Who am I?
Hello! I’m Amy (she/her), and I run this place. I’m a 30-something sapphic, polyamorous femme based in the UK and I love geeking out about all things sex, relationships, bodies, and pleasure.
I started this site in 2016 with the goal of providing consent-first, pleasure-focused sex and relationships education through an explicitly queer lens. Some of the things I love talking about include sapphic sex, body-safe sex toys and other pleasure products, non-monogamy and polyamory, kink and BDSM, relationship and communication skills, consent, recovering from sexual trauma, and femme identity and presentation.
Coffee & Kink is designed to be an accessible and inclusive space for people to read, learn, expand their horizons, and start having conversations. I run the site on an explicitly intersectional feminist ethos with consent, pleasure, equity, inclusion, education, honesty, and safety as my guiding values. The queer experience will always be centered here.
This is an 18+ space. If you are under legal age to access adult materials but seeking trustworthy information about sex, relationships, and your body, Scarleteen and Bish are the places to go.
Whoever you are and wherever you are in your journey, I invite you to brew yourself a hot cup of coffee (or whatever your poison is), open your mind, read around, explore, and enjoy.
Amy x
The Coffee & Kink logo and illustrations are by Charlotte Willcox, an amazing feminist artist who you should hire for all your graphic design needs!