About Amy and Coffee & Kink

The Coffee and Kink logo - a cartoon portrait of a white woman in black cat ears with purple hair, holding a wand vibrator and a coffee cup

Who am I?

Hello! I’m Amy (she/her), and I run this place.

I’m a 30-something queer, polyamorous femme. I’m based in the UK where I live with my nesting partner, Mr CK (he/him), and our cats. I’m an intersectional feminist, a submissive, an ethical slut, and a survivor.

Why a sex blog?

Because I find sexuality endlessly fascinating and I am firmly convinced that better sex and healthier relationships have tremendous healing power. Most of us receive either shitty sex education or no sex education at all, meaning that millions of adults don’t understand their bodies and suffer from needless sexual shame.

I want a world where people can talk openly about sex, relationships, and their bodies. I want accurate, inclusive, and pleasure-focused information to be available to everyone. I want informed, empowered, and ongoing consent to become a minimum standard in all human interactions. Coffee & Kink is my small attempt at contributing towards creating this world.

What to expect here

Just some of the things you’ll find here (in varying quantities and to varying degrees) include:

  • Reviews of sex toys, BDSM gear, safer sex supplies, and other pleasure products.
  • Reviews of books and other resources.
  • How-to information on all kinds of sex, kink, and relationship topics.
  • Personal essays, true stories, and opinion pieces.
  • Erotic fiction.
  • Guest posts from carefully selected writers.
  • …and more!

Coffee & Kink is designed to be an accessible and inclusive space for people to read, learn, expand their horizons, and start having conversations.  I run this space on an explicitly intersectional feminist ethos with consent, pleasure, equality, inclusion, education, honesty, and safety as my guiding values.

Respectful debate and discussion is encouraged, but bigotry will not be tolerated. I have a zero-tolerance policy for sexism, racism, homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, classism, ableism, kink shaming, and body shaming. I moderate all comments and will not allow hateful ones through, and I will block repeat offenders. Basically, don’t be a dick.

This is an 18+ space. If you are under legal age to access adult materials but seeking trustworthy information about sex, relationships, and your body, Scarleteen and Bish are the places to go.

Whoever you are and wherever you are in your journey, I invite you to brew yourself a hot cup of coffee (or whatever your poison is), open your mind, read around, explore, and enjoy.

Amy x

The Coffee & Kink logo and illustrations are by Charlotte Willcox, an amazing feminist artist who you should hire for all your graphic design needs!