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[Toy Review] Hello Nancy Lem Lemon Toy
After close to ten years in this industry and in the era of TikTok, I really should know to stop trying to predict sex toy trends. From the rose toys that the internet was going crazy for a few years ago to that unfortunate (and dangerous) crystal egg fad, sex toy microtrends come and go. The latest seems to be this lemon-shaped toy by Hello Nancy, known as the Lem, which I received to review.
Viral Lemon Clitoral Suction Toy: What is the Hello Nancy Lem?
The Lem by Hello Nancy is a small clitoral suction toy shaped like, well, a lemon. It measures a petite 3″ in total length and has a small nozzle at one end that sits over the clit and stimulates it via suction-like air pulses.
The Lem is made body-safe silicone in (unsurprisingly) lemon yellow. It is rechargeable, with a 90 minute charge giving around 2 hours of runtime, and IPX7 waterproof, i.e. submersible.
With a score of 4.7/5 over almost 2000 reviews on TrustPilot, and hundreds of social media posts dedicated to extolling its virtues, this little toy has been a big hit. But what did I think of it in use?
Hello Nancy Lemon Review: What I Liked
As is customary around here, let’s begin with what I liked about the Hello Nancy Lem.
- It looks like a lemon! Which is just so random and silly I can’t help but be slightly charmed by it. I’m not convinced by the argument that this makes it “discreet” (who keeps a lemon in their nightstand?) but then again I’m the sort of person who uses improbably enormous dildos as desk ornaments/paperweights, so I’m probably not the target market when it comes to discretion.
- It came attractively packaged in Hello Nancy’s signature hot pink and yellow packaging. While I thought the size of the box was a bit excessive for such a small toy, it’s all cardboard so it is recyclable. A storage bag was also provided.
- The 8 constant suction speeds are well-spaced and offer a nice gradually-increasing intensity.
- The actual sensation is decent. The suction has a good depth and feels very smooth. The power level is also excellent, particularly on the top few settings.
- The Hello Nancy Lem is pretty quiet, if that matters to you. Its noise level is on a par with some of the higher-end clitoral suction toys on the market, and significantly quieter than many traditional vibrators.
What I Didn’t Like
- The nozzle is far too small. It measures only 1cm across (less than half an inch). I don’t have a particularly large external clit, but I still found this toy’s nozzle too small to enclose it properly.
- The edges of the nozzle are a little too thin and firm to be entirely comfortable for me. I prefer a broader, squishier nozzle rim.
- I don’t find it particularly comfortable to hold. Though it’s petite and light, the shape makes my hand start to ache after a few minutes.
- Almost no-one likes patterns even in traditional vibrators. Is literally anyone using them on a suction toy? The four inbuilt patterns are completely unnecessary and just make the user experience more annoying.
- Speaking of which, and I know regular readers just knew I was going to complain about this: the damn single button interface! A toy that costs well over £100 should have dual-directional controls at the very least.
Hello Nancy Lem Lemon Toy Review: Verdict
Ultimately, I think this is a fine but not great product that’s coasting along a little too much on a cute aesthetic. I suspect it’s a combination of the cuteness factor and the fact that there are countless really bad toys out there that has so many people thinking this is the best thing ever.
Or maybe I’m just absurdly picky when it comes to toys. I’ve been making a living evaluating them for a decade so, you know, that might well be the case.
The Lem is an average clitoral suction toy that has a fun aesthetic and gets the job done, but at £139/$169 at full price, is probably kinda overpriced for what it is. It’s a beginner-friendly design, but not really an entry-level price. Can I get off with it? Yes. Is it going to become a staple favourite? No.
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I received this product in exchange for an honest review. All views are my own. Affiliate links appear in this post.
7 BDSM Collar Types You Should Know
Collars can play a major role in some kinky relationships. They carry a lot of symbolism in the BDSM community and can evoke strong emotions, and there are a lot of different types of collars to choose from. They can look lots of different ways and be made from a range of materials including leather, faux leather, suede, metal, rubber, silicone, and more.
Whether you’re just starting your explorations, entering into a new BDSM relationship, or considering making a more permanent commitment to your Dominant or submissive, let’s look at some of the types of collars you should know about.
At the end of this post, there’s also a special reader giveaway for you to enter.
Day Collars: The Best Collar Types for Discreet Kink/BDSM Expression
A day collar is a collar that you can wear during day to day life without inviting awkward questions or involving people in your kink without their consent. This might include the workplace, with family, or just out in public.
A day collar may be indistinguishable from an ordinary necklace, carrying meaning to the person who wears it and the person who gave it to them but resembling standard jewellery to anyone else. If someone notices you’re wearing it all the time, you can just say it was a gift from your partner or has sentimental value and no-one will be any the wiser.
Some day collars may not even go around the neck at all! We’ll discuss this type in more detail below.
Eternity Collars & Other Types of Locking BDSM Collar
If you want to wear a collar on an ongoing basis and don’t need to take it off regularly, an eternity collar or other locking collar is a great option. These collars are designed for safe, comfortable wear over a long period of time and often symbolise a permanent, ongoing, or 24/7 D/s relationship. They tend to be made of robust, hardwearing materials, usually metals. They may need a key, Allen wrench, or other tool to open.
These types of collars are generally, though not exclusively, used in the context of serious and long-term BDSM relationships. Some couples use eternity or locking collars in place of, or alongside, a more traditional commitment symbol like a wedding or engagement ring.
While one of the appeals of an eternity or locking collar is often that the submissive is unable to remove it by themselves, always have a back-up plan such as a spare key where they can get to it or a way to safely cut the lock if necessary. You can always make it a rule that these are only to be used in the case of emergency.
Play Collars
Play collars are those used for kinky sessions or scenes, without carrying any special meaning outside of that context. They can symbolise the boundaries of a scene—for example, when the collar goes on a scene begins, and when it comes off you transition back into your regular selves.
Play collars can also be practical. For example, a Dominant may use a collar and leash to lead their submissive around, cuff their partner’s hands to their collar for restraint, or use a posture collar to make them stand in a certain position.
Some Dominants have general play collars they use with multiple submissives in play scenes. A Dominant may also give a special play collar to a submissive, or the submissive may prefer to buy and keep their own.
Training & Consideration Collars
Training and consideration collars are two types you might see earlier in a BDSM relationship. The meanings are exactly what they sound like: the submissive is in training or under consideration to become permanently collared in a D/s dynamic.
These types of collars tend to be popular in more formalised corners of the BDSM community, amongst those who value high levels of structure and protocol in their D/s relationships. For some people, training or consideration collar types are the kinky equivalent of an engagement ring—a display of commitment and intention before the permanent collar is given.
Training and consideration collars may be any style or design, and can be locking or non-locking. It’s completely up to the people involved.
Permanent Collars
If a training or consideration collar is like a kinky engagement ring, a permanent collar is the equivalent of a wedding ring. This type of collar signals a committed, ongoing, and hopefully-lifelong BDSM relationship.
Permanent collars may or may not be “permanent” in the sense of being worn 24/7. For some couples, this will be practical and desirable, while for others it won’t. Locking collars are a popular choice here, but far from the only option.
Non-Collar Collars
When you think of the various types of BDSM collars, you’re most likely imagining something the submissive wears around their neck. And while this is the traditional meaning of a “collar” and still the most common type, there are also other options to explore.
Non-collar collars are popular alternatives to (or additions to) traditional collars for couples who need something discreet, for people who can’t or don’t like to wear things around their neck, or simply for people with different tastes.
Bracelets, rings, anklets, and wrist cuffs, are common alternatives to collars. Others I’ve seen include watches, items of clothing or underwear, items that people carry rather than wear, and even tattoos.
Fashion Collars
Some kinksters enjoy wearing collars as a statement of their identity without them being attached to any specific relationship. Others (like me!) prefer to own a variety of different collars and match them to aesthetic choices, mood, or event.
By the way: if you’re a submissive attending events alone and don’t want lots of attention from Dominants, wearing a collar is a good way of significantly cutting down on unwanted advances.
While many people in the BDSM community take collars seriously, everyone gets to make the rules for themselves. If you want to wear them just because you like how they look or they help you to project an image of your kinky self to the world, have at it.
Defining What Collar Types Are Best for You and What They Mean in Your BDSM Relationship
With so many types of BDSM collars to choose from, how can you decide which is right for you? If you’re in a D/s relationship or considering getting into one, you’ll need to have an open and honest conversation (or several) with your partner. Make sure you’re on the same page about what collars mean to you both and don’t. The last thing you want is to find out later that one of you views a collar as a fun kinky accessory while the other sees it as a symbol of a lifelong commitment.
Beyond that, you get to decide! Consider the types of collars that feel meaningful and right to you, the materials that will be the most comfortable, the colours and styles you find attractive, and any practical considerations.
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[Toy Review] Mr Hankey’s Toys Scimitar
Those who have read my sex toy reviews for a long time will know that I love a curvy dildo. That’s why, in my latest batch of review products from Mr Hankey’s Toys, I requested the Scimitar curvy dildo with ridges to try. Famous for giant toys, unique fantasy dildos, life-cast realistic toys, and more, Mr Hankey’s has come up with yet another unique concept. Let’s get into the review.
Mr Hankey’s Toys Scimitar: A Curvy Dildo with Ridges in Four Sizes
The Scimitar dildo is based on “the sleek, dangerous curves of a scimitar blade,” a type of curved and convex sword. This dildo has a bulging middle section and curvy head, with a series of ridges along its back. The tip tapers to a semi-realistic penis head. Like many Mr Hankey’s toys, it has a large and bottom-heavy base.
The Mr Hankey’s Toys Scimitar is available in four sizes, ranging from Small (6.25″ insertable length and 2.14″ in diameter at the widest point) up to XXL (10,5″ insertable length and 3.66″ in diameter at the widest point.) As I’ve said before, Mr Hankey’s “small” sizes might be called large in any other context!
The Scimitar is made of body-safe silicone. It comes in possible four levels of firmness ranging from 40% soft (super soft) up to “extra firm.” Like all Mr Hankey’s dildos, it is available in your choice of 25 colours with the option to add a metallic effect if you like. You can also choose to add a vac-u-lock hole to use your dildo with certain types of sex machines.
I received the Scimitar in size Large, which offers a hefty 9″ of insertable length and a diameter of 3.11″ at the widest point. I requested the toy in 75% soft silicone (the second softest option) and in purple.
What I Liked About the Mr Hankey’s Toys Scimitar Curvy Dildo
The Mr Hankey’s Scimitar is ideally designed for three types of users:
- Those who enjoy large insertables but want the gradual, comfortable insertion afforded by a tapered toy
- Those who love curvy dildos
- Those who enjoy some serious texture
The Scimitar is narrowest at the top. Mine measures 2.3″ in diameter at the rim of the head, meaning it gains an additional 0.8″ in diameter from the top to the bottom of the shaft. For many users, including me, toys that taper from a large base to a narrow top can be more comfortable to use. This allows you to get used to the toy’s size at each stage before deciding if you want to go further.
Because the curve is concentrated in the top few inches, you can get plenty of G-spot or prostate stimulation by just using the head of the toy if the entire thing is too much for you. The flexibility of the softer silicone I chose helps with comfortable use and positioning. I also love the little bulge in the underside of the head, which targets my G-spot perfectly.
As well as its curvy head, the Scimitar dildo also has a bulge in the middle of the shaft. This, along with the ridges along the dildo’s shaft, stimulates the sensitive vaginal or anal opening as you move the toy in and out. Around the rest of the shaft, the texturing is deep yet smooth. It has long, flowing lines that remind me of the contours of muscles.
If you want to feel the curvy shape, texture, and ridges of this dildo more intensely, choose a firmer silicone. I prefer light to medium texturing, so I found the softer silicone made this toy more usable and comfortable.
Due to the large base that Mr Hankey’s uses on this and many of its toys, the Scimitar stands up on its own. This means that, if you wish, you can place it on a firm surface and ride it hands-free. Its weight gives it pretty good stability. If this is your main reason for choosing this toy, a firmer silicone will make it easier.
Things to Be Aware Of
As I’ve mentioned before, Mr Hankey’s tends to use pretty matte silicone for its toys. This means lots of lube is absolutely essential, especially given the size of these toys.
They’re also very heavy, especially in the larger sizes. I can’t really use most Mr Hankey’s toys by myself for more than a few minutes due to their weight. Having a partner use your toy on you, riding it hands-free, or pairing it with a sex machine are some of the possible ways you can overcome this if it’s an issue for you too.
Mr Hankey’s Scimitar Curvy Dildo: Verdict
Yes! This is an excellent toy. I love the curvy shape, tapered head, texturing, and soft silicone of the Mr Hankey’s Scimitar dildo. This toy is surprisingly easy to use, considering its size, with thoughtful design details that really elevate the experience. Another fantastic offering from Mr Hankey’s Toys.
The Scimitar curvy dildo retails for $159.90 for the small size in 75% soft or medium firmness. Larger sizes, different firmness levels, and various other customisations increase the final price.
Thanks to Mr Hankey’s Toys for sending me the Scimitar dildo to review and for sponsoring this post. All writing and views are, as always, mine.
8 of the Best Travel-Friendly Vibrators to Pack for Your Next Vacation
Who doesn’t love getting away from it all for a much-needed vacation? If you’re travelling with a partner, you might be one of the many couples that enjoys more and better sex when you’re away from home. Vacations take you away from the stresses of daily life, give you more free time, and help you to get into a more relaxed frame of mind, while allowing you to connect with your partner over a shared adventure—all key ingredients for great sex. Whether you’re travelling alone or with a lover, these travel-friendly vibrators available at ShopErotic will add a little extra sizzle to your next trip.
Travelling with sex toys is easy as long as you’re sensible (don’t try to take that giant stainless steel dildo through airport security!) Pack them in your checked or carry-on bag, engage the travel lock if your toy has one, and make sure it’s clean in case your bag gets checked. And remember: yours isn’t even the first vibrator airline staff have seen today. Unless it looks like a weapon, they don’t care.
I’ve partnered with ShopErotic adult store to bring you a rundown of 8 travel-friendly vibrators you should know about.
We-Vibe Tango X: The Ultimate Bullet
The original We-Vibe Tango wowed power lovers everywhere, and the rereleased and improved Tango X upped the ante even more. This petite powerhouse is one of the strongest and rumbliest bullet vibrators on the market, and its small size makes it ideal for throwing in your travel bag.
Before we decided it made more sense to keep a set of toys at each of our houses, this was one of the vibrators I’d often pack to visit my long distance girlfriend.
Read my We-Vibe Tango X review.
VeDO Vivi Finger Vibrator
Finger vibrators are a great choice for travel due to their small size and discreet design. VeDO is known for quality toys with great motors at relatively affordable price points, and the Vivi finger vibrator is its most petite product. I particularly like the finger-rest design, making it comfortable to hold whether you’re using it on yourself or someone else.
ShopErotic stocks this toy in three different colourways.
Womanizer Vibe: Near-Silent Vibrator for When You Need Discretion on Your Travels
If you’re visiting family, staying in shared accommodation, or otherwise need to be discreet, the Womanizer Vibe has got you covered. This deeply rumbly clitoral vibrator, with its ergonomic handle and hooked tip, is about as close to silent as it’s possible for a vibrator to get.
I was cynical when I saw Womanizer was expanding its range to include a vibrator alongside its signature clitoral suction toys, but the Womanizer Vibe absolutely converted me.
Read my Womanizer Vibe review.
We-Vibe Chorus and Chorus Pro: Travel Vibrators for Couples
The We-Vibe Chorus and newly redesigned Chorus Pro are the perfect wearable, travel-friendly vibrators for couples on the go. Designed to provide clitoral stimulation to the wearer during penetrative sex, the Chorus vibrators also come in a convenient charging and travel case. They are powerful, quiet, and—thanks to the innovative squeeze remotes and We-Vibe app functionality—highly versatile.
Read my We-Vibe Chorus review and We-Vibe Chorus Pro review.
Lovense Ferri Panty Vibrator
Tiny. Powerful. Discreet. These are the three words I’d use to describe the Ferri, Lovense’s small but mighty panty vibrator. With a magnetic clip to keep it in place and a motor to rival toys many times its size, the Ferri is an ideal choice for hands-free pleasure wherever you go.
Vibratex Magic Wand Micro: The Cadillac of Vibrators, Now in Travel-Friendly Miniature
I don’t know who originally referred to the Magic Wand Original (formerly Hitachi Magic Wand) as “the Cadillac of vibrators,” but this is a toy with a reputation that precedes it thanks to the work of the inimitable Betty Dodson. The Magic Wand Micro is a super-mini and travel-friendly rechargeable version that packs a surprising amount of power into a small package.
NS Novelties Inya Rose Clitoral Suction Toy
Has any sex toy caused quite such an online stir as the famed rose? This viral sensation remains popular, and for good reason. Petite, travel-friendly, and discreet, it’s an ideal addition to a romantic getaway with a lover or a sexy solo vacation. The rose clitoral suction toy is rechargeable, easy to use, and made of body-safe silicone.
RRP: $55.95 (currently on sale at ShopErotic at time of writing)
b-Vibe Rimming Plug Petite
If anal pleasure is your thing, you might want to pack a vibrating butt plug. b-Vibe’s Petite Rimming Plug is small but powerful, with dual motors and rotating beads to stimulate the sensitive anal opening and external tissue. It also comes with a wireless remote, allowing you to give control to your partner from up to 30 feet away.
This post was sponsored by ShopErotic and contains sponsored links. All views and writing, as always, are mine.
[Toy Review] Funzze Ride-On Grind & Humping Vibrator
Grinding toys have taken off in a big way in the last few years, and anyone who has been reading my work for a while will know about my enduring grinder obsession. Funzze recently sent me some of their toys to try, including this ride-on silicone vibrating grinder.
Funzze Ride-On Grind & Humping Vibrator: A Vibrating Grinder with Three Motors
The Funzze Ride-On Grind & Humping Vibrator is a vibrating grinder with an insertable dildo and three separate motors. Made of body-safe pink silicone, this grinder toy measures 9.06″ in total length. The dildo portion measures 4.3″ in insertable length and 1.26″ in diameter at the widest point.
It has two raised pads: the front one (for clitoral stimulation) has a height of 1.65″, and the back one (for anal/perineal stimulation) has a height of 1.15″. The dildo leans very slightly to the front to help it to target the G-spot in use.
The Funzze Vibrating Grinder is rechargeable, with a two hour charge giving around an hour of runtime. The packaging and site says it is waterproof (submersible), but the instruction manual says not to leave it in water for a long time. So that’s a little confusing. This toy comes with a wireless remote control and a storage bag.
Funzze Vibrating Grinder: What I Liked
I like the design of the Funzze Ride-On Grind & Humping Vibrator a lot. Its flat, flexible base means you can easily place it on any flat surface, and the bottom-heavy design helps it to stay in place. This plus the user’s body weight means it doesn’t slide around or move out of position during use.
Pro tip: if you want to use this toy in an upright kneeling position, pad your knees with cushions to stay comfortable. If this isn’t accessible or doesn’t feel good to you, you can also put the toy on a chair and straddle it, put it underneath you and lie on top of it, or use pillows or positioning wedges to create a configuration that works for your body.
I appreciate that the Funzze Vibrating Grinder’s dildo isn’t particularly big. Many dual stimulation toys are designed such that getting any kind of clitoral contact requires uncomfortably deep penetration. However, the relatively short and slimline design of this vibrating grinder’s dildo means it will be comfortable for users who don’t enjoy large insertables (or don’t want to work up to them every time they use the toy.)
Positioning is pretty easy and comfortable, and I can actually get a good amount of clitoral stimulation with this toy. The silicone is super soft and smooth. The firm yet slightly squishy surface of the external humps gives an amazing “bouncy” feel as you grind against it. This is a great design for people who prefer lots of clitoral pressure. As I mentioned, the slight forward tilt also makes it easier to find and stimulate the G-spot with the dildo portion of the toy.
Most of the shaft has a firm core, while the top inch or so is soft and squishy. This feels like a good balance for this toy. Too flexible and it’d be hard to ride, too firm and it could be uncomfortable. As it is, there’s enough firmness for easy use and enough squish for comfort.
The three motors have a pretty decent level of power. The vibrations feel more intense through the insertable dildo than either of the external stimulators, but I suspect this is just because the silicone is thinner so they’re less dampened.
The toy has 3 constant speeds and 10 patterns, and the remote control is a nice addition. The grinder’s single-button interface is situated on the front of the clitoral stimulator. This makes it possible to operate the toy this way while you’re using it, but the remote control is far easier. It also makes it easy to hand over control to your partner, or to keep your hands free to do other things.
Of course, you can also use this toy without the vibrations if you enjoy the grinding/penetration combo on its own.
Anything I Didn’t Like?
Though I’m quite impressed with the motors’ power, this vibrating grinder is a little more buzzy than I would prefer. I also would have liked the motors to be independently controllable so I could switch off the internal vibrations while leaving the clitoral stimulator on. Dual-directional speed and pattern controls would also be good.
The Funzze Grinder gets significantly louder when it’s flat on a hard surface vs. when you hold it in your hand. If noise level is important to you, use a soft surface like a bed or chair. You can also cushion it with a blanket or towel to deaden the noise.
The third motor, designed for anal or perineal stimulation, didn’t really do anything for me. It’s fine, but I wouldn’t miss it if it wasn’t there. Then again, I’m not that into anal play for its own sake. It tends to work best for me as part of a kink scene or power dynamic. If you enjoy external anal stimulation, you might appreciate this feature more than I did!
Verdict
Funzze’s silicone ride-on vibrating grinder was a pleasant surprise; dual-stimulation toys are so often a miss for me. But this one is thoughtfully designed and enjoyable. Not perfect, but pretty damn good and a relatively affordable alternative to many more expensive products.
If you enjoy combined penetration with clitoral and external anal/perineal stimulation, this toy offers all three. And if you find that dual stimulation toys are often too large for you, or require weird positioning or uncomfortably deep insertion to stimulate your clit, you might get along better with this one. I certainly did.
Buy the Ride-On Grind & Humping Vibrator directly from Funzze for $55.99.
Thanks to Funzze for sponsoring this post and sending me the Ride-On Vibrating Grinder to review. All views, as ever, are mine.
[Toy Review] Mr Hankey’s Dildos & Dragons
I sometimes feel like I am the only polyamorous person on the planet who doesn’t play Dungeons & Dragons. (I’m also ambivalent towards most board games. I know, I know, just revoke my polyamory card now!) Even so, given the reputation my community has for being utter nerds, how could I resist a DnD-themed fantasy sex toy? Mr Hankey’s Toys kindly sent me their Dildos & Dragons dildo to try out.
Dungeons & Dragons: A DnD-Themed Adult Toy
The Dildos & Dragons dildo by Mr Hankey’s is a fantasy sex toy made, like all Mr Hankey’s toys, from 100% quality and body-safe silicone. It features a large base and a gently curved shaft, with a pronounced head and some superbly intricate dragon scale detailing.
This dildo comes in four sizes, ranging from Small/Med (10.25″ in overall length, 2.38″ in diameter at the widest point) up to XXXL (15.6″ in overall length, 3.74″ in diameter at the widest point.) The Dildos & Dragons dildo is available in a choice of 24 colours, with the option to add a metallic effect. You can also choose from four firmness levels and add a vac-u-lock hole (for use with some fucking machines) if you wish. One reviewer noted in their post that this toy worked well with their mini sex machine.
I requested the small/med size, medium-firm, in metallic blood red. It is, as I’ve come to expect from Mr Hankey’s toys, far from anything I would personally define as “small.”
Personally, I wish I’d opted for a brighter colour. The dark reddish-brown is striking, and felt thematically appropriate for this toy, but on reflection it isn’t really my style. Fortunately, you can get your dildo in any colour you want so you can customise it in whatever way feels right for you. Hot pink dragon? Bright orange dragon? Sure, why not?
Whatever colour you go for, I recommend adding the metallic effect. It gives the toy a gorgeous shimmer under the light. It adds nothing but aesthetic value, but aesthetics matter when it comes to fantasy sex toy choices.
Dildos & Dragons Fantasy Sex Toy: What I Liked
Every Mr Hankey’s fantasy dildo I’ve tried so far has blown me away with its sheer level of and attention to detail. The Dildos & Dragons is no exception. This dragon-themed dildo is simply gorgeous. From the feathering detail towards the base to the ridges up the side and the small scales decorating the head, every inch of this toy has been thoughtfully and intricately crafted.
If you want an immersive fantasy experience with your toys, Mr Hankey’s is consistently hard to beat.
The other thing that really drew me to the Dildos & Dragons dildo was its shape. The curve makes it ideal for targeting the G-spot (or prostate, if you prefer.) And, since the curve is primarily located towards the top of the shaft, you don’t need to insert the entire toy to enjoy it. Want to play with just the first few inches? Chances are, you’ll still be able to hit the good spots with this toy.
The head on this toy is pretty pronounced. If you enjoy the feeling of having the sensitive opening of your vagina or anus stimulated, you’ll likely enjoy the “pop” sensation this head gives you when you thrust the Dildos & Dragons dildo in and out. It also provides additional pressure against the G-spot or prostate, which many people find very pleasurable.
Finally, let’s talk about that texturing. It’s intense, but not overly so. Much of the detailing is fairly “flat” (i.e. there aren’t large bumps or ridges sticking out,) making it definitely noticeable in use without being so much that it becomes uncomfortable. The texturing is most noticeable around that aforementioned head ridge.
Dildos & Dragons Fantasy Sex Toy: Things to Be Aware Of
I can’t really find anything to “dislike” about this toy. Even though mythical creatures aren’t my kink, I can appreciate the Dildos & Dragons dildo as both a beautifully made piece of art and a fantastically designed sex toy from a sensation perspective.
Just a couple of things to be aware of to help you make the right fantasy sex toy buying decision for you:
- There really is no “small” here. This toy’s size options range from “pretty large” to “holy fucking shit, nope.” Take note of the dimensions before you buy, because if you’re used to more standard dildos (or, like, regular human penises) you might be surprised at how eye-wateringly huge these things are. With that said, as I mentioned above, the Dildos & Dragons design lends itself to just using the first few inches if you prefer. And, despite its overall large size, the Dildos & Dragons dildo has a relatively small head diameter compared to many other Mr Hankey’s toys.
- Your firmness choice can really make or break your experience. I went with “medium firm,” which seems about right for this toy. I think “extra firm” might make the texturing too intense, while one of the softer levels might not give enough internal pressure. Obviously it’s all down to your preferences. In general, though, firmer silicone = a more intense experience.
- The silicone is pretty matte. You’ll definitely need a lot of lubrication with this one. It also picks up a lot of lint and dust in storage, so always give it a quick wash before use.
Verdict: The Perfect Toy for Adult Dungeons & Dragons Fans
If you are (or your partner is) a DnD nerd, or if you’ve ever fantasised about fucking a mythical creature, you’ll probably love the Dildos & Dragons dildo. This is a beautifully crafted and well-designed fantasy sex toy that offers aesthetic appeal and functionality in equal measure.
The Dildos & Dragons dildo retails for prices starting from $130.95 for the smallest size in any standard colour. Larger sizes and various customisations increase the price.
Thanks to Mr Hankey’s Toys for sponsoring this review. Check out their extensive fantasy adult toy store for dragon dildos, monster dildos, extra large realistic dildos, and more!
[Toy Review] Funzze Pink O Clitoral Sucker
These days, I go into every clit sucker review I write preparing to be surprised. For every high-end toy in this category I’ve loved, there’s also at least one disappointing flop and at least one cheap clit sucker that gets the job done surprisingly well. The Funzze Pink O? That turned out to be one of the latter.
Funzze Pink O: Details
The Funzze Pink O clit sucker is the latest toy Funzze have kindly sent me to review. I wasn’t fully prepared for how small this toy would be! It arrived in a tiny box, and the toy measures just over 3.5″ in total length and weighs just 73g. As I said: tiny! This makes it a travel-friendly option I can throw in my bag when I visit my long-distance love.
Like the many other toys in this category, the Funzze Pink O has a nozzle that sits over the clitoris and stimulates it indirectly via air pulses. Some retailers still insist on claiming that this sensation feels like receiving cunnilingus. It doesn’t. Let’s put that myth to bed. I’m pleased to see Funzze hasn’t leaned too deeply into this misconception.
The Pink O Clitoral Sucker is made of pink body-safe silicone and white ABS plastic. It is rechargeable (you get about an hour of runtime for an hour charge) with a USB cable included. Confusingly, the Funzze website describes this toy as suitable for “pleasure in the shower, bathtub, or pool,” but then says it is only splashproof. The included instruction booklet also cautions against keeping it in water for long. I recommend assuming it’s only splashproof rather than fully waterproof, and not using it in the bath or submerging it in water.
The Pink O clit sucker is a cheap option for those on a budget, retailing for just $33.99. This also makes it a good entry-level option if you’re trying clitoral suckers for the first time… though, as we’ll see, this little beauty is so good you may not feel the need to upgrade to a pricier model!
Funzze Pink O Clit Sucker Review: What I Liked
The shape and size of this toy endeared me to it straight away. It fits comfortably in my hand, it’s light enough to hold for an extended session, and the slight curve makes it easy to angle it against my vulva without needing to curl my hand or arm into uncomfortable positions. The relatively large nozzle diameter compared to other toys in this category (around 0.5″) and wide, flat nozzle rim provides a consistent and comfortable seal around my clit.
The Funzze Pink O has 8 settings: 2 constant speeds and 6 patterns. Its single button interface is straightforward, and the relatively large silicone button set into the ABS plastic body makes it easy to locate by touch alone.
Also, the button is shaped like a little heart. So that’s cute!
Now the most important question for any clit sucker review, did it get me off? The answer for this one is a resounding yes. On its second constant speed, this toy can make me come reliably. That’s pretty rare for a toy at this price-point!
In terms of sensation, the suction is pretty smooth. It’s harder to quantify clitoral suction toys as “buzzy” or “rumbly” the way I normally would with vibrators, but I can best describe the quality of this toy’s suction as “deep.” It feels like it’s really getting into the nerve-endings of both my internal and external clit, not just tickling the surface. It also doesn’t have any unpleasant numbing or desensitising effects.
Funzze Pink O Clit Sucker Review: What I Didn’t Like
I would have preferred more constant suction speeds and fewer patterns, personally. Anecdotally, as someone who’s been in this industry for a long time and spoken to hundreds of people about their sex toy preferences, almost no-one actually likes patterns. I certainly don’t. However, more constant speeds would allow for a more gradual warm-up to the higher intensities.
I also would have preferred dual-directional controls. The simple interface is nice, but having to scroll through all those patterns to switch from the higher constant speed to the lower is pretty annoying.
I wouldn’t really describe the Funzze Pink O as quiet. It also doesn’t get quieter when it’s against my body, unlike some clitoral suction toys. Something to be aware of if discretion is important to you.
Verdict: A Cheap Yet Effective Clit Sucker That Gets the Job Done
The Funzze Pink O clitoral sucker is a surprising gem and an absolute bargain. Its thoughtful ergonomic body, excellent nozzle design, and good power level elevate this one beyond its budget-friendly price point. If you’re looking for an entry-level clitoral suction toy, you could do much worse than this one. The next iteration just needs a few more constant speeds and fewer patterns!
Buy your Pink O clitoral sucker directly from Funzze.
Thanks to Funzze for sponsoring this Pink O clit sucker review! All writing and views are, as always, mine.
If You Related to Francesca Bridgerton’s Orgasm Difficulties, You’re Not Alone
Season 4 of Netflix’s Bridgerton, based on the book series of the same name by Julia Quinn, focuses primarily on the love story between Benedict Bridgerton and Sophie Baek. However, the subplot follows Francesca Bridgerton and her new husband, John Stirling, as they navigate sexual challenges in their marriage. Specifically, Francesca experiences orgasm difficulties: she’s unable to climax and she never has.
Fair warning: this post contains spoilers for Bridgerton, including the recently-dropped first half of Season 4.
Francesca, who has been married and trying for a baby for several months, doesn’t even know what an orgasm (or “pinnacle,” as they euphemistically call it) is. I found this storyline refreshing in a series that has given us a lot of “zero-to-fucking-in-ten-seconds” and “all simultaneous orgasms from penetration all the time” sex scenes.
People who have never experienced challenges with pleasure or been unable to climax might write this off as a product of the times. But if, in relatively sexually liberated 2026, you related to Francesca’s difficulties with orgasm? You’re not alone.
What Francesca’s Orgasm Difficulties Says About Sex Education
A recurring theme in the Bridgerton universe is women entering married life without a single clue about sex or their bodies. From Simon lying to Daphne about his “inability” to have children (when he’s actually just using the notoriously-unreliable pull-out method) to Eloise and Penelope wondering how an unmarried woman could become pregnant so that they can prevent it from happening to them, the naivety of these characters may be exaggerated for television but points to something real: in many times and places throughout history, a lack of basic knowledge about sex and their bodies helped to keep women in a place of powerlessness.
Things are no longer so bleak for young women, of course, and not just because our families aren’t generally marrying us off when we’re barely out of our teens. Most of us receive at least some education about the physical mechanics of sex, however incomplete and heteronormative that education may be. If all else fails, we can turn to the internet with questions like “how does a lady come to be with child?” (Love you Eloise.) But in a different way, misinformation and a lack of comprehensive sex education is still harming people of all genders.
How much time did your sex education curriculum dedicate to pleasure? If it was anything like mine, very little if any at all. In my school, the boys learned about female masturbation but the girls didn’t. Make that make sense. (Hint: it’s misogyny.) The messaging the girls received? That boys would pressure us for sex and it was our job to say no. That sex meant unwanted pregnancies and STIs, not pleasure. It wasn’t quite “don’t have sex, because you will get pregnant… and die,” but it wasn’t far off.
Mention of the clitoris? Completely absent. I learned of its existence from a slightly older friend who talked very openly about her masturbation habits. I have to assume no-one taught us about women’s pleasure for one of two reasons: an assumption it wasn’t important, or a fear that it would make us want to have sex, undermining the “don’t do it” messaging.
But when we don’t learn about pleasure, we don’t know how to get it. More importantly, we don’t internalise the message that we deserve it. This insidious messaging leads people, and especially people with vulvas, to endure unsatisfying sex, feel obligated to fake orgasms, and minimise pain during sex.
Orgasm Difficulties Are Super Common
Very few people will come every time they have sex. Not being able to get there occasionally is not, generally, a cause for concern. But anorgasmia, or the persistent inability to reach orgasm even with extensive sexual stimulation, is far more common than you might think.
According to the Cleveland Clinic, up to 15% of cis women report never having had an orgasm (primary anorgasmia) and far more struggle with orgasm at least some of the time. The numbers for cis men are lower, with around 10% reporting orgasm difficulties according to San Diego Sexual Medicine. One study suggested that around 1.5 men in 1000 suffers from primary anorgasmia.
For trans women and trans men, rates of orgasm difficulties were 29% and 15% respectively according to one study. I haven’t been able to find any reliable statistics on non-binary people specifically.
What Causes Anorgasmia or Struggles with Orgasm?
The short and perhaps unhelpful answer is “it depends.” In no particular order, some of the possible causes can include:
- Insufficient stimulation or the wrong kind of stimulation
- Many medications including SSRI antidepressants and blood pressure medications
- Hormonal changes (for example, due to menopause, pregnancy, or breastfeeding)
- Physical health conditions (including both acute and chronic illness)
- Pain during sex (which itself has many potential causes)
- Mental health challenges such as depression, anxiety, and stress
- Relationship issues such as conflict or lack of trust
- A history of sexual abuse or assault
- A strict, restrictive upbringing
- Poor self-esteem or body image
- Substance use
- Fatigue
- Ironically, too much pressure to get there (either from yourself or your partner)
What’s Wrong with Me If I’m Unable to Climax!?
Nothing.
Absolutely nothing.
One of the most touching scenes in Bridgerton Season 4 is when Francesca confides in John that not only did she just fake an orgasm, but she’s never had one. My heart broke for her when she blamed her lack of orgasm for their fertility struggles, saying “forgive me, I do not know what is wrong with me.” Sweet and supportive man that he is, he reassures her that there’s nothing wrong with her and that she, and their relationship, are already just right.
So in case you need to hear the same, I’ll say it again. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You’re not broken. You’re just struggling with something that is actually incredibly common.
Do Orgasm Difficulties Mean There’s Something Wrong with My Relationship?
Not necessarily!
Many people believe that sexual problems in a relationship mean that there’s something inherently wrong with the relationship itself. But this often isn’t the case. As we established already, anorgasmia and orgasm difficulties can happen for all kinds of reasons. Relationship difficulties are one possible cause, and something you might want to examine if your orgasm problems started during a challenging time for your relationship. But there isn’t necessarily a correlation and even if you determine that there is, it doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship is doomed.
If I’m Unable to Climax, Does It Mean I Don’t Really Fancy My Partner?
Again, no, not necessarily.
In Bridgerton, Francesca has been set up as a queer character who has feelings for her husband’s cousin, Michaela (this change was made for the TV series; in the original book, Michaela was Michael.) However, this doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t feel love or attraction for her husband. She could very well be somewhere under the bisexual or pansexual umbrella. In fact, the showrunners have explicitly stated that viewers shouldn’t interpret Francesca’s orgasm difficulties as related to her sexuality.
Of course, problems with sex and orgasm do lead some people to realise they’re not attracted to their partner. This could be because their sexuality is different than they assumed, or because that particular relationship has run its course. But being unable to climax is really common even amongst people who are wildly physically and sexually attracted to their partners. In and of themselves, orgasm difficulties don’t say anything about your attraction to your partner.
So What Now?
If Francesca’s story struck a chord with you… me too. I’ve had plenty of orgasm difficulties throughout my sexual history, from stress-induced loss of desire to pressure-induced faking it to medication-induced anorgasmia.
Bridgerton is not a series that aims for realism. At its heart, it is pseudo-Regency softcore smut, and that’s fine. None of us are watching it for a history lesson. But truth is often wrapped in fiction. And Francesca’s storyline this season highlighted something many of us will relate to.
I’m going to write another post soon about practical strategies for dealing with orgasm difficulties. This one, though, is just to reassure you that if you’re unable to climax (sometimes or always), you’re not alone. You’re not broken. And you’re just right, just as you are.
[Toy Review] VVD RiderGo
Remember the VVD Rider Desire, a ride-on saddle-style sex machine I reviewed last summer? Well, VVD has recently released a new attachment toy to go with the Rider Desire and kindly sent me one to test and review. However, the RiderGo is no ordinary sex machine attachment. Its clever two-part magnetic design makes it both an attachment and a standalone hand-held sex toy.
What is the VVD RiderGo Rider Desire Add-On and How Does This Toy Work?
The RiderGo looks, at first glance, like a straightforward rabbit vibrator. However, it’s actually a clever two-in-one product that functions both as a hand-held standalone rabbit vibe and an extra attachment for VVD’s Rider Desire ride-on sex machine.
A strong magnetic mechanism connects the insertable machine attachment to a handle and clitoral stimulator that allow you to use it as a rabbit vibe. It’s also compatible with the original attachments that came with the Rider Desire, by the way. Simply swap them out to mix and match your experience.
The insertable section makes a back-and-forth oscillating “come hither” motion (hence this toy being dubbed a “finger vibrator”) as well as vibrating.
The VVD RiderGo offers around 4.5″ of insertable length and measures approximately 1.3″ in diameter. It is 8.1″ in total length and weighs in at 230g. Made of body-safe pink silicone, this toy is IPX7 waterproof (i.e. submersible) and USB rechargeable.
VVD RiderGo Rabbit Toy and Sex Machine Attachment: Pros
I have to say, I think this design is pretty cool. I love the versatility offered by the combo of the Rider Desire and the RiderGo, since you can combine the two bases and three attachments in numerous different ways. The clitoral stimulator also still works when the insertable head is detached, and the two motors have independent controls so you can use one without the other if you prefer.
The G-spot stimulation provided by the come hither motion is truly excellent. It’s like being fingered, only faster (unless you have superhuman manual dexterity, anyway.) The short strokes are perfect for people who like intense and repetitive G-spot pressure but not a lot of hard “pounding.” While some reviewers have noted that they didn’t find the 15° curve intense enough, it was just about perfect for my body’s preferences.
I like the flexible clitoral stimulator, which overall maintains pretty good contact with my clit during use. This is helped by the fact that I don’t have to thrust the toy in and out, since the G-spot stimulator mimics that motion by itself. The little “tongue” flap that protrudes from the top of the clitoral stimulator is a little too light and tickly to be truly satisfying, but it does offer an interesting tease or warm-up.
While the relatively small and slimline size of this toy might make it “not enough” for some people who prefer larger insertables, it was pretty ideal for me. I like that I can dive straight into using it without the warmup needed to insert a larger toy.
I like the loop handle, which makes the toy easy and comfortable to hold, and the button placement is intuitive. The controls themselves are straightforward and the buttons are easy to press. There’s an on/off button, a button to control the insertable portion, and a button to control the clitoral stimulator.
Also, VVD’s slogan for this toy—”soft outside, wild within”—is a mood and I want it on a t-shirt.
Cons
As we’ve seen, there’s a lot to like about the VVD RiderGo. However, there are also a few downsides you’ll want to be aware of:
- The battery life isn’t great, with a 1.5 hour charge giving just 45 minutes of runtime.
- No dual-directional speed controls. This isn’t too egregious given there are only 6 stroking speeds and 7 vibration settings to choose from, but it’s still pretty annoying when you want to go back a step.
- It makes the same high-pitched mechanical squeaking noise as virtually every other toy in this category. I can’t really fault VVD for this, since I don’t think any manufacturer has yet cracked this problem, but it definitely affects the user experience.
- As is so often the problem with toys of this type, the vibrations are super buzzy and not particularly strong. Does it feel good? Yes, for a bit. Can it get me off before my clit gets numbed out? Sadly, not so far.
How Use the VVD RiderGo Detachable Toy With the Rider Desire Sex Saddle
Using the RiderGo with your Rider Desire saddle is super easy. Simply detach the RiderGo head from its base with a gentle pull, and slot it into the attachment space on the Rider Desire using the slit in the plastic as a guide. You’ll feel the magnets click it into place. Once in, it’s very secure and shouldn’t go anywhere even if you ride it pretty vigorously. (That said, just to be on the safe side, I wouldn’t recommend using this one anally.)
Do I Need to Own the Rider Desire to Use the RiderGo?
No. The RiderGo is fully functional on its own as a rabbit vibrator. Pairing it with the Rider Desire sex saddle isn’t necessary, but offers a few fun additional ways to use it. Let’s finish by looking at some of the possibilities…
Try This: Stimulate Your Clit While You Ride
Since the RiderGo clitoral stimulator still works when the insertable arm is detached, you (or your partner) can use it manually on your clit while you straddle the Rider Desire saddle.
Try This: Play a Sexy Guessing Game
Ask your partner to blindfold you and choose an attachment for the RiderGo or Rider Desire, then use it on you. Your job is to correctly identify which one they’ve chosen. What do you get if you win? Well, that’s for you two to negotiate.
RiderGo Rabbit Toy and Sex Machine Attachment: Verdict
Overall, the VVD RiderGo is a decent standalone toy as long as you don’t need intense or rumbly clitoral stimulation to get off. Its finger-like motion is excellent. However, it is the innovative interchangeable design and compatibility with the Rider Desire that really elevates this one for me. As a companion product to the existing machine, it’s excellent.
The RiderGo retails for $79. My readers can enjoy a 12% discount on the VVD Rider Desire, RiderGo, or both with code “Coffee”.
Thanks to Viva Desire (VVD), an all-woman team with decades of combined experience in the pleasure products industry, for sending me this toy and sponsoring this post. All views and writing are, as always, mine.
[Kink Product Review] BDSM Zapper 2.0 Electro Wand
I’ve been testing sex toys and kink gear for a living for over nine years (!) at this point. That means I’ve tried a lot of stuff, from the run-of-the-mill to the “wait, what?” Even so, I still get excited when I have a chance to try something that’s actually new to me. Kink Store, the retail arm of the company that owns the famous Kink.com, sent me their BDSM Zapper 2.0 electro wand to try out.
What is a Zapper?
It’s a small, handheld device with a rubberised handle, a long plastic shaft, and two little metal prongs poking out of the end. When you hold down the button and tap the tip against the skin, it releases static electricity with a loud “ZAP” sound (hence the name.) First popularised by its use in many of Kink’s famous BDSM films, the Zapper has had a complete redesign and the result is this Zapper 2.0.
Unlike other electroplay toys such as violet/neon wands and E-stim products, the Zapper delivers all its power in a single, sharp sting. It has three settings to choose from: 1.5, 2.5, and 3.5kV. Since you need to press the button and wait for the red light before using it, there’s no danger of it discharging when you don’t want it to.
The Zapper 2.0 electro wand requires 2 AA batteries. Each set of batteries is good for around 300 zaps.
Are Electro Wands Like the BDSM Zapper 2.0 Safe?
Toys like this are designed with low amperage (current) to give a superficial shock only. No kink activity (or sexual activity) is 100% safe, and all BDSM carries some level of risk. With that said, many of the risks of using an electro wand toy like the Zapper 2.0 can be mitigated if you follow some basic safety protocols and take some precautions.
Safety Precautions
First, never use the Zapper on anyone who has a heart condition, is fitted with a pacemaker or similar internal medical device, or is pregnant. If you have underlying health conditions and you’re not sure how safe using the Zapper is for you, talk to your healthcare professional first.
Never use the Zapper internally, never use it on or near the face or head, and don’t zap the same spot multiple times. Fleshy, below-the-waist areas such as the butt and thighs are the lowest risk. It’s also not waterproof, so keep your Zapper far away from water and never use it in damp environments or on wet skin. We all know water and electricity don’t mix, don’t we?
Inspect your electro wand for damage before use, communicate with your partner, and don’t take unnecessary risks. Most importantly, do your own risk assessment and understand your and your partner’s body and health before you attempt any BDSM activity, including using the Zapper.
What Does It Feel Like?
Like getting a pretty intense static shock.
It makes you jump and it definitely stings, but it’s nowhere near as painful as I imagined it would be based on the sound this thing makes. In my experience, though, the pain disappeared almost instantly. It was a split second of very intense sensation.
I think this is one of those sensations people will experience very differently. Based on other reviews, some find it extremely intense, while I found it middling (mostly it just made me giggle!) We’re all different. Aren’t bodies cool?
Weirdly, my partner and I both agreed that the BDSM Zapper’s highest setting, though the loudest, was also the least physically intense. The middle setting was the most physically intense (i.e. painful.) Your mileage may vary and I always suggest starting on the bottom setting and working up if you want to.
I think the main reason a lot of kinksters like Zappers and electro wands is because they play on a sense of fear. First, because we are all somewhat conditioned to see electricity as dangerous (which it often is!) Second, because the anticipation of being zapped is “worse” than the actual feeling for a lot of people. And third, because yes, it’s really loud. Even when I know it’s coming, it makes me jump.
BDSM Zapper 2.0 Electro Wand: Verdict
I didn’t find the Zapper 2.0 particularly erotic in and of itself. Electro-play is an interesting sensation to me, but not one that really turns me on. This isn’t really a criticism, because kink is often about “let’s explore this weird sensation” for me and doesn’t necessarily need to involve my genitals every time. However, I can definitely see potential for using the Zapper in scenes in ways that I would probably find sexy.
If you enjoy sharp, stingy pain, electro play turns you on, or you like playing with fear and anticipation, the Zapper could be a fun addition to your toybag. It retails for $49.99. At the time of writing, you can also get a free Zapper if you spend $149+ on Kink Store and enter code FREE-Z150P at checkout.
Thanks to Kink Store for sending me the BDSM Zapper 2.0 electro wand to review. All views, as always, are mine. Images by Kink Store. Affiliate links appear in this post.