[Toy Review] Osuga Cuddly Bird

Osuga is a woman-owned sexual wellness brand founded in 2015 and based in Hong Kong. Their Cuddly Bird toy for people with vulvas has won awards including a Bronze IDEA Award (2020) and a Golden Pin Design Award (2019). So I was pretty excited to try it and see what all the hype is about.

The Osuga Cuddly Bird is so named, because… well, look at it!

Osuga clit sucking sex toy Cuddly Bird

It was posted discreetly and inside, the toy was packaged in a sturdy Osuga-branded box. In the box you’ll find the toy, its charging base and cable, a set of instructions, and a soft, velvety storage bag in the same colour as your toy.

Design and Materials

The Osuga Cuddly Bird is really two toys in one, featuring an ordinary motor for use as a traditional vibrator as well as a nozzle with clitoral suction function.

The Cuddly Bird measures just a hair over 3″ in height. Its body circumference is 7″ (2.2″ diameter) at the widest point, and the clitoral nozzle is 0.5″ in diameter. It weighs in at 133g.

This toy is made of ultra-soft silicone which feels thick and plushy as well as being body-safe and hygienic. Aesthetically, it’s really cute and pretty. I got the mint green variation (my favourite colour aside from purple!) but you can also get it in pastel pink or yellow. The inclusion of a matching storage bag is a nice touch. I particularly enjoyed the charging port looking like a little bird cage:

Cuddly Bird clit sucking vibrator in birdcage charging port

Fun fact: the charging cage will stay lit up as long as it’s plugged in, even as the toy is removed, so you could double its function as a mini night-light if you wish. If the toy is attached, the light will switch off when the toy is fully charged.

The Cuddly Bird is somewhat waterproof. The website says it’s suitable for shower usage and the booklet advises not submersing it below 30cm. Run time is about 2.5 hours on suction mode or 80 minutes on vibration mode for a full charge.

User Interface

The Cuddly Bird has two buttons, one for each of its functionalities. The button with the circle icon controls the suction, and the button with the two wavy lines icon controls the vibration.

Sex toy control buttons

The buttons are sensibly located on the base of the toy and are easy to press. Simply press and hold the button for your desired function to switch it on, use the same button to scroll through the settings (three vibration speeds and one pattern on the vibrating side, three speeds on the suction side.)

Be aware that you can’t use the vibrations and suction at the same time. It’s easy to switch between them, but I would have appreciated the ability to try using them together.

Cuddly Bird in Use

I’ll start by saying that the vibration settings didn’t really do much for me. They’re pretty buzzy, and that isn’t a sensation that works well for my body. The power is also dampened a lot by the thick silicone. If you prefer gentler or buzzier vibrations, the Cuddly Bird may work well for you. But if you’re like me and prefer a deeper rumble, skip this toy’s vibrating mode.

The suction setting, though? Well, that is a different matter entirely!

I have a pretty small glans clitoris (that’s the external bit, for anyone who isn’t a sex ed nerd like me!) and this toy’s nozzle is just the right size to envelop it.

I found the shape of the Cuddly Bird easy and comfortable to hold. For me, the best angle was using it sideways on (so the toy at 90 degrees to my body, closing around my clit from the left hand side). Your mileage may vary and suction toys are notoriously different for every body, so experiment and see what works for you.

Cuddly Bird vibrator

Once I had the angle right, the Cuddly Bird delivered near-perfectly in terms of what I look for from a clitoral suction toy. It very quickly brought me to the point of orgasm. When I’d finished, my legs were shaking – always a sign of a good time!

Bonus: the Cuddly Bird is relatively quiet, maxing out at around 50dB. It easily passed my extremely scientific “door closed, under a blanket” test, and it’s quiet enough that I can comfortably watch porn or listen to audio smut while using it.

Top Tips for Choosing and Using Your Vibrator

I often say that sex education failed me and I believe it failed many of us. One of the most critical aspects of sexuality as a whole is… pleasure! And guess what didn’t get a mention in any of the sex ed I received? Yup, you’ve guessed it.

Like me, Osuga believes that “sex is a beautiful and natural experience” and wants everyone who desires it to have the best sex possible. What that looks like will be different for every person. But whether you’re monogamous or open, queer or straight, male or female or non-binary, you can use toys to enhance your sex life if you want to. Here’s a very quick rundown of my top tips for choosing and using a sex toy:

  1. Pay attention to what YOU like, not what you (or your partner, or society) think people with your body parts are “supposed” to like.
  2. Choose a body-safe product. There are so many affordable body-safe options on the market nowadays!
  3. If you’re new to using toys, aim for a versatile product that you can use to explore different sensations.
  4. Lube makes just about everything better. Choose a safe, water-based lube with as few ingredients as possible.
  5. Clean your toy between every use (see the next section for more info) to keep it hygienic.
  6. Consider experimenting with a toy on your own before introducing it into partnered sex.
  7. If you’re bringing toys into partnered play (which is awesome – yay!) make sure you communicate honestly about what’s working and what isn’t. Aim for exploration and mutual pleasure, not a specific goal.

Most importantly of all, remember that sexuality and sexual pleasure are endlessly, beautifully unique. There’s no right and wrong way to explore or use toys. If you’re staying safe and having fun, then you’re doing it right.

How to Clean Your Sex Toy

If there’s one question about toys I get asked more than any other, it’s probably “how do I keep my sex toys clean?” I actually wrote a whole article about this, but here’s an executive summary:

  • You can boil a silicone or stainless steel sex toy that doesn’t contain a motor (or pop it in the dishwasher on the top rack).
  • For toys with motors, like the Cuddly Bird, you can’t boil them as it will destroy the motor. Instead, use either a 10% bleach solution (9 parts water to 1 part bleach) or a body-safe sterile wipe (I get mine from a medical supplies website). Then rinse your toy and let it dry thoroughly before you put it away.
  • It’s safe to share non-porous toys like the Cuddly Bird, in general, but sterilise it between users unless you’re fluid bonded.

If you take care of it, a body-safe sex toy in a material like silicone will last you for years. A great investment in your pleasure, I’m sure you’ll agree.

Cuddly Bird: Verdict

(Bird-ict? No.)

The Cuddly Bird is a really fabulous little clit sucker. It was a pleasure to use, it got the job done, and the fact that it’s cute as hell and in one of my favourite colours doesn’t hurt, either!

The Osuga Cuddly Bird retails for £78.21 (around $110 for my US friends).

Thanks to Osuga for sponsoring this review. Please note that sponsorship does not guarantee a glowing review and that all opinions are my own!

[Toy Review] Funejoy Clitoral Sucking Vibrator

This week, I’ve got a couple of reviews coming out for products from companies I haven’t worked with before. First up is Funejoy, based out of Japan and the US. They kindly sent me their Clitoral Sucking Vibrator to try.

I don’t think it’s a secret that I am not a big fan of Amazon. The Bezos Behemoth has a number of very significant issues and downsides. However, it’s also the biggest and most convenient retailer in the world, and most people (including me) shop there from time to time.

Sex toys on Amazon are a notorious minefield. There are many people selling knock-off versions of high-end and brand-name toys, which will not be under warranty and may not even be safe. There are many others selling cheap toys made of unsafe materials. But since it’s so convenient, there will always be people buying sex toys on Amazon. To that end, it’s always a relief when Amazon-based retailers stock products that are precisely as advertised.

Let’s dive into a closer look at the Funejoy Clitoral Sucking Vibrator.

Funejoy Sucking Vibrator: Details & Design

The Funejoy Clitoral Sucking Vibrator is a toy for people with vulvas based around the enduringly popular “suction” style stimulation. Instead of vibrating in the traditional sense, these toys deliver intense clitoral stimulation via rapid air pulses.

Funejoy clitoral sucking vibrator in red silicone

Many people find this sensation intensely pleasurable and some say it induces near-instant orgasms. As ever, your mileage may vary.

It arrived in discreet packaging and inside, the toy was packaged in a sturdy box along with its charging cable and user manual. It’s made of 100% silicone (yes I flame-tested it, and yes it’s definitely silicone!) with a soft matte finish and in a bright shade of red.

The toy measures 4″ in total length and is shaped like a teardrop – flat on one end and tapering to a point on the other. The suction nozzle sits in the centre of the flat end.

red silicone suction vibrator

This toy is fully waterproof and submersible. Pro tip: suction toys can feel amazing underwater. If you’ve ever masturbated with a jacuzzi jet, the sensation is a little bit like that, only better! The Funejoy Clitoral Sucking Vibrator is rechargeable via the included USB cable and a magnetic charging port on the back.

Experience

To say I was pleasantly surprised by this toy would be an understatement. I always moderate my expectations when it comes to cheap toys (though let’s be real, high-end sex toys can be disappointing, too!) So I really wasn’t expecting the Funejoy Clitoral Sucking Vibrator to knock my socks off, so to speak… but it did.

Let’s start with the shape. I have really small hands and I found the teardrop shape ergonomic and comfortable to hold, even through long testing sessions.

Funejoy vibrator for clit stimulation

The positioning of the nozzle also worked really well for my body. With some suction toys, I have to do strange hand or wrist contortions to get them to sit right. But this one rests comfortably against my body and envelopes my clit and clitoral hood easily.

The user interface consists of a single button to cycle through the settings (three constant speeds and seven patterns.) I’d have liked a back button, in an ideal world, but I can live without it given the way I use this toy.

Buy sex toys on Amazon from Funejoy, like this red clit suction toy

As anyone who has read my previous reviews will probably guess, it’s all about the three constant speeds for me. I like to start with the lowest one and build up slowly, only switching to the highest constant speed when I’m very close to orgasm. Even the low speed has some intensity behind it, and the top speed packs a hell of a punch. The pulsing patterns are fine if you like that sort of thing, but they’re not really for me.

The bottom line: it’s easy to use, it feels incredible, and it can get me off quickly and reliably.

A Note on Volume

Be aware that the Funejoy Clitoral Sucking Vibrator is a little loud. Not egregiously so, and all suction toys tend to have some volume to them, but it’s definitely noticeable. It juuuuuust passes the “under a blanket, door closed” test in my house, but if you have thin walls or roommates, this is something you’ll want to be aware of.

Someone in one of the Amazon reviews states that you could use it in the office without anyone noticing and… unless your office is literally on a building site with power tools going off all day, that is laughably untrue. But don’t use sex toys in the office anyway, your colleagues didn’t consent to that and you could get fired!

Verdict

A really pleasant surprise that has left me genuinely impressed! If you’re looking for a clitoral sucking toy and you’re on a budget, this is a safe and quality option for the price.

The Funejoy Clitoral Sucking Vibrator retails for $34.99 (that’s about £25 to my fellow Brits.) You can get 50% off for a limited time using my code, DXTPF9AL.

Thanks to Funejoy for sending me this product and sponsoring this post, which means they paid me to write an honest review. All views, as always, are mine.

[Toy Review] BMS Addiction Steven Realistic Dildo

As many of you know by now, I’m a big proponent of making quality sex toys more affordable. There are still too many poorly made, poor quality toys on the market, many of which are made from harmful and toxic materials. That’s why I was excited to try the BMS Steven, part of the new Addiction realistic dildo range.

Silicone realistic dildo from BMS

Over the coming weeks, I’ll also be reviewing the Edward and the Luke from the same range in partnership with The Pleasure Garden, a delightful woman-owned and inclusive online sex shop.

Meet Steven: Materials and Design

Addiction by BMS is a new range of realistic dildos made from 100% silicone. Unlike the TPE, TPR, jelly, and mystery materials that make up many cheap realistic sex toys, silicone is non-porous, non-toxic, and completely body-safe.

The silicone used for this toy is particularly matte and very flexible. I have to admit, when I first took it out of the packaging, part of me was questioning whether it was really pure silicone at all. It feels very different to any silicone toy I’ve encountered before. I flame-tested it to be sure (don’t try this at home!) and luckily it passed, so you can rest assured it’s definitely silicone. The things I do in the name of sex journalism!

Realistic dildo from BMS - Steven lifelike sex toy

If you’ve used TPE/TPR toys and enjoyed the texture, this would be a good upgrade. You’ll get much of the same squishiness and flexibility, only in a non-porous toy. If you prefer very soft, silky or smooth silicone, this toy might not be for you.

It also attract lint (and, in my house, cat hair) like whoa. Always give it a wipe down or a quick wash before use.

The Steven is a straight realistic dildo with impressive detailing including lifelike veins on the shaft, a contoured head, and textured balls. It measures 7.4″ (19cm) in total length, of which around 5″ are insertable, and measures 1.5″ (3.8cm) in diameter at the widest point.

BMS Steven bullet vibe and realistic sex toy

It also comes with a suction cup base, and with an accompanying single-speed miniature bullet vibe (which requires 3 LR44 watch batteries, included.) There isn’t a slot to insert the vibe into the toy, so it needs to be held and operated separately.

In Use

I found the BMS Addiction Steven easy and comfortable to insert and use. Its flexible shaft means you can angle it in exactly the way that works for you as you insert it. Because the silicone is so grabby, I recommend using a LOT of lube. I used Promescent aloe lube because it happened to be the nearest bottle to the bed at the time, but any water-based lube will work.

Personally, I don’t love the shape of the Steven. I much prefer curved toys for internal stimulation. Straight toys like this one tend to poke my cervix (ow) more easily than they hit my G-spot.

I also found it quite hard to angle the Steven once it was inserted as it’s so flexible. I like my toys to have some flex (erm, there are exceptions) but there’s such a thing as too much of a good thing. The Steven was too bendy and not firm enough for me.

Of course, bodies are all different! This isn’t a judgement on the toy’s quality, just on how well it worked for me. If you prefer straight shaped toys or lots of flex, it might be the perfect match for you.

Mini bullet vibrator

The accompanying vibe is, I’m sorry to say, a complete waste of time if you like anything other than fairly weak and VERY buzzy stimulation. It only has one speed and offers that infuriating, numbing, surface-level vibration that puts many clitoris-owners off vibes entirely. I don’t really know why the manufacturer felt the need to include it, especially now you can get powerful bullet vibrators at affordable prices.

FAQs

Can I use the Steven realistic dildo in the bath or shower?

Yes. 100% silicone toys without motors are completely safe to use in water. Remember: you still need to use lube! Oil-based lube is great for playing in water. The accompanying bullet vibe isn’t waterproof.

What’s the point of a suction cup?

Suction cups allow you to fix your toy to a solid surface (like a wall, mirror, floor, or the bathroom tiles) and use it hands-free. The Steven’s suction cup is impressively strong and stays put very nicely, even during vigorous use.

Is the Steven harness-compatible?

Yes… kind of. The suction cup base means you can use the Steven realistic dildo in most strap-on harnesses. It wouldn’t be my first choice for harness play, because the suction cup is quite flimsy and the toy is flexible enough that getting the right angle while thrusting could be difficult. But yes, you certainly can if you want to.

Is the Steven anal-safe?

Yep. The balls and suction cup create a large enough base to make the Steven A-okay for anal play.

How do I clean by silicone dildo?

Your best bet is to throw it in a large pan of boiling water for a few minutes. Failing that, use a 10% bleach solution and rinse thoroughly, or use a sterile medical wipe followed by gentle soap and warm water.

Verdict

Ultimately, my verdict on this one is landing on “perfectly fine but not a great fit for me.” The BMS Addiction Steven is an affordably priced and body-safe realistic dildo, and I’m really glad it exists. Any toys that steer beginners or those on a budget towards body-safe choices can only be a good thing.

The shape and level of flex didn’t really work for my body, but that doesn’t mean the Steven couldn’t be a great fit for yours!

The Steven retails for £24.88 from The Pleasure Garden.

Thanks to The Pleasure Garden for sending me this toy to review. All views are my own. If you use the affiliate links within this post, I make a small commission at no extra cost to you.

[Wearable Review] Tyes By Tara Sex Kitten Tyera

I’m delighted to be reviewing more Tyes By Tara products this week. This award-winning, woman-owned brand makes beautiful accessories, adornments, and other wearables that are both cute and sexy. I received the Sex Kitten Tyera to try.

Sex Kitten Tyera

The Sex Kitten cat ears headband is part of the Tyera (tiara – get it?) headwear collection. It’s a headband featuring a pair of black kitty ears.

Sex Kitten Tyera by Tyes by Tara

The headband itself is made of a rigid but flexible material (I’m assuming plastic) and is coated in black fuzzy material that looks, well, a little like a cat’s fur! Each ear is adorned with a little black satin bow.

I was initially worried that the black fuzz would shed but, after several outings, I’m pleased to report it looks and feels good as new.

Aesthetic

You know when you wear an item of clothing or an accessory that just feels perfectly “you”? That’s how I feel when I put the Sex Kitten Tyera on!

Black cat ears headband, Sex Kitten Tyera cat ears tiara

Cat ears have been part of my signature look for years, and they’re one of the main things (along with the purple hair) that people remember me for when I meet them at events. I’ve tried many different cat ears headbands and some clip-on cat ears over the years, some of which I’ve liked more than others.

The Sex Kitten Tyera is the perfect balance of playful and sexy. The little bows give it an adorable femme twist. By the way: they also go beautifully with pieces from the Bratyes line, one of which I’m reviewing later this week, or with the Vixen Tyecuffs for a kinky edge.

I’m not much of a pet-player myself, though the idea does somewhat appeal to me. But if being a human pet is your thing, these ears are the perfect accessory to tap into your inner kitty. When I slip them on, I just want to go out on the prowl…

Comfort & Wearability

As someone who is prone to headaches, comfort is of paramount importance for anything I wear on my head.

Woman with purple hair and cat ears accessory

I have a lovely pair of glittery ears that I bought in San Francisco, but the headband is metal so I can’t wear them for too long or they start to cause me pain.

Fortunately, the Sex Kitten Tyera is super comfortable. The band is flexible enough that it will fit most people, and it doesn’t dig into the side of your head. I’ve happily worn it all evening long on several occasions without pain or discomfort.

Verdict

Tyes By Tara banner

Whether I’m feeling high femme or femme fatale, playful kitten or fierce feline, or these ears are a fun way to accessorise an outfit for a night out (or in!) I love them!

The Sex Kitten Tyera retails for $20 (that’s around £16) and you can get 10% off your entire order when you use my code “coffeeandkink” at checkout.

Purrrrrrrfect!

Thanks to Tyes By Tara for sending me the Sex Kitten Tyera. All views are, as ever, mine. This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I’ll make a small commission at no extra cost to you.

[Lingerie Review] Lovehoney Moonflower Emerald Green Lace Strappy Body

I first spotted this piece when my partner sent me a link to this Instagram post. As soon as I saw the Moonflower Lace Strappy Body in emerald green from Lovehoney, I knew I had to own it! Happily, my friends at Lovehoney HQ were able to hook me up.

How did I get on with it in reality?

Moonflower Emerald Green Lace Strappy Body: Aesthetic

This one-piece bodysuit is made of lace and mesh in a gorgeous, vibrant shade of green. It is wire-free and features a plunging V-neck and criss-cross detailing at the front and back. It is nipped in at the waist with a broad ribbon accent, and features a popper opening at the crotch.

Moonflower emerald green bodysuit from Lovehoney

I really love how this piece looks. The colour is beautiful and unusual, making a change from the more common blacks, reds, and pinks of the lingerie world. The delicate floral lace is lovely, and the strappy detailing at the back is super sexy.

Bodysuit bra straps on the Lovehoney Moonflower body

I love this type of shape on my body. I think my hourglass waist is pretty much my best feature, and this style shows that off. A plunging neckline will always be sexy, and the criss-cross straps across the cleavage add an eye-drawing touch.

Sex-appeal wise, this one scores top marks from me.

Fit and Comfort

I gravitate towards non-wired lingerie for two reasons: it’s far more comfortable (you will not convince me that anyone finds being poked in the ribs with a wire pleasant!) and it’s far more likely to actually fit me.

The Moonflower Lace Strappy Body is a one-size piece, which you’ll know by now I don’t love as a concept. People come in such a variety of shapes and sizes that the idea of “one size” is a little absurd to me. The Moonflower Lace Strappy Body is supposed to fit sizes 8-16. There’s also a plus-size version for sizes 18-24. (Side note: Lovehoney are killing it with their plus-size lingerie offerings at the moment!)

Curvy woman with big natural boobs wearing lace bodysuit plus-size lingerie

I’m currently a size 12-ish and I found the Moonflower Lace Strappy Body to be a pretty good fit. The fabric and waistband are somewhat stretchy, and both the shoulder straps and waistband can be adjusted using the sliders.

As is often the case with standard lingerie sizing, this piece only “sort of” contains my G-cup boobs. When I’m standing up or lying on my back, it’s fine, but as soon as I lie on my side or raise my hands above my head, they pop out. Not a big problem, but something to be aware of if you’re well endowed in the chest department.

Flattering bodysuit from Lovehoney Moonflower standard and plus-size lingerie ranges

The Moonflower Lace Strappy Body is made of super soft fabric that feels lovely to wear. This isn’t cheap, scratchy lace. It feels sensual and luxurious against the skin.

Verdict

The Moonflower Lace Strappy Body is a winner! It’s very hard to get one-size lingerie right, and inevitably it won’t work for all bodies. But overall this piece is pretty, sensual, comfortable, and flattering. Yes, yes, and yes!

Curvy woman with G-cup boobs in lacy bodysuit

I feel gorgeously femme in this piece and I can’t wait to show it off at a sexy party when we can go to those again.

The Moonflower Lace Strappy Body retails for £32.99. Don’t forget you can get 10% off this item and any other purchase at Lovehoney using my code coffkink10 at checkout.

Thanks to Lovehoney for sending me this item to review. All options are, as always, mine. Affiliate links appear in this post.

[Kink Product Review] Bondage Boutique Glow-in-the-Dark Collar and Lead

This month I’ve partnered with Lovehoney to bring you a series of reviews for Sex In Full Colour in honour of Pride Month. I’ve been reviewing bright and colourful toys. Today we’ve got something a little different: a glow-in-the-dark collar and lead set from the Bondage Boutique range!

Vegan Leather Collar and Lead

Bondage Boutique is Lovehoney’s own brand line of affordable bondage and BDSM gear. While I’ve liked some pieces from the range more than others, they’re generally pretty solid quality beginner-friendly pieces. The new glow-in-the-dark range includes a blindfold, a silicone ball gag, a pair of cuffs, a flogger, a paddle, and this collar and lead set.

The Bondage Boutique Glow-in-the-Dark Collar and Lead set is made of vegan-friendly faux leather. As you might be aware, I have mixed feelings regarding real leather so it’s great to see more and more alternatives being offered. The collar and leash feature a black central stripe surrounded by two stripes that are white in daylight, and glow luminous green in the dark.

BDSM collar and leash set

It’s really hard to get a picture of it in the dark with the mediocre camera I have, so here’s one from the official product page:

BDSM collar and leash glowing in the dark

The collar and leash are connected by a 35.5″ chain which can be unclipped from the D-ring at the front centre of the collar. The leash features a looped handle in matching black and white faux leather. Comfortable to hold and convenient for keeping your pet close to you!

The product copy says this collar is “submersible” but honestly I wouldn’t recommend getting it wet. Splashes won’t do it any harm, but I wouldn’t wear it in the shower or swimming pool.

Look and Style

The black-and-white look of this collar is just unusual enough to be eyecatching, but also means it will work with most outfits. The aesthetic isn’t either particularly masculine or particularly feminine (in my opinion), so it can potentially work for a wide array of different gender expressions.

Kinky collar and lead set BDSM toy in vegan leather

The glow-in-the-dark effect is fun and quirky. You’ll never lose your submissive in a dark sex dungeon again! Overall, this collar looks stylish and understated in the light, then fun and playful in the dark.

You tell me what you think, but I think it looks really cute on me!

Woman wearing a BDSM faux leather collar vegan leather

Make and Quality

One of the things I like about the Bondage Boutique products is that they generally provide well-made items for a fraction of the price you’d pay for bespoke kink gear. While I love a high-end piece as much as anyone, it’s vital that beginners and kinksters on restricted budgets have access to safe, quality toys.

The Bondage Boutique Glow-in-the-Dark Collar and Lead set appears well made and robust. The stitching is neat and strong, and the hardware pieces are securely fastened to the faux leather. You can safely tug on your submissive’s collar or leash without any worry about damaging them. (Obviously be very careful – this collar isn’t delicate, but necks are!)

Fit and Comfort

The Glow-in-the-Dark Collar and Lead set is fully adjustable. The collar features 7 sizing holes and you could probably add another easily enough with the right tool. But it measures 20.5″ in total length and will fit the vast majority of neck sizes as it is.

I found this collar comfortable and enjoyable to wear. The material is soft and flexible and doesn’t irritate my skin. The band is narrow enough that I can wear it comfortably for hours without it affecting my posture. (I have intermittent neck and upper back pain, and collars that are too wide can exacerbate it if I wear them for too long.)

From a comfort perspective, the only downside is that the material doesn’t really “breathe” so my neck gets very sweaty after a while. If you’re wearing it in a warm environment, you might want to take it off for a few minutes occasionally to let your skin breathe.

Verdict: Enjoy Your Glow Up

This is a really cute, fun, and versatile collar and lead set. It’s also well made, strong, comfortable, and should last you a good long time. Best of all, it retails for an incredibly affordable £14.99.

Don’t forget that you can get 10% off at Lovehoney with the code “coffkink10” at checkout!

Thank you to Lovehoney for sending me this item to review. All views, as ever, are mine. This post contains affiliate links and using them supports the site at no extra cost to you.

[Kink Product Review] Tyes By Tara Vixen Tyecuffs

I’m delighted to welcome Tyes By Tara as my newest affiliate company. As soon as the team reached out to me, I knew I wanted to get my hands on some of their lovely products and share them with you all. This small, woman-founded and award-winning brand is based in the US and offers 15 categories of products including bratyes (harness and cage bras), niptyes (non-piercing nipple clamps and adornments), jewellery, and – most interesting to me – tyecuffs.

I’ll be honest, the entire Tyes By Tara collection is a dream for a femme like myself. Elegant and eyecatching pieces that are by turns playful and sensual? Hell yes!

A Touch of Luxury

Vixen Tyecuffs soft bondage handcuffs

My Tyes By Tara items came discreetly packaged in a plain box. Inside, they were beautifully wrapped in tissue paper and tied with ribbon. The parcel included not just my cuffs, but also a card with care instructions, a kind note from my contact at the company, and even a bonus free tyelet!

The customer care and attention to detail is excellent and much appreciated. The luxurious packaging and presentation got me even more excited to try out the products.

Vixen Tyecuffs: Bondage with a Femme Focus

I was spoiled for choice when it came to what to try. But, being the #Sparklefemme that I am, I had to settle on the Vixen Tyecuffs. These wide cuffs are made from sparkly rhinestone mesh and finished with satin ribbon ties.

Rhinestone handcuffs for BDSM

The Vixen Tyecuffs are available in four colourways: Black with black ribbons, diamond with black ribbons, white with white ribbons, and pink with white ribbons. They’re all beautiful, but it was the black-on-black set that caught my eye.

I can’t tell you how much I love these cuffs! They’re just absolutely gorgeous, even prettier than they look on the website. I love the way the rhinestones catch the light when I move.

Woman with hands tied up in bondage cuffs

There are some items that make me feel happy and confident just by wearing them, and these cuffs fall into that category. They speak to two aspects of my identity that are hugely important to me: my femme-ness and my submissiveness.

The Vixen Tyecuffs are comfortable, too. They’re light enough that I can put them on and then wear them for hours. They don’t irritate my skin or make my wrists sweaty. When we can finally go to sex clubs again (fuck you Covid) they’ll make a sleek and sexy addition to my outfits.

Fit and Functionality

My Vixen Tyecuffs came with very very long ribbons. Even with the cuffs tied, they still dragged on the floor when I was standing! Fortunately, the very long ribbons mean the cuffs will fit literally anyone, no matter your wrist size (they also work just as well on ankles!)

Vixen Tyecuffs rhinestone BDSM handcuffs

Just pop the cuffs on, work out how long you need the ribbons and how long you want the tails to be, then trim them to size. Don’t forget to allow extra length if you’re going to tie them to anything!

The Vixen Tyecuffs are strong and sturdily made. Despite their delicate appearance, they don’t feel as though they are flimsy or liable to break in the course of normal use.

Ribbon handcuffs for kink and BDSM

With that said, these are definitely cuffs that are for decoration and light bondage. You could certainly get tied to the bed or get your hands tied behind your back with the Vixen Tyecuffs. But they’re not designed to bear a lot of weight, so don’t use them for kinky activities where you’re putting weight on your wrists. And maybe switch out for more traditional cuffs if you’re doing a harder struggling-against-your-bonds scene!

Bonus Tyelet

I also received a bonus Tye-of-the-Month in the form of the Trainwreck Tyelet. This is a lovely little bracelet that is made of soft, stretchy elastic and features a cute black satin bow. It’s like wearing a little bow tie on my wrist!

Tyelet bow tie bracelet

The aesthetic is subtle enough to wear in public without raising eyebrows, but kinky enough to make me smile mischievously every time I look at it.

It’s actually very slightly too big for me, as I have teeny-tiny wrists, but it doesn’t need to fit snugly and still looks super cute.

Verdict & Discount Code

Gorgeous, gorgeous, gorgeous. Absolutely love them!

The Vixen Tyecuffs retail for a great value $25 (that’s around £18 to my fellow Brits.) The Trainwreck Tyelet retails for $18 (£13). You can also get 10% off anything on the site using my code “coffeeandkink” at checkout!

If you’re looking for a sweet and sexy treat for yourself or the femme in your life, take a look at the collection. I’m sure you’ll find something you love.

Thanks to Tyes By Tara for sending me the Vixen Tyecuffs and the Trainwreck Tyelet to try. All views are mine. This post contains affiliate links so if you buy through them, I’ll make a small commission at no extra cost to you.

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[Toy Review] Lovehoney Jewelled Metal Butt Plug

Sex In Full Colour in honour of Pride month continues! This month I’ve partnered with Lovehoney to bring you some reviews of some beautiful, bright and colourful pieces to help you bring the rainbow into your bedroom. Let’s take a closer look at the super-sparkly Jewelled Metal Butt Plug.

Bedazzle Your Booty with the Jewelled Metal Butt Plug

The Jewelled Metal Butt Plug from Lovehoney is 3.5″ in total length, of which 3″ is insertable length. It is made of a shiny metal that is silver in colour and reflective (more on the material in a minute.) It weighs in at a hefty 240g and measures 1.4″ in diameter at the widest point.

Sparkly jewelled butt plug from Lovehoney

This jewelled plug is adorned in the base with a sparkly gem that catches the light and shines with different colours. The most prominent colours are green, yellow-gold, and blue. In fact, the effect is similar to the surface of the Irridescent Anal Beads I tried last week. It’s striking and beautiful.

The Jewelled Metal Butt Plug is suitable for use in water.

Tell Me More About this Metal?

The Jewelled Metal Butt Plug from Lovehoney is made from a zinc alloy. This isn’t actually listed on the site (it’s just listed as generic “metal”) but is mentioned in the small print on the box.

Metal butt plug metal sex toy

Is zinc alloy body safe? All my research seems to indicate yes, with caveats. “Zinc alloy” means the zinc is mixed with something else, but we don’t know what. Copper and nickel are the most common zinc alloys so, while copper is unlikely to be problematic for most people, nickel can be an issue if you’re sensitive to it.

Zinc alloy is non-porous and non-toxic unless you’re allergic, but won’t have the long-term durability of stainless steel. So don’t expect it to last you a lifetime. The advantage of zinc over stainless steel is that it’s far, far cheaper.

Zinc alloy plugs are easy to clean. I wouldn’t boil sterilise this toy because I’m not sure how the jewel is held in place or if it can withstand high temperatures. It’s best to clean it using a 10% bleach solution (9 parts water to 1 part bleach) and then rinse and dry it thoroughly.

Enough With the Science, How Does it Feel?

The Jewelled Metal Butt Plug slides inside comfortably with plenty of water-based anal lube. The tapered tip and curved, smooth sides make it a breeze to insert, and the narrow neck ensures it stays in place. Unlike some metal plugs I’ve tried, I didn’t feel as though it was about to slip out at any second.

Butt plug base with sparkly jewel

Metal sex toys are particularly fun because they feel super intense. The hard, unyielding material constantly reminds you of its presence every time you move, which can be really sexy. You also really feel the weight of it.

The other fun thing about metal toys is the temperature play potential. The Jewelled Metal Butt Plug retains heat and cold. Put it in the fridge or run it under warm water before use for extra sensations.

Due to the rigidity, I wouldn’t say this is a plug for long-term wear for most people. I found the edges of the base started to be painful against my butt cheeks after a while! For me, this is a “wear for a short time in the bedroom” plug, not a “wear all day” plug.

Final Thoughts

If you’re looking for an affordable metal plug and not expecting it to last you forever, the Jewelled Metal Butt Plug is a great pick. It retails for an affordable £24.99 and will be safe for most people (again, exercise caution if you have a nickel allergy.)

The sparkly jewel in the base is a fun and striking addition if pretty colours and shiny things make you happy. It’s not the smallest, so probably best for anal players with some experience.

Don’t forget to use code “coffkink10” at checkout for 10% off your entire Lovehoney order!

Thanks to Lovehoney for sending me this product to review. All views, as always, are mine. Affiliate links appear in this post!

[Toy Review] Pillow Talk Cheeky Wireless Wand Vibrator

I fell in love with Pillow Talk when I reviewed the Sassy a few months back. So, when I got the chance to try out another of their range, I was only too happy to oblige. Even more exciting: it’s a wand, and we all know how I feel about those!

Once again, this product was sent to me for review by the lovely team at Self & More, a boutique woman-owned sex shop based in the UK.

Let’s take a closer look at the Pillow Talk Cheeky.

Pillow Talk Cheeky: Basic Info

The Pillow Talk Cheeky is a wireless wand style vibrator, 8″ in length. In the box you’ll find the toy, charging cable, a branded storage pouch, instructions, and even a little cleaning brush to help you keep your toy in tip-top condition. How cool is that?

Pillow Talk Cheeky magic wand vibrator

The Cheeky comes in a gorgeous turquoise/teal green colour, which is one of my favourite colours in general. I particularly love it for sex toys because it’s just so unusual (and pretty!) The Cheeky is also available in pink, if that’s more your thing.

The Pillow Talk Cheeky is 100% water resistant. It is rechargeable via the included USB cable. By the way, since I got a bit confused: remove the little green or pink piece in the base of the handle to reveal the charging port. It also comes with a travel lock, for those times when we can eventually travel again… (*sighs longingly*)

That Motor Tho…

I was expecting great things from the Pillow Talk Cheeky, given that amazing motor in the Sassy. I was not disappointed! The power starts off at an impressive rumble and builds to knock-your-socks-off intensity. I don’t really have much more to say on this subject – it is simply epic!

User Experience & Interface

The Pillow Talk Cheeky utilises a single button interface. The button, by the way, is a light-catching Swarovski crystal – super cute for a #SparkleFemme like myself.

Green wand vibrator Pillow Talk Cheeky

The controls on this toy are a little unusual. You press the button once to switch it on and off, and then hold it down to ramp up the power. I actually like this, because it allows for really fine grading on exactly what level of power you want. Getting from the lowest to the highest setting takes a full ten seconds, to give you an idea of how much range this thing has!

The light will flash while you’re turning up the power, then stop flashing when you’ve reached the highest level.

The Cheeky is lovely to hold thanks to the plushy soft silicone and gently cushioned handle. The neck is flexible, making it easy to angle the toy just right, however you prefer your stimulation. It’s also relatively light, and the vibrations are concentrated in the head and don’t transmit too much through the handle.

Green magic wand vibrator clitoral sex toy

So are there any downsides to the Pillow Talk Cheeky? Honestly, the only one I can find is the battery life. I charged it fully and it lasted less than an hour. This isn’t actually a massive problem in the context of a toy that typically gets me off in less than 5 minutes, but it’s something to be aware of if you take longer to come or like to go several times in one session!

Verdict

The Pillow Talk Cheeky is a big winner. Powerful, ergonomic, and cute into the bargain! I love it and I’ve already found myself reaching for it regularly. It’s an ideal toy when I want the broad and powerful stimulation of a wand, but don’t have the energy to hold a full-size one.

The Pillow Talk Cheeky retails for £50.00. See below for a discount code!

Thanks to Self & More for sending me the Pillow Talk Cheeky to review. All opinions, as ever, are mine. Shopping with Self & More using my links sends a small commission my way and if you use my code, you can enjoy 10% off your entire order.

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[Kink Product Review] Dominix Deluxe Lockable Chastity Belt

If you’ve been reading my blog for more than five minutes, you probably know that I have an orgasm control kink a mile wide. This manifests in lots of ways – edging, denial, forced orgasms occasionally and, yes, chastity.

Chastity belts for folks with vulvas (often called “female chastity belts”, but let’s not gender things unnecessarily!) are tricky to get right. They’re either wildly impractical, wildly expensive, or often both. Unlike the cock cages for penis owners that you can buy from almost any sex shop, they’re considered far more niche kink items.

Lovehoney were kind enough to send me the Dominix Deluxe Studded Leather Lockable Chastity Belt (to give it its full title) for review. How did I get on?

A Closer Look at the Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt

The Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt is made of real leather. I’ve spoken before about my uneasy relationship with leather – my kink brain loves it, but my ethical vegetarian brain feels conflicted. You must make your own decisions about how comfortable you feel buying, wearing, and using leather kink gear.

Lovehoney Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt

The Lockable Chastity Belt has a wider panel at the front, which covers most of the vulva, and then thinner straps between the legs and around the back. It is decorated with metal studs on the front, and features three metal buckles, each with a mini padlock. Each padlock comes with two keys. As far as we can tell, the padlocks and keys are interchangeable.

How Comfortable Is It?

The Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt is fairly comfortable once it’s been worn in. The leather is a little stiff at first but it softens up as you wear and handle it. I found that wearing it around the house over my clothing helped to speed up the leather softening.

Some other reviewers have complained about the leather digging into their inner thighs, but I didn’t really find that to be a problem. It might just be a personal thing depending on how it sits on your body.

Lockable chastity belt female chastity belt from Lovehoney

The Lockable Chastity Belt is very adjustable, with ten holes for each buckle. I’m a UK size 12 at the moment and it fits me with plenty of room to spare. According to the product page, the waist adjusts from 26 to 46 inches and the crotch strap adjusts from 14 to 23 inches.

How Secure Is It?

Welllll…. it depends what you mean by “secure.”

The padlocks are pretty flimsy. The wearer could probably break them fairly easily if they were so inclined. But given that the point of being locked in chastity is (presumably) because the wearer wants to be locked in chastity, I don’t really see why they would. If you want to make the belt more secure, you could easily swap out the provided padlocks with larger and more robust ones.

When I’m wearing the Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt, even when it’s fastened pretty tight, I can still get to my vulva… kind of. I can get at least a couple of fingers under the leather. So it doesn’t completely prevent all contact, but it makes it hard to impossible to touch myself in the way that would actually get me off.

Incidentally, the leather is pretty thin and I think I could probably press a wand vibrator to the front and still reach orgasm. So yes, if you want absolute security against any and all stimulation, this probably isn’t the belt for you.

How Practical Is It?

Honestly not very at all, but I think that’s a symptom of the reality of chastity belts for vulva owners rather than anything wrong with this particular product.

When I read erotica about chastity (which, erm, I do quite a lot) the belts tend to be super high tech and allow for all-day wear as well as using the bathroom… and somehow stay hygienic. I’m going to chalk this up to an unrealistic fantasy that doesn’t currently exist. I bave never seen a chastity belt for vulva owners that could even remotely be described as practical. If someone has created one, please let me know!

So no, you (probably) can’t wear the Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt all day and you (probably) can’t sleep in it or anything like that. Incidentally, since leather is porous, this piece should also be fluid-bonded to one person once it’s been worn without clothing underneath.

How Sexy Is It?

The aesthetic of the Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt is a classic black leather BDSM look. It’s pretty sexy in its simplicity and I do like how it looks when I’m wearing it. I think it’d be fun to wear out to a kink club when we can go to those again.

Chastity play, like so much of BDSM, is at least as much about the mindset and headspace as it is about the physical acts. I’ve been doing denial/chastity play with lovers for years and have never really used a physical device until this one arrived.

The fun for me isn’t so much in the device itself, but in what it represents. Even though it doesn’t actually completely prevent me from touching myself, and probably wouldn’t completely prevent me from reaching orgasm, the physical barrier serves as a reminder that while I’m wearing it, my pleasure belongs to somebody else.

And that is sexy as hell.

Final Verdict

My verdict here really depends what you’re looking for. If you’re looking for a genuinely secure chastity device that stops all stimulation, this isn’t it. But if you’re looking for a fun and relatively comfortable piece for scene play, kink club outings, or short-term fun, then this is a great buy.

The Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt retails for £39.99 from Lovehoney. Use my code coffkink10 to get 10% off at checkout!

Thanks to Lovehoney for sending me the Dominix Lockable Chastity Belt for review. Pics courtesy of Lovehoney because I am way too shy to post pics of myself actually wearing a chastity belt! All views, as always, are mine. Shopping with my affiliates sends me a small commission which supports the blog!