How to Have Sex When It’s Too Damn Hot

Fucking hell, it’s hot right now isn’t it!? I don’t know about you guys, but I really struggle with having sex in hot weather. Somehow, when I’m already hot and sweaty, getting hotter and sweatier just isn’t appealing.

Just for fun I thought I’d share some of my top tips for getting it on when it’s hotter than hell outside.

Try ice play

Ice play is a form of sensation play that involves running a piece of ice over your lover’s body (or letting the ice melt in your hand and dripping the cold water all over them.)

It’s super fun as part of a kink game, because the cold is INTENSE. Some people even describe it as a kind of pain. But ice play can be a different kind of fun in the hot weather, as it can actually cool you down enough to be ready to fuck.

Play with mutual masturbation instead

If you’re both feeling horny and wanting to get off, but the idea of fucking in this heat just makes you want to melt into a puddle, try playing with mutual masturbation instead.

Wanking together allows you to enjoy a sexual connection without the exertion – or shared body heat – that comes with fucking. Mix things up by watching porn together, reading erotica aloud to each other, or dirty-talking through some of your favourite fantasies.

Put a glass dildo in the fridge

Whenever I review glass sex toys, I’m always banging on about their temperature play possibilities! But seriously, if you haven’t tried this, you really should.

Pop your glass dildo in the fridge for 15 minutes before you start playing, and you’ll be able to cool down while things heat up.

Take a cool shower together

I’m not necessarily an advocate of actually fucking in the shower, as it can be a little logistically problematic unless you’re very flexible and/or have very good balance. But taking a cool shower together can be a great sexy activity in and of itself, or can be a nice way to cool off enough to have sex.

If you are going to do any kind of genital play in the shower, remember to use plenty of lube. Silicone-based is best for this. The water washes away your natural lubrication!

How do you keep things sexy in hot weather, babes?

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[Toy Review] Lovehoney Pure Pleasure Sensual Glass Butt Plug

I love a glass sex toy! Ever since I first held a glass dildo in my hands at a fetish market sometime circa 2010 and knew I just had to buy it, I’ve had a huge thing for them. Glass is brilliant for a number of reasons. It’s body-safe (more on that in a minute). It’s rigid, unyeilding and just insistent. And it’s just so pretty! So it was lovely to find the Pure Pleasure Sensual Glass Butt Plug in my package of Masturbation Month goodies from Lovehoney.

The Lovehoney Pure Pleasure Sensual Glass Butt Plug

Important facts ‘n’ figures

The Pure Pleasure Plug is a classic glass butt plug. It’s smooth, gently tapered, and has a good sized flared base (which is very important for anything going in your butt!)

The Pure Pleasure Plug is 4.5 inches in length, of which just over 4 inches are insertable. It is made of clear glass and has the Lovehoney heart insignia stamped on the base.

The Lovehoney Pure Pleasure Sensual Glass Butt Plug

It also comes with a little black velvety storage pouch with a pink drawstring. This is both cute and helps to keep your toy safe in storage.

Is it safe to use a glass butt plug?

Yes!

Glass sex toys are made of borosilicate glass, which is annealed to make it very tough and hardwearing. The chances of your glass butt plug breaking in use are near zero.

If you drop it on a hard surface, though, you should retire it – even if it looks fine. This can damage the glass in ways that aren’t immediately visible, compromising its safety.

Borosilicate glass is phthalate-free, non-toxic, and non-porous. This means it’s an ideal material for a body-safe sex toy! As an added bonus, you can use your glass plug with all kinds of lube. Water-based will always be my top pick, but oil-based or silicone-based are fine too if that’s what you prefer.

Clean your Pure Pleasure Plug with warm water and gentle soap, a sterile medical wipe, or a 10% bleach solution. I’m squeamish about sharing anal toys, but it is safe to do so as long as you completely sterilise it between users. The Pure Pleasure Plug is condom-compatible.

How does it feel?

Mmmmmfff, I love this plug.

Let me clarify: I need to be warmed up well in order to comfortably use this plug. It works best after I’ve used a smaller plug in a softer material like silicone, been well warmed up with fingers, or had a clitoral orgasm already.

The Lovehoney Pure Pleasure Sensual Glass Butt Plug

Glass toys have no give at all. Some people find them uncomfortable for this reason. Those of us who love them tend to enjoy the challenge of taking a solid, unyeilding toy.

As glass plugs go, this one is pretty comfy! The gentle taper makes insertion comfortable and means that nothing digs in anywhere it shouldn’t.

This is definitely a “play plug” for me. It’s too heavy and too solid to be practical for wearing for longer periods of time while I go about my day. A silicone plug works better for that purpose.

Some fun things to try with your Pure Pleasure Plug

One of the fun things about glass toys is that they can be used for temperature play. You can cool your glass butt plug by popping it in the fridge for 20 minutes before play, or warm it by running it under warm (NOT hot) water for a few moments.

I also enjoy the way that glass conducts vibrations. If you enjoy vibrations, try pressing a wand or other powerful vibrator against the base of your plug when it’s inside you. This is particularly pleasurable for many people with prostates, but can be enjoyed by anyone! People with vulvas may find that this indirectly stimulates the G-spot, which can be super hot.

So what’s the verdict?

This is a great little plug for the price! The Pure Pleasure Sensual Glass Butt Plug retails for just £19.99 at Lovehoney. Don’t forget to grab some good quality lube to go with it!

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[Toy Review] Lovehoney Beaded Heart Glass Dildo

Glass sex toys are enduringly popular for a reason. They’re really pretty, body-safe, often very affordable, and feel fucking amazing. So I was thrilled when the very sweet and generous lockdown care package I received from Lovehoney contained this little (well, not so little) beauty! Meet the Lovehoney Beaded Heart Glass Dildo.

The Lovehoney Beaded Glass Heart Dildo

What’s in the box?

My Glass Heart Dildo arrived in Lovehoney’s signature pink and white branded packaging. Inside is the toy (wrapped in a generous amount of thick packing foam for safe transportation,) and a useful and stylish black velvety storage bag with pink drawstrings.

The Lovehoney Beaded Glass Heart Dildo

The Lovehoney Beaded Glass Heart Dildo is 8 inches in total length, of which around 6 inches are insertable. At its widest point the diameter is 1.4″. Glass toys tend to be heavy, and this one weighs in at a hefty 310g.

This toy is super pretty. I love the aesthetic of glass toys and the pink heart handle with the Lovehoney heart insignia stamped on it adds a cute femme touch to this one. I’m sure they’d sell even more if it came in different colour options!

Are glass toys body-safe?

Yep!

Properly made glass sex toys are made from annealed borosilicate glass. This type of glass is non-porous and phthalate-free, and therefore the ideal material for body-safe sex toys. This type of glass is also hardwearing and sturdy. There’s virtually no risk of it breaking inside your body. Use with confidence!

The Lovehoney Beaded Glass Heart Dildo

A couple of caveats:

Be careful how you store your glass toy, because it could break if you drop it or put something heavy on top of it. If you accidentally drop your toy on a hard surface, even if it looks fine, I advise retiring it. There could be fractures in the glass which you can’t see but which compromise its integrity and safety. And please, please do not use any glass items as sex toys that were not designed for that purpose! (Or any item, frankly.)

You can use any type of body-safe lube with a glass toy. Water-based is nearly always my preference, but silicone-based and oil-based are fine too, so pick what works for you.

Clean your glass toy with soap and warm water, a body-safe sterile wipe (I buy mine in bulk from a medical supplier,) or a 10% bleach solution. You can also put a condom over it if you want to share it with a partner without sterilising in between, if you’re not fluid-bonded.

How easy is it to hold and manipulate?

The heart at the top of the Beaded Glass Heart Dildo makes a convenient handle for ease of use. It fits well in my small hand. Folks with bigger hands might find it a little more challenging.

The Lovehoney Beaded Glass Heart Dildo

If you struggle with heavy toys, it’s worth bearing the weight of this one in mind. It was fine for me, but some people might find the heft of a large glass toy difficult.

How does it feel?

I’m in love with the feel of this dildo! I love the unyielding rigidity of glass, the ridges along the shaft feel delicious, and the bulbous head at the end is perfect for targeted G-spot stimulation. The weight of it also gives an amazing full feeling.

Personally I don’t like to thrust with glass dildos, as I find it intense to the point of being unpleasant. Instead I like to get it into the right position and then wiggle it gently. Other fun things to do include having this toy inside you while you use a clitoral vibrator, or pressing a powerful wand vibrator against the base of the dildo. The glass transmits the vibrations all the way inside for intense G-spot stimulation!

Another wonderful thing about glass dildos? They’re ideal for temperature play! Pop your Glass Heart Dildo in the fridge for 20 minutes before using it, or run it under some warm (not hot!) water. The change in temperature wakes your nerves up and makes the sensations extra intense.

Is it anal safe?

I deliberated on this one, but I’m going to say yes. The flared ridge and fairly large heart handle mean that the odds of anything going wrong if you use this toy anally are very very small. Remember to use plenty of lube – the butt isn’t self-lubricating, and using something rigid like a glass toy without sufficient lube can be painful or even cause tearing.

Final thoughts: do I recommend it?

I really love this dildo! Glass toys are an enduring favourite of mine for all the reasons listed above, and the Beaded Glass Heart Dildo delivers spectacularly. A+, highly recommended. And at just £29.99, it’s an absolute steal!

Thank you to Lovehoney, who sent me the Beaded Glass Heart Dildo as part of a very sweet lockdown care package. This post contains affiliate links and buying through them supports my work at no extra cost to you!

5 Pervertables You Probably Have in Your House Right Now

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Pervertables are basically innocent everyday items, reimagined for naughty and devious purposes. As today’s 30 Days of D/s prompt is all about pain, I thought I’d tell you a few of my favourite household pervertables for sadomasochistic purposes. They’re great if you want to get your kink on but you’re on a budget, if you want to try a new sensation without blowing loads of cash, or if you find yourself somewhere without your toybag and want to have some fun.

Clothes Pegs

Clothes pegs are amazing! Plastic ones with soft pads on the teeth tend to be a bit less vicious, whereas wooden ones are often more pinchy. This can vary enormously so do test them sneakily on your finger before buying if you can.

Use them on nipples, labia, clits, cocks, or most sensitive fleshy areas (keep away from the face and neck.) Try putting a line of clothes pegs along your masochist’s back, tying them all together with string or twine, and pulling them all of at once. (Don’t surprise someone with this the first time you do it – it’s quite intense and not for everyone. Consent, y’all.)

Pro tip: if you leave them on for more than a few minutes, they’ll hurt like a motherfucker when you take them off. This goes for any type of clamps.

Wooden Spoon

Arguably the ultimate household spanking implement, wooden spoons deliver a surprisingly sharp whack. Much like with canes, the pain comes in waves – initially when the blow hits, and then a few moments later as all the nerves fully register the impact. Implements like this are pretty safe when used on fleshy places like butts, though do start slowly and gently. You’d be surprised how much one of these can hurt!

Hairbrush

Traditionally associated with over-the-knee spanking, hairbrushes remain ever popular hitty implements. Different sizes, shapes and materials feel really different. Make no assumptions, build up slowly and communicate lots with your partner about how it feels. One brush will not feel the same as another. Use the back of the brush (i.e. not the bristles) and bend your sub over the bed or your lap for a delicious sexy spanking.

Ice

Ice is brilliant! You can run it over the body for a cold tease, press it to a nipple or clit, trail icy droplets over them, or even put a small piece of ice into the vagina (make sure they’re well lubricated first, or the ice can stick. Not what you want!)

Ice play doesn’t have to be painful and can be quite sensual, but it definitely can be painful if that’s what you want. Typically, ice in very sensitive places will become painful quite quickly. You could also try pressing it to one spot for a few seconds. Don’t let your partner get too cold, though – get them dry and warm after ice play.

Kinky item of the day: I just listed them! Go forth and pervert. (And tell me YOUR favourite pervertables in the comments or on Twitter.)

Ginger

At some point I’m going to write a whole post on figging – the practice of sticking a piece of peeled ginger up someone’s butt. But for now, just believe me when I tell you, that shit is INTENSE. The best description I can come up with is that it’s an intense burning sensation.

Some people love it, some hate it. If you’re curious, give it a go, but don’t expect to be able to keep it in long… and remember, the burning can take a little while to fully settle down even when the ginger is removed. (On my first experience, I had some discomfort for about an hour afterwards, which settled down a lot when I took a really thorough shower.)

Kinky item of the day: They’re all listed above! Go forth, pervert innocent objects, and don’t forget to tell me your favourite pervertables in the comments.

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