Everything on this list is something I have actually read and actually endorse, by the way.
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Kink & BDSM
- The New Bottoming Book (Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy)
- The New Topping Book (Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy)
- Playing Well With Others (Mollena Williams-Haas & Lee Harrington)
- Shibari You Can Use & More Shibari You Can Use (Lee Harrington)
- Showing You the Ropes & Back on the Ropes (Two Knotty Boys)
- Thinking Kink (Catherine Scott)
- 50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM (Tristan Taormino)
- The S&M Feminist (Clarisse Thorne)
- The Ultimate Guide to Kink (Tristan Taormino)
Polyamory & Consensual Non-Monogamy
- The Ethical Slut (Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy)
- Rewriting the Rules (Meg-John Barker)
- Opening Up (Tristan Taormino)
- The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory (Dedeker Winston)
- Love You Two [Fiction] (Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli)
Sexuality & Science
- Come As You Are (Emily Nagoski, PhD)
- Turned On: Science, Sex, and Robots (Kate Devlin)
- The Myth of Sex Addiction (David J Ley)
Sexual History & Culture
- Vibrator Nation: How Feminist Sex-Toy Stores Changed the Business of Pleasure (Lynn Comella)
- Sex and Social Media (Katrin Tiidenberg & Emily van der Nagel)
- Future Sex (Emily Witt)
- The Curious History of Dating: From Jane Austen to Tinder (Nichi Hodgson)
- Sex with Shakespeare (Jillian Keenan)
- Buzz: A Stimulating History of the Sex Toy (Hallie Lieberman)
- Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All (Jaclyn Friedman)
Sex: Practical
- Enjoy Sex: How, When and IF You Want To (Meg-John Barker & Justin Hancock)
- Becoming Cliterate (Dr Laurie Mintz)
- Girl Sex 101 (Allison Moon)
- The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women (Tristan Taormino)
- The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men (Bill Brent)
- Solo Sex: All You Need to Know About Masturbation (Jenny Block)
Feminism
- 50 Shades of Feminism (ed. Lisa Appignanesi, Susie Orbach, Rachel Holmes)
- Bad Feminist (Roxane Gay)
- Men Explain Things To Me and Other Essays (Rebecca Solnit)
- Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power & a World Without Rape (Jaclyn Friedman)
- Full Frontal Feminism (Jessica Valenti)
- The Purity Myth (Jessica Valenti)
Bisexuality
- Bi Any Other Name (ed. Lorraine Hutchins & Lani Kaahumanu)
- Purple Prose: Bisexuality in Britain (ed. Kate Harrad)
Erotic Fiction
- The Marketplace and sequels (Laura Antoniou)
- A Life Less Monogamous (Cooper S Beckett)
- Approaching the Swingularity (Cooper S Beckett)
Memoirs
- How a Bad Girl Fell in Love (Girl On The Net)
- My Life on the Swingset (Cooper S Beckett)
- True Lust (Tristan Taormino)