What is a BDSM Starter Kit and How Can It Help You Explore Kink?

“I’d love to start exploring BDSM, but all the gear is so expensive!” is a complaint I hear from new and curious kinksters all the time. “I don’t even know what I like yet, how can I get started without dropping hundreds of pounds on things I might not enjoy?”

And I hear you, budget-conscious newbie. Perhaps you’ve perused your local fetish market and picked up artisan floggers, hand-dyed natural fiber ropes, or vintage violet wands, then shuddered at the price tags.

I absolutely love beautiful, unique, one-of-a-kind kink items and I believe we should all be supporting our favourite indie creators within the community. Once you know you enjoy impact play, for example, that buttery soft leather flogger with a hand-turned handle might be a worthwhile investment that will serve you well for many years. But when you’re just starting out, that can be a prohibitive amount of money to drop on a “well, that might be fun…”

Budget constraints and curiosity sometimes lead new kinksters to improvise. Some pervertables are fine, of course, but in other cases using household items for kink can be dangerous.

This is where a BDSM starter kit can help you.

What is a BDSM Starter Kit or Bondage Kit for Beginners?

A BDSM starter kit might also be called a “bondage kit.” In short, it’s a collection of kink items bundled together in a package designed to help you explore.

Some of the items you might find in a beginners’ BDSM or bondage kit include:

  • Impact toys such as floggers, crops, or paddles
  • Restraints such as handcuffs, wrist ties, or bondage tape
  • Rope
  • Gags
  • Blindfolds
  • Collars and/or leashes
  • Clamps and clips (e.g. for nipples)
  • Sensation play items such as strokers or ticklers
  • Sex toys such as vibrators, cock rings, dildos, or strap-ons
  • Wax play candles
  • …and more!

Every BDSM starter kit is slightly different. You’ll need to choose the best one for you depending on your needs, budget, and interests.

How Can a Beginners’ Bondage Kit Help You to Explore?

What is it that interests you about bondage, kink, or BDSM?

If I asked this question to ten different newcomers to the world of kink, I would probably get ten very different answers. That’s because BDSM is a vast and varied world, encompassing all kinds of activities from impact play to power exchange, shibari to sensation play, and so much more.

This vastness is exciting, but can also be overwhelming and confusing. Investing in a BDSM starter kit can be a great place to start for several reasons.

Variety Without the Price-Tag

A kit allows you to try several different things at an affordable price. Perhaps you think you might be into pain, but you also fancy the idea of getting tied up… ooh, and that “wax play” thing sounds exciting, too! A good BDSM starter kit gives you an entry point for several different kinks.

This way, when you find something you like, you can explore it further. And if you find something isn’t for you, then you’ve learned something valuable about your desires without having spent a lot of money on a toy that will languish in the back of the bedroom closet.

Easy and Convenient

A beginners’ bondage kit or BDSM kit takes the guesswork out of kinky shopping. When you’re new, you don’t always know what you don’t know, and trying to buy toys can be confusing at best. A kit gives you an easy, one-stop place to get started.

Staying Safe

As I touched on above, improvising your kinky toys can be dangerous. Spanking your partner with a wooden spoon is likely fine, but did you know that tying someone up with a silk scarf is actually much less safe than using proper bondage rope?

Bondage kits sold by reputable retailers include products specially designed for kinky play that will help you to stay safe as long as you observe basic precautions and practice RACK (that’s Risk Aware Consensual Kink, FYI.)

Get Inspired

It’s a cliché, but a truism, that the brain is the body’s biggest and most important sexual organ. The real magic of BDSM isn’t just the feel of a flogger across your back or cuffs tightening around your wrists, but what’s happening in your mind – and in your dynamic with your partner(s) – as those things happen.

Your BDSM kit might contain items you’ve never thought to use before, and this can spark all kinds of ideas, fantasies, and inspiration.

Choose the Best Bondage Kit for You

Ready to dive in? Here are a few things you’ll want to take into consideration in choosing the best bondage kit for you.

Budget

A BDSM starter kit can cost you under £20 for the most basic kit, up to £150 or more for a comprehensive kit with all the bells and whistles.

Interests

Think about the aspects of kink that interest you the most, and prioritise. If your primary interest is in restraint, you’ll want a kit that includes ropes and/or cuffs. If you’re more interested in pain, choose a kit that comes with paddles, floggers, or crops.

Aesthetic

Yes, it matters! BDSM is a very personal thing, and different aesthetics resonate with different people. If you’re after a darker, more atmospheric mood, an all-black set might suit you. If, on the other hand, you prefer a more colourful and playful feel, you might like reds, pinks or purples. Then there are completely offbeat options, like this denim set!

This post was kindly sponsored by Whipple Tickle. You can shop bondage kits as well as sex toys, lingerie, kink gear, and more at their site. All views and writing are, as always, mine.

[Toy Review] The Rabbit Company G-Spot Rabbit

The Rabbit Company’s “Come Hither” Rabbit was one of the first toys I reviewed way back in 2017. If you ignore my clunky “brand new sex blogger” review style, I stand by my basic assertion. I love that toy and I still use it from time to time even now. This week, I’ve received my second ever Rabbit Company product courtesy of my friends at Whipple Tickle: the G-Spot Rabbit.

Rabbit Company G-Spot Rabbit vibrator

Rabbit vibrators are controversial, and for good reason. Despite being held up as the pinnacle of sex toys for people with vulvas, they actually don’t work very well for a lot of bodies. There are various reasons for this.

I couldn’t find any reliable statistics but at least anecdotally, clitoral stimulation is the primary way that many vulva owners masturbate. Many never penetrate themselves at all. I very rarely do, except when I’m testing a penetrative toy. So it makes sense that Rabbits, which only allow for combined stimulation, won’t work for everyone.

Secondly, many rabbit vibrators are simply not very well designed. They are too rigid and inflexible, with the internal and external arms fixed in position. And since bodies – including genitals – come in all different shapes and sizes, this means they will be a poor fit for many users. I’ve tried many rabbit vibrators that could only reach my clit if I angled them so strangely that I was basically poking myself in the vaginal wall with the shaft. Not sexy.

With that said, though, I had high hopes for the G-Spot Rabbit. After how much I liked the Come Hither Rabbit, I hoped this one might be similarly excellent. Was it? Let’s find out.

Details

The Rabbit Company G-Spot Rabbit measures 8 inches in total length (5″ insertable) and 1.5″ in diameter at the widest point. It is rechargeable via the included USB charger. Weirdly, though, it’s not waterproof, which I find odd in a toy of this price-point. Perhaps I’ve been spoiled but I feel like waterproof should come as standard for any toy over about £50 unless it’s mains-powered. This oversight also makes cleaning a bit of a pain.

Rabbit Company G-Spot Rabbit vibrator

The G-Spot Rabbit is made of soft and body-safe silicone in a bright shade of purple. Its handle is white and the buttons are matching purple silicone.

What I Liked About the G-Spot Rabbit

Let’s start with the good, shall we?

I really like the shape of the G-Spot Rabbit’s shaft. It’s smooth and comfortable to insert, and the curve is perfect. In terms of G-spotting success, it definitely lives up to its name. The slightly bulbous head also gives a nice level of G-spot pressure.

In terms of positioning, the G-Spot Rabbit works really well for my body. The internal and external arms fit really nicely with my anatomy. Obviously all bodies are different so your mileage may vary. It’s got a little flex to it, though, so there is some space for adjustment depending on what works for you.

I also really like this toy’s buttons and controls. You can control the two motors – the one in the shaft and the one in the clitoral stimulator – separately. The controls take a little getting used to but once you’ve figured out which button does what, you’re good to go. This is particularly great for me because I don’t actually like vibrations internally very much, so being able to enjoy the G-spot pressure alongside the clitoral vibrations with the internal motor switched off (or on low) is ideal.

Rabbit Company G-Spot Rabbit vibrator buttons

The buttons are well-placed and easy to press, and their raised icons make it easy to find the right one without looking. There are six inbuilt patterns for each motor but, as usual, steady vibrations are what I’m most interested in.

Finally, I like the shape and flexibility of the bunny ears. They’re small enough to offer a decent amount of precision, targeted clitoral stimulation, and flexible enough that I can position them directly on my clit, over the hood, or around the sides depending on what I’m in the mood for.

Anything I Didn’t Like?

My biggest complaint with the G-Spot Rabbit is definitely the buzziness of the vibrations. They’re strong, but they’re not rumbly, which is a pretty big downside for me. It can get me off about 50% of the time, and the trick seems to be to use it when I’m already very aroused. If I try to use it from cold, my clit tends to get numb from the buzzing before I can cum.

Rabbit Company G-Spot Rabbit vibrator

When I first took the G-Spot Rabbit out of its packaging, I liked the look of the little tickly “whiskers” beneath the bunny ears. Unfortunately, in use, I can’t feel them at all. They’re just positioned completely wrong to make any kind of contact with my clit. Which is super disappointing because honestly they look like they’d feel really good.

Verdict

Rabbit vibrators are always going to be a bit of a gamble. They’re quite a specific shape and it’s hard to tell what will work for your particular body until you try. With that said, though, there are good and bad rabbits out there and the Rabbit Company G-Spot Rabbit is pretty firmly in the “good ones” camp despite a couple of issues.

If you’re looking for very rumbly vibrations (or something you can use in water), skip this one. But if you’re after a solid dual-stimulation toy with independent controls, and don’t mind a little buzz, it’s a great choice.

The G-Spot Rabbit by The Rabbit Company retails for £140.99 (but is currently on sale for £118.99.)

Thanks to Whipple Tickle for sending me this product to review. All views are, as always, my own. Affiliate links appear in this post.

[Toy Review] Whipple Tickle Alien Dildo with Suction Cup Type II

I’m going to be frank and say that I don’t really “get” fantasy sex toys – things that look like monsters, aliens, tentacles, and so on. No judgement if you’re into such things, obviously. Your kink is okay! But, cards on the table, they’re not my kink.

Even so, I get asked about fantasy toys more than just about any other category. And I’ve always been a bit stumped for what to recommend because they’re just not things I buy or use. Even so, I like to think that I’m educated and experieced enough in this industry, after close to seven years, to give an objective assessment of a toy’s quality even if it’s not really “my thing.” So with that in mind, I thought it was time I reviewed a few fantasy sex toys for you all.

Whipple Tickle Alien Dildo Type II

Whipple Tickle kindly sent me their Alien Dildo Type II with Suction Cup. This medium-large toy measures 8.3″ in total length, of which around 6″ are insertable (perhaps a little more if you’re feeling ambitious) and 1.7″ in diameter at the widest point of the shaft. It features a suction cup base which you can stick to any firm, flat surface.

Whipple Tickle Alien Dildo Type II

The Alien Dildo Type II is made of matte silicone, which is body-safe and non-porous. It’s very grabby in texture, so plenty of water-based lube will be essential. It also features a number of ridges and grooves in the silicone, so take extra care when you clean it after use if you haven’t used a condom. It’s easy for bacteria to get trapped in those spaces and cause infection if you’re not thorough.

The Alien Dildo Type II’s main colour is blue, with flecks of gold and pink. It’s genuinely a very aesthetically pleasing toy. Even if you’re not into the fantasy alien look, the swirled together colours and slight shimmery effect are beautiful. Its elaborate design is fun and unusual. I particularly like the ornate swirls around the outside of the suction cup base.

In Use

The Alien Dildo Type II starts narrow at the top and then widens towards the base with a series of bulges along the shaft. The silicone doesn’t have much “squish”, but the shaft as a whole is fairly flexible. This allows for easy and comfortable insertion, as well as more precise positioning.

This toy’s shape isn’t a brilliant fit for my body. I much prefer curved toys, and the Alien Dildo Type II is pretty much straight (<insert “unlike me, lol” joke here!>) I’m also not super into a lot of texture, which I tend to find uncomfortable at best and painful at worst. Simple, smooth and gently curved dildos are my go-tos. I can sort of get the Alien Dildo Type II to hit my G-spot if I angle it carefully enough, but overall the shape isn’t quite right for me.

Whipple Tickle Alien Dildo Type II

However, bodies and preferences are different! If you enjoy straighter toys or those with more texture, you’ll probably like this one. It’s all a matter of individual tastes.

The Alien Dildo Type II’s suction cup is ultra strong and secure. (Seriously, you should have seen me trying to peel the damn thing off the side of my shower during testing!) So if you enjoy using dildos hands-free, that’s a big advantage. The suction cup also makes it harness-compatible for strap-on play, as well as anal-safe.

Verdict

I’m sticking with my basic assessment from the beginning of this post: alien dildos aren’t really my thing. It’s just not a kink I have. Even so, it is a very common kink and if it’s your thing, I’m happy to recommend this toy. In addition, the shape of this toy doesn’t really work for me but that doesn’t necessarily mean it won’t work brilliantly for you.

The Alien Dildo Type II is body-safe, well-designed, visually pleasing, and – here’s the real kicker for me – retails for an astonishingly affordable £29.99.

Thanks to Whipple Tickle for sending me this product to review. All views and experiences are, as always, my own. Affiliate links appear within this post and using them sends me a small commission at no additional cost to you.

[Toy Review] Icicles No. 24 Glass Tentacle Dildo

Fantasy sex toys are probably the single category that I get asked about the most and have to respond “I truly don’t have a fucking clue.” Absolutely zero judgement if you want to fuck things that look like monsters or aliens or tentacles, of course. YKINMKBYKIOK! But it’s not my thing. Even so, given that I get asked about them constantly, I thought it might be time to try some out and see if I can gather some recommendations for you all.

My pals at Whipple Tickle, a new UK-based sex shop selling a vast range of products, kindly sent me a couple of products to try. First up is the Icicles No. 24, a glass tentacle dildo by Pipedream Products.

Icicles No. 24 Glass Tentacle Dildo

The Icicles No. 24 is a glass tentacle dildo measuring 6″ in total length (5″ insertable.) It is made from borosilicate glass – the same stuff as Pyrex cookware. This material is body-safe, non-porous, hypoallergenic, and surprisingly strong. There’s no way a glass toy is going to break inside you, so please put that fear to bed now. (Though if you drop the toy on a hard floor, it’s best to retire it. Even if it looks okay, there may be cracks that you can’t see.)

Icicles No. 24 glass tentacle dildo

The Icicles No. 24 is easy to clean using warm soapy water, boiling water, a sterile wipe, or a 10% bleach solution. As it’s non-porous and has no motor, it’s safe to use in water. The curved tail “handle” also means you can safety use the Icicles No. 24 anally, if you want to.

The Icicles No. 24 is very pretty, with a lovely pink hue to the glass. I can see that, if you have that particular kink, it could be very sexy.

In Use: What I Didn’t Like

After many years of trying and reviewing virtually every variety of sex toy under the sun, I have had to concede to the point that I just don’t particularly like very textured internal toys. I find them overstimulating to the point of painful more than I find them arousing.

Icicles No. 24 glass tentacle dildo

I really gave the Icicles No. 24 a damn good go and I wanted to love it much more than I did. Unfortunately it’s just not one that’s a good fit for my body. Even with plenty of lube, it’s slightly too wide for me to insert comfortably. The bumps on the top of the shaft also caused me pain rather than pleasure.

It’s important to say, though, that this is a matter of personal preference. There’s not much inherently wrong with this toy and, if your preferences are different and more aligned with what the toy is offering, you’ll probably love it.

One design feature that really bugs me is the handle. Firstly, it’s too small. I can just about get two fingers through the loop, but I have teeny tiny hands. Anyone with bigger hands than me is going to really struggle to hold this toy comfortably. I also hate that the bumps extend all the way around the handle. I get it from an aesthetic perspective, but it makes the toy really uncomfortable to hold.

In Use: Anything I Did Like?

The one thing I will say in this toy’s defence, though, is that the gently curved shape is excellent. Perfect for targeted G-spot pressure. Remove those bumps and narrow it a bit, and this would be a toy I’d love. In this guise, though, it’s not for me.

Icicles No. 24 glass tentacle dildo

Other good things I can say about it: it’s satisfyingly weighty. Also, glass can be heated up or cooled down for temperature-based fun. Just pop it in the fridge or run it under warm water before you play.

Verdict

You should buy the Icicles No. 24 glass tentacle dildo if you have a tentacle kink, enjoy very rigid toys, and like the intensity that comes with excessive texturing. If you prefer smoother or softer toys, though, it’s unlikely to work for you.

Icicles No. 24 glass tentacle dildo

This one is really going to be a Marmite sex toy, I think. (That’s British for “you’ll either love it or hate it”, for my international readers.) It doesn’t really work for me, but I can tell you exactly what type of person it WILL work for.

The Icicles No. 24 retails for £70.99.

Thanks to WhippleTickle for sending me the Icicles No. 24 to review. All views are, as ever, my own. Affiliate links appear within this post.