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Kink Party Outfit Ideas: What to Wear to a Play Party

Published on by Amy

When people are getting ready to attend their first kink party, one of the most frequency asked questions is “what the hell do I wear!?” What to wear to a play party can feel like a minefield, but it’s not as complicated as it seems. In this post I’ll dispel some common myths as well as share some kink party outfit ideas to get you inspired. I’ve also included some links to some of my favourite pieces and stores.

Check the Dress Code

Some parties and events have their own dresscode. These can be anything from very broad and general to highly specific. Events with very specific dress codes are generally those geared around a particular kink which relates in some way to the dress code – for example, clothed Dom/naked sub events or those for latex fetishists. Some may even have fun fancy dress themes.

Many events will simply state “fetishwear”, “make an effort”, “smart black minimum”, or “no jeans or trainers.” Within the dress code or general guidelines, you’re free to be as creative as you like.

Check out the Fetlife page for your chosen event, if they have one. You may see pictures that past attendees have shared of their outfits, which can provide some inspiration, or example pictures for what constitutes suitable attire.

What is “Fetishwear?”

Fetishwear is a pretty broad term. In short, though, it refers to anything out-of-the-box, provocative, sexualised, or in some way over-the-top or extreme. Certain fabrics, such as leather, latex, rubber, and PVC, are commonly seen in fetishwear.

Highly structured items such as corsets as well as revealing clothing such as lingerie may also be considered fetishwear. Certain types of detailing, such as straps, studs, or spikes, can add a fetishy vibe to your kink party outfit.

Kinky or sexualised accessories such as collars and cuffs, body harnesses, stockings, and extreme footwear can fall into this category, too.

Do I Have to Spend a Lot of Money?

Nope!

There are some kink events that have a reputation for being picky to the point of snobbish about the dress code, putting expectations on attendees that are financially prohibitive to many. I recommend avoiding those events unless spending hundreds of £/$ on an outfit is part of the fun for you.

For most kink events, there is no expectation that you spend a lot of money. In fact, you can likely get something suitable on sale or even put together an outfit from pieces you already own if money is a concern for you.

Do I Have to Show a Lot of Skin?

No!

Well, not usually. Again, there are a small number of events where this is expected as part of the event theme (such as clothed Dom/naked sub events.) As a general rule, though, there is no expectation to get naked or to show off any more of your body than you feel comfortable with.

You probably will see people naked or wearing very skimpy outfits. But you’ll also see people in full length dresses or skirts, trousers or suits, or outfits that are sexy but not revealing (for example, catsuits.)

In short, at the vast majority of kink events you can show as much or as little skin as you like. Some events do have restrictions on genital nudity due to venue licensing, so always check if you are planning a very skimpy outfit.

The Classics: Lingerie, Corsetry, Kilts, LBDs and More

There are some types of outfit you’ll see again and again at kink events and play parties, and which are almost always appropriate. Lingerie, corsets, kilts, suits, and little black dresses will usually be absolutely fine.

In some spaces, black jeans and a button-down shirt or the kind of dress you’d wear to go clubbing will also be acceptable.

Latex, Leather and Rubber, Oh My!

Certain fabrics have specifically kinky connotations: latex, leather, rubber, PVC, and so on. If any of these fabrics appeal to you, they can be a great starting point for an outfit.

You don’t need to shell out a lot of money unless you want to. A PVC/leather-look piece of the kind available at many sex shops is a great alternative. Lovehoney’s Easy-On Latex items are an affordable alternative to the price-tag of custom latex that I wear regularly.

You can also invest in a single piece, such as a leather corset or pair of trousers or a latex top, and then build your outfit around that from cheaper items or things you already own. Even an accessory made of one of these fabrics, such as latex suspenders, gauntlets or a pair of gloves, can give a nod to these fetishes without the cost of a full outfit.

Accessorise to Impress

I wear a lot of the same outfits again and again to different parties. What I like to do, though, is accessorise them differently. A few appropriate accessories can really elevate your outfit and allow you ro express your kinky self.

Think about:

My current accessory obsession? These amazing hand harnesses. I’ve worn them with everything from dungarees to a corset, and I love them.

Let’s Talk Shoes

One common misconception is that women or femme-presenting people have to wear heels in kink spaces. This isn’t the case at all. I very rarely wear heels to kink parties because, well, they fucking hurt and I have chronic pain in my feet anyway without making it worse.

Of course, you can wear those sky-high heels if you like. But if you’d rather not, you can also opt for low heels or for flat shoes/boots. Just make sure they’re clean, polished, and go with your outfit. If in doubt, you’ll rarely go wrong with a nice pair of plain black shoes or boots in your preferred style.

Statement shoes can also be fun, if that’s your thing. My turquoise glitter flats get a lot of outings with various outfits! You’ll also likely see footwear such as New Rocks, Doc Martens and their various equivalents in kink spaces.

Hair & Makeup

If you’re the kind of person who likes doing fun things with your hair and/or makeup, a kink party is a great chance to go wild. Why not experiment with a new temporary hair colour (or a wig), a fabulous eye makeup look, a bold lipstick, or even something more outlandish such as glitter or body-paint?

Nails can be a fun place to express your style, too. I often get my nails done before a big event and I usually opt for something ostentatious and over the top (typically with sparkles and lots of colour.) Of course, a striking black or classic red polish are also great options.

If makeup, nail polish and fancy hairstyles aren’t your thing, that’s cool too! Just make sure your hair is washed and your nails are clean, and you’ll be fine.

Wear Your Kink

Collars are perhaps the most common accessory you’ll see people wearing in kink spaces. If you have a collar you love (whether it’s associated with a specific relationship or not) then wearing it can help you to get into a kinky headspace. You can add a leash, too, if you like.

You can also do amazing things with rope. If you know how to tie a basic arms-out rope harness, it can be a beautiful addition to give an outfit a kinky twist. Rope gauntlets, rope corsets, and rope dresses are also popular – the possibilities are endless, especially if you invest in some beautiful colourful rope.

Other good options include chastity devices, pet play gear (such as ears, masks or tails), strap-on harnesses, decorative cuffs, nipple clamps, and gags.

Consider Practicality

That latex outfit might look amazing, but if it takes 30 minutes to get in and out of it, is it the best choice for an event where you’re going to want to get naked to play or get in the hot tub? You might love your favourite corset, but is it practical for moving around in as you flog or tie up your partner?

Don’t forget to think about what you might want to do at the party and factor these practicalities into your kink party outfit choice.

Consider the weather, too. If it’s 35°C out, you probably don’t want to wear a full latex catsuit. (Ask me how I know.)

Don’t Overthink It

This is a lot of information and a lot of things to think about as you plan your kink party outfit. A play party can be a great place to experiment with different modes of presentation and tap into your most authentic self.

The most important thing in deciding what to wear to a play party is that it makes you feel good. You won’t have a good time if you feel like you’re pretending to be someone you’re not.

Here are my five golden rules for putting together an amazing kink party outfit:

  • Check the dress code, follow it, and ask the organisers if in doubt
  • Make an effort and get creative
  • Wear something that makes YOU feel amazing, focusing on being authentic and true to yourself
  • Don’t forget the details, from accessories and shoes to hair and makeup – they can lift your entire look!
  • Think about the practicalities.

This is supposed to be fun, so enjoy yourself no matter what you decide to wear.

This post contains affiliate links. All views, as always, are mine.

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[Accessories Review] Bijoux Indiscrets MAZE Cross Cleavage Faux Leather Chest Harness

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This is the last (for now) in my series of reviews of Bijoux Indiscrets’ MAZE line, which includes not just the harnesses I’ve written about this week but also the cat ears and collar I covered years ago. I don’t think it’s any secret by now that I absolutely love this range! Today we’re looking at the Cross Cleavage Faux Leather Chest Harness.

MAZE Cross Cleavage Faux Leather Harness

Bijoux Indiscrets Faux Leather Chest Harness in black
Bijoux Indiscrets Faux Leather Chest Harness in tan

Like everything in the MAZE range, the Cross Cleavage Harness is made from a faux polyurethane (PU) leather from recycled materials. This means it is both eco-conscious (PU is highly environmentally problematic, so reusing it and keeping it out of landfill is good news for the planet) and certified vegan. I wrote a little more about the question of PU leather in this review.

The PU leather Bijoux uses is both comfortable to wear and, minus the distinctive scent, a convincing approximation of animal leather. It wears well, gaining just a little softness and suppleness over time, and is easy to maintain. If it needs cleaning, some gentle soap and a damp cloth will do the job. Otherwise, just store it in the box it comes in and you’re all set.

Bijoux Indiscrets Faux Leather Chest Harness official product picture featuring a model wearing the harness under a blazer
Image: Bijoux Indiscrets

The Cross Cleavage Harness sits around the waist with straps over the shoulders and a criss-cross design across the chest. Though it’s described as a “cleavage harness”, it’s totally wearable by people both with and without breasts.

Like the rest of the range, the MAZE Cross Cleavage Harness is available in both black and a light tan brown called “camel.”

Fit

The MAZE Cross Cleavage Harness is adjustable around the waist as well as over the shoulders, so you can get a comfortable fit for your body. The criss-cross section sits close enough to the centre of the chest that it should be comfortable even for people with larger breasts to wear.

In terms of sizing, I’m coming back to my consistent complaint about size inclusiveness. The MAZE Cross Cleavage Harness fits waist sizes from 60cm (23.62″) up to 94cm (37″.) With the black harness only, you’ll get an extra extender that can add up to 25cm (9.84″) extra. I’d love to see these pieces made available in a wider range of sizes. I’d also love to see the brown styles come with extenders, too!

Woman wearing the Bijoux Indiscrets Faux Leather Chest Harness over a grey shirt

Since the models shown on Bijoux’s page are very thin, I’ve included the above picture of me in the harness so you can see what it looks like on a curvier frame.

How to Style the MAZE Cross Cleavage Harness

Like some of the other MAZE pieces I’ve tried, the Cross Cleavage Faux Leather Harness is pretty androgynous in its style. This means you can pair it with an array of outfits to create the aesthetic you want – femme, masc, or anywhere in between.

The bondage-inspired style means it’d work well in a kink club or sexy party setting, but you can just as easily style it for a vanilla nightclub or party if that’s more your jam. It works well with other fetishwear items such as latex, lingerie or corsetry (I think it would look spectacular over an underbust corset) or as a standout piece on its own.

Thanks to the detailed design of this harness, it also pairs well with simple garments such as a plain t-shirt, dress, or blazer. It’s a real statement accessory that can elevate a basic outfit to a bold and memorable look.

I wear a lot of v-neck and plunge neck tops for sensory reasons (I can’t stand having anything around my neck for extended periods of time.) This harness works beautifully with those, drawing attention to the chest and adding some super-sexy decoration.

The MAZE Cross Cleavage Harness retails for €60 (£53/$64.)

Thanks to Bijoux Indiscrets for sending me the MAZE Cross Cleavage Faux Leather Chest Harness to try. All views are, as always, mine. This post contains affiliate links.

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[Accessories Review] Bijoux Indiscrets MAZE Multiway Faux Leather Body Harness

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I’m back again with another review from Bijoux Indiscrets’ MAZE line, following on from the hand harness and leg garters, cat ears, and collar. Today we’re looking at the MAZE Multiway Faux Leather Body Harness, which is available in both black and tan.

Bijoux Indiscrets Maze Multiway Faux Leather Body Harness in black
Bijoux Indiscrets Maze Multiway Faux Leather Body Harness in tan

MAZE Faux Leather Body Harness

The MAZE Multiway Harness is a faux leather body harness made of polyurethane (PU) leather. It is certified vegan and, though PU itself is a highly problematic material from an environmental perspective, the MAZE range is made from recycled materials that would otherwise have gone to waste. (I talk about that a little more in my last MAZE review.)

Model wearing the Bijoux Indiscrets Multiway Harness
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This multiway body harness has four straps that connect to an O-ring in the centre. Two of the straps go over the shoulders and cross at the back before wrapping around the waist, the other sits across the ribcage just below the chest. Bijoux shows a couple of variations for ways to wear the harness on their website, but honestly there aren’t really any wrong ways! Wear it however feels good to you.

Bijoux’s recycled PU faux leather looks and feels lovely, and very convincing. It does “wear in” to an extent, becoming softer and more supple with wear, but not to the same degree that real leather does. It also doesn’t have that lovely leather smell. Otherwise, it’s a very good approximation of the real thing and a great choice if you’re looking for something animal-free. It is comfortable to wear and feels good against the skin.

Upkeep of your MAZE harness is also easy – just clean it with a little gentle soap and a damp cloth, dry it thoroughly, and store it in the box it comes in.

Fit

The MAZE Multiway Harness is adjustable and, depending on your body shape and how you wear it, can either hug the contours of your body or hang more loosely.

Woman wearing the Bijoux Indiscrets Maze Multiway Faux Leather Body Harness over a grey top

The neck straps are adjustable from 23cm (9.05″) up to 44cm (17.32″), and the waist is adjustable from 130cm (51″) up to 151cm (59.44″). Considering it wraps around twice, the standard harness will work for anyone with up to around a 30″ waist. If you order the black, you’ll also get two 20cm (7.87″) extenders.

Back view of the Bijoux Indiscrets Maze Multiway Faux Leather Body Harness worn on a woman over a grey top

Though I like the inclusion of the extenders, I would really like to see this harness made available in a wider range of sizes. I’d also like to see Bijoux using models with more diverse body sizes. That’s why I’ve included the pictures of me wearing the harness above, so you can see how it looks on a different body type.

Ways to Style the MAZE Multiway Harness

Everything in the MAZE line is inspired by a BDSM/bondage aesthetic. As such, this incredibly sexy piece would be totally at home in a fetish club or at a sex party. Honesty, if you were feeling daring you could construct an entire outfit from nothing but MAZE harnesses and accessories.

Of course, there are also plenty of other ways you could style it! It could dress up a casual, jeans-and-t-shirt look or a simple dress, add a kinky twist to lingerie, or take your fetishwear to the next level. I’m currently planning an outfit involving this harness over a corset, paired with leather trousers and my gayest stompy boots.

The MAZE Multiway Harness is also pretty genderless. Thanks to the adjustability and the different ways it can sit on the body, plus all the different outfit permutations you can pair it with, it’s entirely possible to easily construct a femme, masc, or androgynous look with it.

I love this piece and its versatility. I think I’ll be getting a lot of wear out of it!

The MAZE Multiway Harness retails for €60 (£53/$64.)

Thanks to Bijoux Indiscrets for sending me the MAZE Multiway Faux Leather Body Harness to try. All views are, as always, mine. This post contains affiliate links.

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[Accessories Review] Bijoux Indiscrets MAZE Hand Harness & Leg Garter

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Years ago, I got to try out the cat ears and collar from Bijoux Indiscrets’ MAZE range and loved them both. This month, Bijoux was kind enough to send me another shipment of MAZE products to try out!

What is MAZE?

MAZE is Bijoux Indiscrets’ line of BDSM-themed vegan leather accessories including harnesses, headpieces, and kink gear such as cuffs, collars and leashes.

Bijoux Indiscrets MAZE box and interior packaging

Vegan Leather: Yay or Nay?

Every MAZE product is made of certified vegan polyurethane (PU) faux leather. PU leather is controversial because, though it is not made from animals, it is a type of plastic made from petrochemicals which have a terrible impact on the environment.

However, Bijoux strives to be a socially and environmentally conscious company and use recycled materials that would otherwise have ended up in landfill. For ethical and environmental reasons I have adopted a personal policy against buying any items made from new PU leather. But, since this material was already out there in the world and would otherwise have gone to waste, I feel comfortable wearing the MAZE range.

Ultimately, like real leather, you’ll have to consider your personal values and make your own decisions when it comes to PU leather.

Bijoux’s faux leather is soft and supple, looking and feeling remarkably like the real thing. The only thing missing is that unmistakeable leather smell (if someone finds a way to realistically synthesise that, please let me know!) Based on my experience with the MAZE pieces I’ve had for a few years, it wears well – softening up just a little over time – and requires minimal maintenance to stay looking good as new. If you need to clean your MAZE accessories, a damp cloth and a little gentle soap is all you need.

With all that said, let’s look at the first two items I received from the Bijoux Indiscrets MAZE range.

Bijoux Indiscrets MAZE Hand Harness

Woman's hand wearing Bijoux Indiscrets MAZE hand harness
(Please ignore my horrible nails. I’ve been too unwell to go for a manicure lately!)

The MAZE Hand Harness is a bracelet that’s worn around the wrist with an additional strap extending to a finger loop.

I really love these harnesses. They’re incredibly sexy in an unexpected way, just vanilla enough to wear in public but just kinky enough to draw some looks when you do. I like them as an easy way to enhance a simple all-black outfit with a little bondage-inspired twist. As someone who uses my hands a lot in an expressive way when I talk, I love having them accessorised like this.

If you like, you can also use the Bijoux Indiscrets MAZE Hand Harness as a kink tool. Why not clip them together to hold your partner’s hands behind their back, or attach a leash to one of them through the centre ring?

They’re comfy to wear, too, and do not impede my ability to use my hands normally.

Unfortunately, I have to say that the MAZE Hand Harness is not particularly size-inclusive. Although the wristband is adjustable from 6.3″ up to 7.87″, the finger loop is not adjustable and is pretty small. I have fairly small hands even for a cis woman, and the finger loop was slightly too snug to be truly comfortable. It did loosen a bit with wear, but it is right on the limit of what I could wear comfortably. Anyone with hands larger than mine – which includes a lot of AFAB people and the vast majority of AMAB people – would not be able to wear it comfortably.

I love the look and design of these products, but they’re made for thin people. This is very disappointing from an otherwise inclusive and forward-thinking brand.

A set of two hand harnesses retails for €35.

Bijoux Indiscrets MAZE Leg Garter

Woman's leg in Bijoux Indiscrets MAZE Leg Garter

The MAZE Leg Garter consists of two bands that sit just below the knee and around the ankle. A central strap runs up the back of the calf and connects them.

Again, I find them sexy in a unique way. The calves and lower legs are not areas we often think to accessorise, which I think is a shame. An accessory that draws the eye to that part of the body adds an unexpected focal point to a look.

The MAZE Leg Garters are versatile, too. They look great with stompy boots and fishnet tights, or equally good with a short skirt and killer heels. In fact, they’ll draw attention to your legs in just about any outfit and you can style them in tonnes of different and fun ways.

Again, though, size inclusion is a major problem. The band that goes around the knee is adjustable from 11.42″ to 13.78″. The ankle band is adjustable from 6.69″ to 9.84″. I can wear the leg garters on the loosest setting at the top and second loosest at the bottom. But again, a large majority of people with bigger bodies will simply not be able to wear them. Some MAZE products come with extenders, but these do not.

A set of two leg garters retails for €45.

Thanks to Bijoux Indiscrets for sending me these items to review! All views, as always, mine. Affiliate links appear in this post.

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[Lingerie Review] Lovehoney Fierce Siren Open Cup Dress

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Before I dive into today’s review, I wanted to give you folks a heads-up that I’m shortly going to be taking a hiatus from blogging. I’ve got a few pieces to finish that I have already promised to clients, and then I’ll be taking a long break. I’m not sure how long this will last but I expect it to be a few months at least. My reasons are complex and personal, but I’ve been doing this for over five years now without a lengthy break and I’m experiencing severe burnout. I need to stop for a decent length of time.

The site will obviously remain live so you can continue enjoying all my older content.

With that said, let’s get started on the review.

Lovehoney Fierce Siren Open Cup Dress

Fierce Siren Open Cup Dress on Lovehoney model
Fierce Siren Open Cup Dress on Lovehoney model

I’ve reviewed quite a few pieces from Lovehoney’s Fierce range at this point and loved the majority of them. The new Fierce Siren pieces combine the signature wet-look fabric and bondage-inspired aesthetics with fishnet for a whole new look.

I received the Fierce Siren Open Cup Dress. It’s a black fishnet dress that reaches down to just below the butt and is adorned with strappy detailing including suspender-style thigh harnesses.

It comes with a fishnet thong and a pair of wet look wrist cuffs linked with a delicate black chain (these are hilariously described as “wrist restraints for exploring bondage play”, which… no. You will not restrain anyone with these things, they are purely for decoration.)

I do love the aesthetic of this one. Fishnet is always a winner and the straps add structure and sex appeal. Since it’s completely open cup, you can use it to show off your breasts… or team it with a non-wired bra or some nipple pasties for a little more coverage, if you prefer.

Fit and Comfort

The Fierce Siren Open Cup Dress comes in three sizes: One Size (UK 8-16), Queen (UK 18-24), and Curve (UK 26-30). I currently wear a size 12 in most items and I received the One Size.

I really love the look of this dress, but I just can’t get on with its fit at all. The cups are, as is so often the case, designed with people with far smaller busts than me in mind. The result is that the dress isn’t just uncomfortable to wear, it’s actually painful because the wires are digging into my ribs so hard. But if I sized up, the rest of the piece would be far too big.

Apart from the cups, this piece is pretty forgiving sizing-wise. The fishnet mesh, waistband and lower band are all very stretchy, and all the various straps are adjustable with bra-style sliders. The collar also has three size options. If you’re small to average in the chest department, you’ll probably get a good fit from this dress with a little perseverence. If your boobs are bigger, though, I’d suggest skipping this one. You’re likely to end up feeling like your ribcage is being crushed by wires.

Comfort-wise, I have no other significant complaints. The mesh isn’t too rough and the straps are soft and wide enough to sit comfortably without digging in.

Verdict

Another one that looked really promising but just didn’t work in reality. Great style, great design, but let down by disappointing sizing and fit.

I’ll keep the cuffs, which are pretty cute and can be paired with many other outfits, but I’ll be passing the dress on.

The Fierce Siren Open Cup Dress retails for £39.99 ($49.99 US).

Thanks to Lovehoney for sending me this piece to review. Affiliate links appear in this post. All views, as always, are my own.

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[Lingerie Review] Fifty Shades of Grey Captivate Black Flocked Mesh Harness Body

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[Update 10/05/24: this product has been discontinued. I have removed dead links but left the post up for reference.]

Today’s review is of another offering from Lovehoney’s Captivate Fifty Shades of Grey lingerie and sex toys collection. This line has put out some real hits and a few (for me) misses, so I was excited to try one of the newest pieces in the range. Let’s take a closer look at the Captivate Mesh Harness Body…

Captivate Black Flocked Mesh Harness Body: Details and First Impressions

The Captivate Mesh Harness Body is actually a two-piece set, featuring a slip-on one-piece body and an elasticated harness. Though designed to be worn together, you could easily wear them separately. You could also mix and match, as the harness would pair well with many bodysuits, basques, or bra-and-knickers sets.

The sheer body is made of a semi see-through mesh with a flocked patterned section on either side of the deep V neck. It’s made of a blend of polyester, nylon, and elastane, with a 100% cotton gusset (much healther for your vagina!) It closes behind the neck in a halterneck style, and is backless from the waist up.

The accompanying harness is made up of thick black straps (a nylon/elastane blend) with gold coloured fastenings and adornments. It fastens around your neck in a collar style, and has a central strap running down the centre of your body and between your breasts. Three narrower bands form a waist-accentuating belt, and then lead down to garter-style thigh straps.

When I took the Captivate Harness Body out of its packaging, I had two initial thoughts. The first was “oh, this is pretty!” The second was “how the hell am I going to get into this thing?” There are a lot of straps and fastenings!

Fetish-Inspired Glam

The Captivate Harness Body clearly draws inspiration from some of the common aesthetics of BDSM. Interestingly, it does not strike me as something that the demure, inexperienced, and not-actually-into-BDSM Fifty Shades heroine Anastasia would wear (disclaimer: I only read the first book, so maybe the Ana of later in the series would…?)

The black strapping and O-rings make a strong statement and elevate this piece from a pretty but fairly generic body to a bold BDSM-inspired look. Lovehoney’s model holds matching floggers and is standing in a pose that suggests Femdom to me, but this outfit definitely speaks to my submissive heart. Perhaps it’s the collar neck or the way the straps feel a little like being in a gentle variation of bondage? These things only carry the meaning we give them, of course, so your mileage may vary.

I love the shape of this set when I wear both pieces together. The harness’s waistband creates a beautiful silhouette and the deep V-neck is great for those of us with a lot of cleavage. The patterned mesh is also utterly gorgeous (and, hilariously, reminds me of the wallpaper in my favourite fetish venue…)

Fit and Comfort

The bodysuit part of this set is a breeze to get into. Just step in and secure the halterneck as tight as you’d like it. If you have large boobs, like me, I recommend doing it up a little tighter to help keep them inside the suit! The harness is a little trickier. This does require some patience and to make sure everything is in the right place. I recommend fastening the waistband in front of your body first. Spin it around so the closure is at the back, do the collar next, then finally the legs.

The body is somewhat stretchy, and the halterneck part is adjustable. I ordered a medium, and it fits my size 10/12 body well. The harness is extremely adjustable in pretty much all the places, so you should be able to get a good fit with a bit of tweaking. Once you’ve got it sorted, putting it on the next time is much easier as most of the adjustments stay put when you take it off. This set is available in sizes from UK 6 up to UK 28.

The Captivate Harness Body set is free from wires and the material is lovely and soft, making it comfortable enough to wear all night. I also really appreciate the fact that it offers proper butt coverage and is not a thong!

The only downside is a minor one, and it’s that the three straps of the waistband tend to bunch together and twist. This means I have to manually untangle and adjust them every so often. Shortening the straps that connect the waistband to the leg garters helps, but does not entirely mitigate this problem.

Verdict

Absolutely gorgeous! The Captivate Harness Body set has grown on me the more I’ve worn it. It’s the kind of thing I’d wear to a night at the dungeon or a party with some likeminded kinky friends. My play partner has also expressed a fondness for this one, so I expect it might be getting an outing sometime soon…

The Captivate Mesh Harness Body set retails for £44.99 ($54.99 US).

Thanks to Lovehoney for sending me the Fifty Shades of Grey Captivate Mesh Harness Body to review. All views and pictures, as always, are mine. Shopping with my affiliate links sends a small commission my way and helps to keep the blog going at no additional cost to you!

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[Fetishwear Review] Lovehoney Fierce Diva Faux Leather Bustier Set

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[Update 10/05/24: this product has been discontinued. I have removed dead links but left the post up for reference.]

Sometimes, I know that an item is going to be a YES for me the moment I take it out of the packaging. The Diva Faux Leather Bustier Set from the Lovehoney Fierce range was one such piece.

Details and First Impressions

Close up of woman's butt in lace lingerie
Back of Lovehoney faux leather bustier
sexy faux leather thong crotchless knickers

The Fierce Diva Faux Leather Bustier Set comes with two pieces: the bustier and a pair of crotchless thong knickers. As with the other Fierce pieces I’ve tried recently, I was immediately impressed by the shiny wet-look material. These pieces are a great alternative if you don’t like the animal origins (or price tag) of leather, or the care and complexity (or sometimes price tag) of latex!

The Fierce Diva Faux Leather Bustier is plastic-boned for light structuring, and has a plunging neckline with lace-up detail. It’s adorned with a floaty lace “skirt” and matching floral lace detail on the bodice. It comes with removable suspenders, so you can wear it by itself or pair it with some sexy stockings. The back piece is semi-transparent mesh, designed to show just a hint of the skin underneath.

The Fierce Diva Faux Leather Bustier is just really, really my style. The soft fetish aesthetic of the black faux leather and structured shape, combined with the flirty and femme lace detailing, is exactly my jam. I think it looks sexy as hell, don’t you?

Fit and Comfort

The Fierce Diva Faux Leather Bustier fastens with a row of hooks and eyes up the back. The easiest way to get it on is to put it on backwards and fasten these at the front, then twist it around and pull the shoulder straps up last. (You could also theoretically pull it on over your head, but be careful not to snag the soft mesh or lace if you do that!)

It’s fairly comfortable to wear, as the fabric is soft and the mesh at the back increases the breathability. Definitely a less hot and sweaty option than actual leather!

This bustier set is available in sizes small (UK 6-8) up to 5x (UK 26-28). I wear a size 10/12, and the medium fits me well. The hook and eye fastenings offer three different size options, and the material is quite stretchy, so it will accommodate different bodies within that size range well. The shoulder straps are also adjustable.

Fierce is probably the most big-boob-friendly range Lovehoney have done yet. The Fierce Diva Faux Leather Bustier contains my G-cup chest easily, and enhances my cleavage without making me feel as though I’m about to fall out of it. With no wires and adjustable lacing, this bustier will accommodate a wide range of breast sizes.

The accompanying knickers? Honestly, I just don’t think I like either thongs or crotchless underwear very much. They’re not made for people with pubic hair or for people who don’t like fishing a string out of their butt crack all night long. I’ll probably never wear them again, if I’m honest. Instead, I’ll team the bustier with either some lacy knickers for a night in, or a pair of faux leather trousers and some high boots for a night out.

Versatile and Sexy

The Fierce Diva Faux Leather Bustier sits in that middle ground between clothing and lingerie where it could feasibly be either. I’d wear this in the bedroom with my partner or to a play party, but I’d also wear it for an alternative club night or even as a more risqué Halloween costume.

Just absolutely beautiful. I’m going to get a lot of wear out of this one.

The Fierce Diva Faux Leather Bustier Set retails for £59.99 ($74.99 US).

Thanks to Lovehoney for sending me this piece to review. Pictures and opinions are mine! Affiliate links appear in this post.

[Fetishwear Review] Lovehoney Fierce Wet Look Catsuit

Published on by Amy

I got my first catsuit not long after I started this blog, and it soon became a bit of a statement piece (alongside, of course, the signature ears). Wearing it to the Eroticon 2018 after-party and enjoying the looks and reactions it got was a particular highlight. So of course, when Lovehoney offered me the Wet Look Catsuit from their Fierce range, part of the Halloween “Come Alive at Night” collection, I simply had to say yes.

Feline Fierce: Wet Look Catsuit

Lovehoney model in black PVC wet look catsuit
Image: Lovehoney (used with permission)

The Lovehoney Fierce Wet Look Catsuit is made of a super-shiny, stretchy wet-look fabric that catches the light beautifully. It features a collar neck, fastening with bra-style clasps, and a cleavage-displaying cut out section at the front. It is adorned with mesh panels at the hips, which show a glimpse of skin.

The material is soft and comfortable to wear. Though the product page describes the fabric as “breathable”, it’s still skin-tight black fabric and does get very very hot after a while. Bear that in mind if you’re going to be in a very warm environment.

The Fierce Wet Look Catsuit fastens with a single, long zip that runs from the centre of the chest all the way to the top of the butt. It’s quick and easy to get into – just step into the legs, pull the arms on, and zip up. I found the collar a little difficult to fasten. If you do too, you might want to use a mirror or ask your partner for help.

With a zip pull at each end, you can choose how open or closed you want the front. You can also unzip the back for easier sex access without needing to take the whole thing off.

Skin-tight black clothing is typically associated with a dominatrix look. However, I’m much more inclined towards the subby end of the spectrum. Fortunately, clothing can be whatever you make it, and I feel like I can definitely use this piece to tap into aspects of my submissive self.

The playful kitten is one of the submissive archetypes I enjoying embodying. It’s something I’ve felt quite alienated from recently, after a pretty traumatic break-up with the partner who used to call me “Kitten”. But it’s a part of myself that I’m trying to get back in touch with. Slipping into the Lovehoney Fierce Wet Look Catsuit, I remembered why I love that role so much. I didn’t know that a catsuit could be one of the tools in the “healing my broken heart” toolkit, but here we are!

Fit

I requested a size M, and it fits my size 10/12 body well. If you’re between sizes, I’d recommend going a size down since the Fierce wet look garments are pretty generously stretchy and meant to fit snugly like a second skin.

Otherwise, the fit was good, and even contained my G-cup boobs without me falling out every time I moved! The only slight fit issue was that the legs were a little long for me. (I’m not that tall, and I have disproportionately short legs and a long torso for my height). Just something to be aware of if you’re on the shorter side.

Perfect for Halloween… or Any Night!

If you’re looking for a sexy Halloween costume, pair the Wet Look Catsuit with a pair of kitty ears or a mask and perhaps a pair of black boots, and you’re good to go. It’s also perfect for pet-play enthusiasts, those looking to add a sex kitten twist to their bedroom or club look, or anyone who loves skintight shiny things but can’t be bothered with the faff of latex (hi, that’s me!)

The Fierce Wet Look Catsuit retails for £44.99 ($54.99 US). UK readers can get 10% off this or any other purchase by using my Lovehoney discount code “AFF-COFFKINK10” at checkout.

Thanks to Lovehoney for sending me this piece to review. All views and photos, as always, are mine. This post contains affiliate links. Buying through them or using my coupon code helps to keep the blog going.

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[Fetishwear Review] Lovehoney Fierce Wet Look Cut-Out Mini Dress

Published on by Amy1 Comment

Halloween is coming, which can mean only one thing: scary kinky parties! (Okay, it also means I can stock up my cat ear collection from the fancy dress aisle in Sainsbury’s…) So naturally, I’m already planning my outfits for some adventures at the end of the month. That’s why I was excited to receive a few pieces from Lovehoney’s Come Alive at Night Halloween campaign.

I’ve tried a few pieces from the Fierce wet-look range before, and always found them sexy as hell. This time, it was the turn of the Fierce Wet Look Cut-Out Mini Dress.

First Impressions

Lovehoney wet look minidress product photo
Image: Lovehoney (used with permission)

I debated whether to categorise this piece as clothing or as lingerie. It’s definitely a dress, but it’s also extremely short – unless you’re maybe 5’2″ or under, this is not going to be something you can wear to an ordinary club or bar unless you want to show everyone your underwear.

I was immediately impressed with the shine of the fabric. It’s a stretchy polyester/elastane blend in a luscious deep black that catches the light when you move.

Fit & Comfort

The Fierce Wet Look Cut-Out Mini Dress opens completely at the front and then closes with a zipper up the middle. This makes it easy to get into. Just slip your arms into the sleeves and then zip up. You can choose how far you want to close the zipper, depending on how much skin you want to show off.

The collar closes with bra style clasps with three different settings to choose from, depending on how tight you want it. I found this a little difficult to fasten by myself when I couldn’t see what I was doing. Use a mirror or ask your partner to fasten it for you. Once the neck is fastened, you get a cut-out peephole neckline which is super sexy.

I got the medium, which fits my current size 10/12 body very well. With these pieces, I’d recommend sizing down rather than up if you’re between sizes, as they’re meant to cling like a second skin. This dress is surprisingly comfortable, since it has no wires and does not pinch or dig in anywhere. The fabric does make you very, very hot after a while, so be aware of that if you’re wearing it in a warm venue like a club.

Aesthetic

The Fierce Wet Look Cut-Out Mini Dress is a rare gem for me: a garment that works with my G-cup boobs, rather than fighting against them. It gives me cleavage for days, and I am, here for it!

I feel sexy in a vampy sort of way in this dress. I love the way it enhances the curve of my waist and hips and shows off my shape at its best. I’ll likely pair it with some killer heels, sexy stockings, and the signature ears for a full Halloween look. This range is well-named – it really does make me feel fiercely fabulous!

Verdict

This range is well-named – it really does make me feel fiercely fabulous! This dress is well-fitting, confidence-boosting, and just sexy as fuck. It’s an absolute yes from me.

The Lovehoney Fierce Wet Look Cut-Out Mini Dress retails for £34.99 ($42.99 US), and you can get 10% off your entire order with my code “AFF-COFFKINK10” (enter it at checkout).

Thanks to Lovehoney for sending me this piece in exchange for an honest review. All views and images are mine. This post contains affiliate links, which help me to keep funding the site!

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[Lingerie Review] Tyes By Tara Bombshell Bratye

Published on by Amy1 Comment

[Update 01/11/23: this product has been discontinued and the Tyes By Tara affiliate programme has closed, meaning I no longer make a commission if you purchase through my links.]

Sometimes the simplest things are the sexiest! And the brand’s elegant simplicity is one of the things I love about Tyes By Tara, a woman-owned company in the US selling a wide range of wearables, accessories, and other fun femme things. Today I’m trying out the Bombshell Bratye, part of the Bratyes range of cage bras.

My order from Tyes By Tara arrived beautifully packaged. The items were wrapped in pink tissue paper and tied with ribbons, and came with a handwritten card from my contact and some additional information about the company. This level of customer care and attention to detail is great to see.

What is a Bratye?

Bratyes are open cage style bras (or harnesses, if you prefer) that accentuate the wearer’s breasts without covering anything up. They are made of elastic, lace, or chain, depending on the design.

I received the Bombshell Bratye. This bra is made of soft, elasticated straps and is available in either black or white. The straps frame the breasts and the centre point is adorned with a pretty black satin bow.

Tyes By Tara Bombshell Bratye cage bra

It closes behind the neck in a halter style with a clasp, and at the back with a simple hook-on fastening.

Aesthetic and How to Wear

The Bombshell Bratye is wonderfully versatile. You could wear it over a tight dress or top for a risque twist to your night out look, add it to your favourite lingerie set, or even wear it by itself.

I also tried it with some nipple pasties I had in my collection (no, I’m not sharing that picture!) You could also complete the look with a set of sexy nipple pasties, pair it with some kitten ears for pet-play, add matching cuffs and a collar for a submissive look, or slip it on over latex or a catsuit for a Domme vibe. The possibilities are endless.

To me, the look is soft-bondage influenced while still being feminine. The bow softens the harness aesthetic, giving you a kink-inspired yet flirty and fun look.

Sizing and Fit

Bratyes are one-size-fits-most and are adjustable. The back strap features a simple slider adjustment, and the neck clasp features nine different loops for maximum adjustability. The elastic is also very stretchy.

Exact sizing info (i.e. minimum and maximum sizes) isn’t listed on the website. I’ve fed this back and suggested it, as I’m sure this would be useful to lots of you. To give you an idea, my current bra band size is 34″ and the Bombshell Bratye could easily go much bigger or smaller than this.

Since this bra/harness is open-cup, I did not run across the predictable “my boobs don’t fit” issue that comes with trying to wear one-size lingerie when you have G-cups. The stretchy elastic straps were more than adequate to frame my breasts. The beauty of this sort of design is that it’ll work for just about any chest size, whether you’re an AA or a GG.

Naturally, this style of bra doesn’t offer much in the way of support. But that’s not really the point of it! It doesn’t have any wires and, thanks to the softness of the elastic, is comfortable to wear.

Final Thoughts

When I looked at the Bratyes on the website, I was a little unsure. I loved the aesthetic but really didn’t think they’d fit me (or work on someone with boobs the size of mine.)

I’m very happy to be proven wrong, because the Bombshell Bratye is gorgeous. For me, it’s just the right combination of femme and kinky, as well as being well-made and comfy!

A super-sexy and versatile piece I’m sure I will wear again and again. Tyes By Tara have knocked it out of the park yet again.

Thanks to Tyes By Tara for sending me the Bombshell Bratye to review. All views are, as ever, mine.