter is 1.4″. Glass toys tend to be heavy, and this one weighs in at a hefty 310g.

This toy is super pretty. I love the aesthetic of glass toys and the pink heart handle with the Lovehoney heart insignia stamped on it adds a cute femme touch to this one. I’m sure they’d sell even more if it came in different colour options!

Are glass toys body-safe?

Yep!

Properly made glass sex toys are made from annealed borosilicate glass. This type of glass is non-porous and phthalate-free, and therefore the ideal material for body-safe sex toys. This type of glass is also hardwearing and sturdy. There’s virtually no risk of it breaking inside your body. Use with confidence!

The Lovehoney Beaded Glass Heart Dildo

A couple of caveats:

Be careful how you store your glass toy, because it could break if you drop it or put something heavy on top of it. If you accidentally drop your toy on a hard surface, even if it looks fine, I advise retiring it. There could be fractures in the glass which you can’t see but which compromise its integrity and safety. And please, please do not use any glass items as sex toys that were not designed for that purpose! (Or any item, frankly.)

You can use any type of body-safe lube with a glass toy. Water-based is nearly always my preference, but silicone-based and oil-based are fine too, so pick what works for you.

Clean your glass toy with soap and warm water, a body-safe sterile wipe (I buy mine in bulk from a medical supplier,) or a 10% bleach solution. You can also put a condom over it if you want to share it with a partner without sterilising in between, if you’re not fluid-bonded.

How easy is it to hold and manipulate?

The heart at the top of the Beaded Glass Heart Dildo makes a convenient handle for ease of use. It fits well in my small hand. Folks with bigger hands might find it a little more challenging.

The Lovehoney Beaded Glass Heart Dildo

If you struggle with heavy toys, it’s worth bearing the weight of this one in mind. It was fine for me, but some people might find the heft of a large glass toy difficult.

How does it feel?

I’m in love with the feel of this dildo! I love the unyielding rigidity of glass, the ridges along the shaft feel delicious, and the bulbous head at the end is perfect for targeted G-spot stimulation. The weight of it also gives an amazing full feeling.

Personally I don’t like to thrust with glass dildos, as I find it intense to the point of being unpleasant. Instead I like to get it into the right position and then wiggle it gently. Other fun things to do include having this toy inside you while you use a clitoral vibrator, or pressing a powerful wand vibrator against the base of the dildo. The glass transmits the vibrations all the way inside for intense G-spot stimulation!

Another wonderful thing about glass dildos? They’re ideal for temperature play! Pop your Glass Heart Dildo in the fridge for 20 minutes before using it, or run it under some warm (not hot!) water. The change in temperature wakes your nerves up and makes the sensations extra intense.

Is it anal safe?

I deliberated on this one, but I’m going to say yes. The flared ridge and fairly large heart handle mean that the odds of anything going wrong if you use this toy anally are very very small. Remember to use plenty of lube – the butt isn’t self-lubricating, and using something rigid like a glass toy without sufficient lube can be painful or even cause tearing.

Final thoughts: do I recommend it?

I really love this dildo! Glass toys are an enduring favourite of mine for all the reasons listed above, and the Beaded Glass Heart Dildo delivers spectacularly. A+, highly recommended. And at just £29.99, it’s an absolute steal!

Thank you to Lovehoney, who sent me the Beaded Glass Heart Dildo as part of a very sweet lockdown care package. This post contains affiliate links and buying through them supports my work at no extra cost to you!

[Toy Review] The Red Head by Glas

I love glass toys, I love pretty toys, and I love double-ended toys. So when the folks at The Adult Toy Shop offered me this beauty from their range to try, I eagerly jumped at the chance. If you’ve never tried a glass toy, you really should. They feel like nothing else! Smooth and yet completely unyielding, glass begins cold to the touch but warms up surprisingly quickly with your body’s heat. And you can always run it under some warm (not hot!) water or pop it in the fridge for 20 minutes prior to play for some exciting temperature-based fun.

The |Red Head Glas DildoLet’s meet the Red Head…

Unlike many double ended dildos, I liked that both the ends on this one are the exact same size.

It’s 8.5″ in total length, and 1.5″ in diameter at the widest points of the heads. The shaft is 1″ in diameter.

This toy is really pretty. I always find glass toys very aesthetically pleasing and the red wave pattern on each of the heads gives this one a unique, striking appearance.

Is glass body-safe?

Short answer: yes!

Long answer: A properly made glass dildo is highly, highly unlikely to just break – and I have never heard of one breaking inside someone. Borosilicate glass, the kind that most glass toys are made of, is the same stuff that “Pyrex” and similar cookware is made from. It’s very hardy stuff and can withstand changes in temperature. It might break if you drop it on a hard floor from height, but that’s all you need to worry about.

Glass is non-toxic and non porous – it doesn’t contain any nasty chemicals like phthalates, and as long as you clean it properly it won’t harbour any bacteria or germs.

Glass toys are also latex and non-latex condom compatible, and safe to use with water, silicone or oil based lubes. In short, a great choice!

To clean your  glass toy, wash it in warm water and some gentle soap or soak it in a 10% bleach solution for a few minutes. For a quick clean, a body-safe medical wipe or toy wipe will do the trick.

In use…

Unfortunately, I did not have another pretty vulva-owning person on hand to try this toy with, so I tested it solo. I’m definitely keeping it earmarked for the next time I have someone with a vagina in my bed, though! As it doesn’t have a flared base, the Red Head is not suitable for anal play, but there are anal safe glass toys on the market if that’s your jam.

I’ve sometimes struggled with straight glass toys because, as they’re so rigid, it can be hard to angle them just right and they end up pressing into the wrong spot and hurting. No such issues with this dildo, though. The curved shape and super smooth surface means that, with the help of a little lube, it slid in with no pain or discomfort at all.

The combination of the gentle curve and the bulbous heads made the Red Head dildo immensely satisfying for me. I’m super multi orgasmic when it comes to G-spot stimulation, and… well, let’s just say after about five or six, I stopped bothering to count. The head presses in just the right spot and with a little gentle wiggling, it feels absolutely wonderful.

A quick pro tip from me: if you like G-spot vibration and intense stimulation, insert your glass dildo then press a wand vibrator against the bit that’s outside your body. The glass will transmit the vibrations and they’ll feel really strong.

I have never squirted, but if I was ever going to, I’m pretty sure it would be a curved, very rigid G-spot toy – like this one – that got me there. Hmm. More experimentation is in order! For science, of course.

So do I recommend it?

Yes, this is a wonderful little (or not so little) toy for the price! It’s body-safe, super pretty, it feels delicious, and it’s perfect for both solo and partnered play. A perfect beginner glass toy, or even a good addition to an afficionado’s collection.

The Red Head retails for $28.34 (RRP $34.99) at The Adult Toy Shop.

This unbiased review was sponsored by The Adult Toy Shop, who carry a wide range of very affordable sex toys. This in no way affects my views of the product which are, and will always be, entirely my own.

[Toy Review] Chrystalino Blue Glass Double-Ended Dildo

Chrystalino are a new brand to me. But when my new friends at Peepshow Toys included them in a list of review products for me to choose from, I just couldn’t resist the gorgeous blue glass! I went for the double-ended dildo as I did not previously have any double-ended toys in my collection.

The Chrystalino blue glass double ended dildo lying on top of its box on a brown chair seat.
This toy also comes in an attractive box.

A Touch of Glass…

I love glass toys. One of the first dildos I ever bought was my Icicles No. 5, which I used all the time until it sadly met its end on a tiled floor during a photoshoot.

Glass is hard and unyielding. It’s so smooth and so firm. You can warm it up or cool it down.

Specs ‘n’ Stats

My hand holding the Chrystalino double-ended blue glass dildo against a while background.
Hand model: me

The Chrystalino Double-Ended Dildo is a curved toy, 7″ in total length, making an insertable length (whichever way around you use it) of a little over 5″. The diameter is 1.3″ at the widest point. One end has a single large, bulbous head, and the other end has two smaller tapering bumps.

The material is handblown Borosilicate glass (which used to be what the common brand-name Pyrex represented, though apparently isn’t any more!) Borosilicate glass is non-toxic, non-porous and shatterproof, which makes this toy completely body-safe.

This double-ended dildo retails at Peepshow Toys for $35.99 (about £26.50), which is an absurdly good price for the quality. Peepshow currently carry six products from the Chrystalino range and they’re all between thirty and forty dollars. “Affordable AF!” as Phallophile Reviews notes.

Also Pretty AF

Apparently Chrystalino designs are “inspired by the Venetian glassmakers of Murano, with the beautiful art of lovemaking in mind“.  They’re all made of the same signature blue glass, which just screams luxury. They’re truly beautiful pieces of glass art as well as feeling wonderful. I would display this thing in my house!

So how did it feel?

The Chrystalino blue glass double-ended dildo on my kitchen counter with a "Coffee is My Love Language" mug.
Also pictured: “Coffee is My Love Language” mug by Kayla Lords. (https://www.redbubble.com/people/LovingBDSM/shop)

Mr CK and I tested this dildo together during a play session. I had my butt plugged (stay tuned for that review coming later!) and was lying on my front, and he slid the slimmer end of the dildo into me with the curve pointing toward the front of my body to press against my G-spot.

I cannot take a lot of hard thrusting with very solid toys. My vaginal opening gets sore and my cervix starts to complain. So what we’ve discovered works well with glass toys is this: slide it in, and then just wiggle it very slightly or tap on it lightly with a couple of fingers. This provides the necessary G-spot stimulation without making me sore. It’s less “pounding” and more “pressure”, and it feels incredible. I came five times in as many minutes just from this, until I had to safeword out and take a bit of a break.

After I’d recovered, I flipped over onto my back and we tried the thicker end of the toy. I’m pretty sure the noises I made when that bulbous head pressed against my G-spot scared the neighbours! With my sweetheart gently wiggling the dildo and me holding a wand to my clit, we brought me to another explosive orgasm.

This wand feels divine. The curve is perfect, the opportunity to work up from the smaller to larger ends is perfect, the shape of the heads is perfect.

Some more ideas for ways to use your Chrystalino glass toy

We didn’t use it anally, but this wand is designed to be safe for vaginal or anal use, so you definitely could.

Insert it and press a wand vibrator against the free end. The vibrations will travel all along the toy and feel wonderful.

Share it with a partner! I’m dying to use this toy with another vulva owner, one end inside each of us.

Heat it up or cool it down. The safest way to do this is run it under warm (not hot!) or cool water for a minute prior to play.

Some Notes on Cleaning

In most cases, as it’s non-porous, cleaning your Chrystalino dildo with a body-safe sterile wipe and some hot water and gentle soap will be more than sufficient.  However, Borosilicate glass is resistant to severe temperature changes (which is why it’s so often used in high-quality cookware!) – which means you can safely use boiling water to sterilise it if you want to.

Beware, though: not all glass sex toys are created equal, and some are made of soda-lime glass, which is still basically body-safe but cannot withstand boiling water or extreme temperature changes. This piece by Dangerous Lilly has more information.

Glass is condom-compatible, if you’re sharing it with a partner and concerned about potential STD transmission.

So do I recommend it?

Wholeheartedly. I adore it. Apart from possibly wishing it came with a storage bag (I’m always a bit scared of glass toys getting chipped in storage) I have absolutely no complaints.

This dildo and others in the Chrystalino range can be purchased from Peepshow Toys. If you use my affiliate links, I will make a small commission which helps me keep bringing honest adult product reviews to you. And don’t forget you can get 10% off by using code “coffee” at checkout!

Images are by me and not to be used without express permission. Thank you to Peepshow for providing me with this product in exchange for an honest review.