Once in a while, I check the search terms people use to find me. For the last few months, the term “praise kink” has popped up again and again. Which is interesting, considering this is something I’ve never actually written about!
So I thought it would be fun to talk about it. What is a praise kink, what are some praise kink phrases you can use, and what do you need to know about this incredibly popular fetish?
Let’s dive in and find out!
What is a Praise Kink?
In short, it’s exactly what it sounds like. Someone with a praise kink gets off on being praised, complimented, or receiving verbal approval.
“But doesn’t everyone love praise?” you’re probably asking. And yes, many of us do! But having a praise kink isn’t quite the same thing. For people with this kink, receiving praise might elicit a sexual response, send them to subspace or Topspace (yes, it’s more common amongst submissives in my experience, but Tops and Dominants can have a praise kink too!) or otherwise have an impact beyond just “warm fuzzies from receiving a compliment”.
I don’t think there’s any actual data on this (can someone finance this study immediately please?) but I suspect there is a lot of crossover between those who enjoy praise in a kink context and those who have words of affirmation as one of their primary love languages.
Praise kink is often seen as being part of the softer, gentler type of BDSM. It can be, but it doesn’t have to be! As with all kinky things, it can be whatever you make of it.
Do You Have a Praise Kink?
You might be reading this article wondering if this description applies to you. Sorry, I can’t answer this for you! The only person who knows for sure if you have a praise kink is you.
But consider these questions:
Do you enjoy sex or a kink scene more when your partner gives you lots of positive verbal feedback?
When you think back on your hottest sex/kink scenes, do the complimentary things your partner said to you stand out as one of your favourite parts?
If any of these sound like you, then you might have a praise kink!
It’s important to note that praise kinks can be very contextual. While some people might find it hot whenever anyone gives them praise or a compliment, others find that this desire is specifically directed towards those with whom they have some kind of attraction, sexual relationship, or kink dynamic.
Some Praise Kink Phrases You Can Use
Ultimately, the best way to learn what praise kink phrases will work for your partner is to ask them. Communication, understanding one another, and listening to feedback will get you further than a list of ideas ever will.
But if you’re not sure where to start, here are a few to get you started.
- “You’re such a good… [girl/boy/slut/pet/their favourite term of endearment]”
- “You’re doing/you did really well.”
- “You look so beautiful/handsome/sexy when you… [insert activity here]”
- “I’m so proud of you.”
- “I love how well you took that spanking for me.”
- “That feels amazing, keep doing that.”
- “I love it when you… [insert action or activity here]”
- “I can’t stop thinking about when you [insert hot or sexy thing they did here]”
- “Your ass looks incredible in those knickers”
- “You’re so good at [eating my pussy/sucking my cock/fucking me/insert activity here]”
- “I can’t wait to show you off to everyone at the club”
- “You’re strong, I know you can take it for me”
- “You’re so loved and cherished
These are all just ideas and you will undoubtedly come up with your own as you explore. Remember: the only right way to do it is the way that works for you and your partner.
Do you have a favourite praise kink phrase? Share them in the comments if so!
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