Work With Me

If you want to work with me, it’s always best to reach out by email at coffeeandkink69 (at) gmail (dot) com and we can discuss your requirements and how I might be able to help. Below I’ve included answers to the most common queries.


Can I advertise on your site?
Sure, as long as you have a product or service I can stand behind. Email me at coffeeandkink69 (at) gmail (dot) com and we’ll talk. I can tailor placement and level of exposure to suit your product and budget.

Do you want to join my affiliate programme?
Maybe! I work with a small number of affiliate companies whose products and services I love. In general, I’m looking for sex-positive, inclusive companies with sound ethics to work with, so if this is you, hit me up.

Do you do sponsored posts?
Yes, but all sponsored content is written by me. I do not take pre-written content and host it on my site. Please note I will only accept sponsorship from companies/products I can stand behind.

Will you review my toy/book/product?
Absolutely! Email me and I’ll tell you where to send the product to. I do charge a small fee for reviews because, much as I love free stuff, I can’t pay my rent in sex toys.  Commissioning a review doesn’t mean it is guaranteed to be gushing or even positive, but I can promise to be fair, unbiased, knowledgable and generally inclined towards looking for as many good points as I can.

Please note I do not test or review body-unsafe toys, lubes etc., and my say on what counts as safe is final. My vulva, my rules. #SorryNotSorry.


Writing Services

Can I commission you to write something for me?
Absolutely! Email me a brief outline, required word count and deadline and I’ll see what I can do and get back to you as soon as possible. And if you want something that’s out of my area of knowledge, I can probably recommend you someone else.

Will you write something for me for free?
No, unless you’re:
A) A charity/cause I strongly believe in
B) A good friend and we’re trading, or
C) So incredibly high-profile that the exposure alone is worth it. Actually, if you’re really that high-profile, you can afford to pay me.

So no.

Will you write a bespoke smutty story for me/my partner?
Sure! Email me for a no-obligation quote.


Can I reprint your post on [X] on my blog/website/magazine?
Yes, as long as your platform is one I’m happy with, but you’ll need to pay me for it. Email for rates.

Can I quote something you wrote/said/tweeted?
Yes, with full credit and a link back to my site, quoting a few lines is fine. Using more than a paragraph or so will require express permission and probably payment, as outlined above.


Real Life

Will you speak at my event?
Maybe. Send me the details and I’ll see what I can do. My bar for what I will support is quite high and my privacy is important to me so I will need to be sure your event is inclusive, sex-positive and has a sound photography (or lack thereof) policy. I’ll also expect travel expenses, accommodation and free entry as a minimum.

Will you fuck me/scene with me/cam with me/send me pictures?